A few years back, we were at a holiday party when the host grabbed my butt. I turned in horror and he observed to his friend that what he did was “probably not good.” I scooped up my spouse, explained that I wouldn’t be in the same room with that man again, and I’m happy to report to you all my life has been blissfully unwanted buttgrab free.

The most ideal situation is not having entitled men grab women when they feel they’ll get away with it. The second best outcome was mine: a partner who believed me and respected my desire not to be around someone I’ve deemed unsafe. But I do wonder if I should have made a bigger deal out of it, or sought to learn if this was his common course of conduct. I wondered how many other women deemed him unsafe. I’ve thought about that a lot as I dug into this case.

Lieutenant Colonel Hilton seemed to have a familiarity with women that was both unearned and unwanted. Perhaps to him it was no big deal - he trained as a urologist, someone who saw sensitive areas all day. Perhaps to him a body was a body. But it sure mattered to the women whose bodily autonomy he ignored or overbore over the course of his tenure overseas.

I relied heavily on the AFCCA opinion and an article on the matter from Stripes.

This episode involved discussion of sexual assault. There are a number of resources available for survivors and victim of sexual assault, including the Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network (RAINN). They offer a free, confidential national sexual assault hotline at 800-656-HOPE as well as an online chat option.

Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, please take a moment to share, rate and review it wherever you hit play today. I'm happy to receive constructive feedback or case suggestions at conductunbecomingpod@gmail.com. Join me over on Instagram @conductunbecoming!

Disclaimer: Conduct Unbecoming is a podcast where I get to talk about interesting crimes and cases that involve US military service members. I research, write, and produce the podcast myself… the opinions expressed are my own and, perhaps it’s obvious, Conduct Unbecoming is not approved, endorsed, or authorized by the Department of Defense. I am not a military JAG and have never been a military JAG. While I'm a practicing attorney, I don't do direct criminal defense. This podcast is a passion project, not legal advice or expert opinion.

It’s been my experience that women and girls receive a lot of messaging around domestic violence. We’re coached to recognize warning signs and to get out. In hushed conferences, we advise each other to set aside a little money, just in case. We tentatively poke at the edges of relationships to try and discern whether our friends are safe. I don’t offer this to suggest that men cannot or do not suffer from domestic violence, but to highlight that we tend to focus on teaching women what to do if they find themselves embroiled in a violent dynamic. But, in the cases of Air Force Technical Sergeants Jenkins and Edwards, messaging towards men about blending families, managing anger, and having difficult conversations would have been far more helpful to safeguarding the women in their lives.

For more information on intimate partner violence, I urge you to explore Alliance For Hope and their Family Justice Center Alliance. If you need help finding shelter in your area, please visit DomesticShelters.org. Last, but not least, many law schools and courthouses offer free legal assistance for people seeking protective restraining orders.

I relied exclusively on the AFCCA opinions (Jenkins/Edwards) for this episode, and checked the CAAF Daily Journal for updates about further appeals.

Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, please take a moment to share, rate and review it wherever you hit play today. I'm happy to receive constructive feedback or case suggestions at conductunbecomingpod@gmail.com. Join me over on Instagram @conductunbecoming!

Disclaimer: Conduct Unbecoming is a podcast where I get to talk about interesting crimes and cases that involve US military service members. I research, write, and produce the podcast myself… the opinions expressed are my own and, perhaps it’s obvious, Conduct Unbecoming is not approved, endorsed, or authorized by the Department of Defense. I am not a military JAG and have never been a military JAG. While I'm a practicing attorney, I don't do direct criminal defense. This podcast is a passion project, not legal advice or expert opinion.

There are parts of the drive up to the national park atop Haleakala that start to feel a little otherworldly. You’re angled up and climbing quickly, and you can lose sight of the horizon before you crest a hill and reacquaint yourself accordingly. The effects of altitude can be potent, and they can come on quickly. Best practice is, of course, to stop and park to avoid driving unsafely.

For Lieutenant Alkonis, pulling over simply wasn't an option and resulted in his minivan careening into parked cars and pedestrians, killing two people.

I accessed the Congressional record and articles from the Japan Times, American Military News, KUTV, Military.com, CBS, CNN, BBC, Salt Lake Tribune, and Task and Purpose.

Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, please take a moment to share, rate and review it wherever you hit play today. I'm happy to receive constructive feedback or case suggestions at conductunbecomingpod@gmail.com. Join me over on Instagram @conductunbecoming!

Disclaimer: Conduct Unbecoming is a podcast where I get to talk about interesting crimes and cases that involve US military service members. I research, write, and produce the podcast myself… the opinions expressed are my own and, perhaps it’s obvious, Conduct Unbecoming is not approved, endorsed, or authorized by the Department of Defense. I am not a military JAG and have never been a military JAG. While I'm a practicing attorney, I don't do direct criminal defense. This podcast is a passion project, not legal advice or expert opinion.

This case has a lot of moving parts, but in trying to write this introduction, I found I kept distilling it to the same point. Viewed through a relationships lens, this case highlights how far two women would go for the men they loved. One woman, grieving the loss of her beloved, vowed to work towards a more effective military justice system. The other helped hide her fugitive boyfriend and, after his arrest, tacked a sign that said “we have no comment” to her front door. But this case really isn’t about these women, but rather the reverberations from the repeated, but varied, criminal actions of Specialist Lee.

I accessed articles from Stripes (1)(2)(3), Army.mil, the Army Times, KOMO News (1)(2), KIRO 7, The News Tribune, Army CID, YouTube, King 5, and the Seattle Times.

This episode involved discussion of sexual assault. There are a number of resources available for survivors and victim of sexual assault, including the Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network (RAINN). They offer a free, confidential national sexual assault hotline at 800-656-HOPE as well as an online chat option.

This episode also mentions suicidal ideation. If you are experiencing thoughts of self-harm, I urge you to contact the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline by dialing 988. Help is also available via chat on their website.

Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, please take a moment to share, rate and review it wherever you hit play today. I'm happy to receive constructive feedback or case suggestions at conductunbecomingpod@gmail.com. Join me over on Instagram @conductunbecoming!

Disclaimer: Conduct Unbecoming is a podcast where I get to talk about interesting crimes and cases that involve US military service members. I research, write, and produce the podcast myself… the opinions expressed are my own and, perhaps it’s obvious, Conduct Unbecoming is not approved, endorsed, or authorized by the Department of Defense. I am not a military JAG and have never been a military JAG. While I'm a practicing attorney, I don't do direct criminal defense. This podcast is a passion project, not legal advice or expert opinion.

I have a pretty serious food allergy - one I feel compelled to share with restaurant staff and friends we visit with. It’s deeply unfun, but the alternative is, you know, anaphylaxis. The silver lining I’ve been able to identify is that it shows me how fiercely I’m loved by family and friends, who generously announce to others at parties that they, too, are responsible for not murdering me. For my servicemember spouse, I am equally fiercely protective of what comes into our home. We live in a state where recreational marijuana use is legal. Incidental exposure is a possible risk, so, when in doubt, we abstain or throw things out. It’s hardly a sacrifice and, with our efforts combined, I stay alive and my spouse stays employed. A real win-win.

If he’s to be believed, Navy Diver First Class Dillenburger could have really benefited from similar vigilance.

My primary source for this episode was the NMCCA opinion. As promised, I'm including a link to the Mathews v. Eldridge SCOTUS opinion.

This episode discussed substance use. If you, or someone you know is struggling with substance use, the SAMHSA National Helpline can be reached at 1-800-662-HELP and their treatment locator is available online.

Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, please take a moment to share, rate and review it wherever you listen to podcasts. I'm happy to receive constructive feedback or case suggestions at conductunbecomingpod@gmail.com. Join me over on Instagram @conductunbecoming!

Disclaimer: Conduct Unbecoming is a podcast where I get to talk about interesting crimes and cases that involve US military service members. I research, write, and produce the podcast myself… the opinions expressed are my own and, perhaps it’s obvious, Conduct Unbecoming is not approved, endorsed, or authorized by the Department of Defense. I am not a military JAG and have never been a military JAG. While I'm a practicing attorney, I don't do direct criminal defense. This podcast is a passion project, not legal advice or expert opinion.

Eight young men started the night at various happy events, celebrating the end of an arduous week of work. Then, they clashed in an unplanned roadside encounter. Although they'd been at parties, they had at least a combined four knives between them, some brandished, some reserved. The two groups struggled to find common ground in what had become a racially charged atmosphere. Fortunately, they found their common thread and the tension began to dissipate. Unfortunately, an intoxicated Private Hill was faster than the de-escalation and chose to strike, killing a fellow soldier.

I relied heavily on the ACCA opinion. I also referenced information from the New Tribune (1)(2), Army Times (1)(2), Military Justice for All, Reuters, Pierce County, Fox 13 Seattle, CNN, and ABC News.

Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, please take a moment to share, rate and review it wherever you listen to podcasts. I'm happy to receive constructive feedback or case suggestions at conductunbecomingpod@gmail.com. Join me over on Instagram @conductunbecoming!

Disclaimer: Conduct Unbecoming is a podcast where I get to talk about interesting crimes and cases that involve US military service members. I research, write, and produce the podcast myself… the opinions expressed are my own and, perhaps it’s obvious, Conduct Unbecoming is not approved, endorsed, or authorized by the Department of Defense. I am not a military JAG and have never been a military JAG. While I'm a practicing attorney, I don't do direct criminal defense. This podcast is a passion project, not legal advice or expert opinion.

There’s been a lot of discussion in the legal community about the culpability of those whose brains have not yet fully developed. I think that’s why college has such a deserved reputation for being formative. Your brain is still developing and you’re processing new experiences and shaping your worldview, giving you the chance to outgrow your high school, hometown self. The military offers many of America’s young women and men that same opportunity. I'd argue Senior Airman Greene-Watson didn’t make enough of that opportunity and jumped into a hasty marriage and fatherhood without dealing with his own issues around abusive power and control.

I relied heavily on the AFCCA and CAAF opinions. I also referenced information from briefing on the case (1)(2)(3).

For more information on intimate partner violence, I urge you to explore Alliance For Hope and their Family Justice Center Alliance. If you need help finding shelter in your area, please visit DomesticShelters.org. Last, but not least, many law schools and courthouses offer free legal assistance for people seeking protective restraining orders.

Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, please take a moment to share, rate and review it wherever you listen to podcasts. I'm happy to receive constructive feedback or case suggestions at conductunbecomingpod@gmail.com. Join me over on Instagram @conductunbecoming!

Disclaimer: Conduct Unbecoming is a podcast where I get to talk about interesting crimes and cases that involve US military service members. I research, write, and produce the podcast myself… the opinions expressed are my own and, perhaps it’s obvious, Conduct Unbecoming is not approved, endorsed, or authorized by the Department of Defense. I am not a military JAG and have never been a military JAG. While I'm a practicing attorney, I don't do direct criminal defense. This podcast is a passion project, not legal advice or expert opinion.

I've shared before that military moves force everyone into creating quick community ties so that everyone can keep their heads above water and feel tethered to their new duty station while they're miles away from the comforts of wherever feels like home. Where spouses and children are moving to new places and forging new relationships… that new community, if safe, can be vital in identifying signs of abuse that would otherwise be hidden or swept under the rug by frequent disconnection and moving. In this case, a new friendship brought to light the repeated sexual abuse of a young child.

I relied heavily on the AFCCA opinion and CAAF opinions (1)(2). I'm also providing a direct link to the AFCCA's 2002 opinions, where there really should be a second AFCCA opinion!

This episode involved discussion of sexual assault. There are a number of resources available for survivors and victim of sexual assault, including the Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network (RAINN). They offer a free, confidential national sexual assault hotline at 800-656-HOPE as well as an online chat option.

For more information on intimate partner violence, I urge you to explore Alliance For Hope and their Family Justice Center Alliance. If you need help finding shelter in your area, please visit DomesticShelters.org. Last, but not least, many law schools and courthouses offer free legal assistance for people seeking protective restraining orders.

Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, please take a moment to share, rate and review it wherever you listen to podcasts. I'm happy to receive constructive feedback or case suggestions at conductunbecomingpod@gmail.com. Join me over on Instagram @conductunbecoming!

Disclaimer: Conduct Unbecoming is a podcast where I get to talk about interesting crimes and cases that involve US military service members. I research, write, and produce the podcast myself… the opinions expressed are my own and, perhaps it’s obvious, Conduct Unbecoming is not approved, endorsed, or authorized by the Department of Defense. I am not a military JAG and have never been a military JAG. While I'm a practicing attorney, I don't do direct criminal defense. This podcast is a passion project, not legal advice or expert opinion.