TW: Rape & Abuse. What do we imagine a perpetrator of rape or abuse looks like?

I think most of us probably have some kind of picture in ourheads.

Someone frightening, obviously dangerous.

Someone we'd look at and think, there's something notright about that man.

But what happens when the person who causes harm doesn'tlook anything like that?

In this episode, I want us to think about the idea of the “perfect perpetrator” - the person we imagine we'd be able to recognise.

Because perpetrators can be people we know, like, and trust.

The colleague everyone gets on with. The helpful friend. Thecharming partner. The respected professional.

And if we're looking for the monster, we might miss theordinary behaviours that actually matter.

So rather than asking, “Can I tell whether this person is arapist?”, I want us to think about different questions.

What do they believe about consent?

How do they respond when someone says no?

What happens when they don't get what they want?

And what do they do when they're told they've caused harm?

I also talk about why understanding perpetrators can be partof preventing abuse because understanding someone isn't the same as excusing them.

And I invite you to try a little exercise of your own.

Because perhaps the question isn't:

“Who is the perpetrator?”

Perhaps it's:

“What kind of culture makes perpetration possible?”

I'd love you to follow along and join in the conversation.
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Please note that I do not answer any DM's. I'm not apsychologist or trauma therapist. If you need help with any of the themes from the podcast, please visit findahelpline.com and search for help in your country.

Thank you for being here and being part of the positivechange.

Luna x

What do we imagine a victim of rape or abuse looks like? In this episode, I want us to think about the idea of the “perfect victim” - the person who behaves exactly as we expect a victim to behave.

I share part of my own story from a time when, from theoutside, I probably didn't look much like a victim at all. I was partying, exploring my sexuality, making mistakes and trying to find some control after years of abuse.

People are complicated. We can make good decisions andbad decisions. We can look as though we're coping when we're falling apart underneath.

None of those things determines whether someone was raped or abused.

So what happens when the people we see, hear, or know don't fit the picture we've been taught to expect?

And what if there never was a “perfect victim” in the firstplace?

I'd love you to follow along and join in the conversation.
Please write any relevant and respectful questions on my social media comments section (under the podcast post).

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheManyMosaic

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/luna_louise_anna/

Please note that I do not answer any DM's. I'm not a psychologist or trauma therapist. If you need help with any of the themes from the podcast, please visit findahelpline.com and search for help in your country.

Thank you for being here and being part of the positivechange.

Luna x

TW: Rape & abuse.

“Why didn’t she call the police?” It can sound like a straightforward question. But what if reporting rape or abuse doesn’t feel like a straightforward route to safety?

In this episode, Luna shares her own experiences of reporting rape, abuse, and stalking, and explores some of the reasons a survivor may not report, or may report and still find the process incredibly difficult.

A conversation about fear, coercion, justice, responsibilityand the barriers survivors can face when trying to seek help.

I'd love you to follow along and join in the conversation.
Please write any relevant and respectful questions on my social media comments section (under the podcast post).

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheManyMosaic

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/luna_louise_anna/

Please note that I do not answer any DM's. I'm not a psychologist or trauma therapist. If you need help with any of the themes from the podcast, please visit findahelpline.com and search for help in your country.

Thank you for being here and being part of the positivechange.

Luna x