In this episode, I’m answering a question that came straight from the community:

“How do I stop measuring my worth by my progress compared to other people?”

If you’ve ever looked around and felt like everyone else is moving forward, careers, relationships, money, milestones, while you feel stuck or behind, this conversation is for you.

We talk honestly about why comparison feels unavoidable, why pretending it doesn’t exist doesn’t actually help, and how to stay rooted in your worth without tying it to speed, timelines, or what other people are doing.

In this episode, I share:

• Why noticing other people’s progress doesn’t mean you’re failing
• The difference between progress and worth
• Practical ways to stop using other people’s timelines as a measuring stick
• How to manage social media and information overload without guilt
• What it really means to stay grounded in who God says you are, even when life feels slow

This isn’t about rushing your journey or forcing positivity.

It’s about learning how to grow without competing, and remembering that your worth was settled long before the milestones arrived.

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This episode is the final stop in our self-worth series, and honestly, it felt right to end it this way.

Over the past few weeks, we’ve talked about why your worth can’t survive if it’s tied to things that change.

In this episode, I share three very real, everyday tools that have helped me stay grounded in my identity.

We talk about:

• Why the books you read matter more than you think when you’re unlearning shaky ideas about yourself

• How finding the right community can either reinforce your worth or quietly erode it

• And the importance of challenging negative thoughts instead of letting them run your life unchecked

I also recommend a few books during the episode, and I’ve listed them below if you’d like to explore them at your own pace.

Thank you for staying with me through this series. I hope it’s met you gently, and helped you anchor your worth somewhere steady.

📚 Books mentioned in this episode:

• Get Out of Your Head by Jennie Allen
• The Search for Significance: Seeing Your True Worth Through God's Eyes by Robert S. McGee
• Her True Worth: Breaking Free From a Culture of Selfies, Side Hustles, and People Pleasing to Embracing Your True Identity in Christ by Brittany Maher & Cassandra Speer
• Building on the Rock: Finding Your Identity in Christ by Peter Maiden

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Until next time 🤍

Most of us aren’t just struggling with low self-worth. We’re struggling with where we’re drawing it from.

Because without realising it, we've let people, outcomes, silence, success, and even failure decide how we feel about ourselves. One good day and we’re up. One bad interaction and everything crashes.

In this episode, I talk about how closeness shapes identity; how whatever you spend time with slowly becomes the voice in your head. And how staying close to God doesn’t just change what you believe, it changes what you internalise.

Press play when you’re ready to stop outsourcing your identity.

How do you hold on to your sense of worth in a world that keeps trying to name you, shape you, and measure you?

This episode is a simple but necessary conversation about where your worth truly comes from, and why it can’t be anchored to things that shift with seasons, trends, or people’s opinions.

I talked about:

• Why tying your worth to achievements, success, or roles will always leave you feeling unstable

• What it really means for your worth to come from a place that doesn’t change

• How to rethink the stories the world has told you about who you are

• A reminder of the identity God gave you before labels, titles, or expectations
  

If you’ve ever felt lost in who you are or unsure of what makes you valuable, this episode brings you back to the steady truth,

Plug in to find out what it is.

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This week’s episode is one of those heart-to-heart conversations we all need.

You know that feeling where you hit a big milestone and instead of feeling full, you feel strangely empty?

In this episode, we’re talking self-worth; what it actually is, why it feels so slippery sometimes, and why tying it to things that shake (people, achievements, beauty, success, validation… all of it) will always leave you anxious, restless, or constantly trying to “prove” yourself.

We’ll walk through:

• Why your achievements never feel like “enough”
• The celebrity stories that reveal the truth about emptiness, and
• How we can unlearn attaching our worth to things that constantly change.

Grab your earphones, get comfortable, and let’s unpack this together.

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First off, quick apology, the audio might sound a bit off today. I had a chest complication while recording, but I still wanted to show up regardless.

Now, today's episode is also about mirrors, but not the one in your bathroom, but the one glowing in your hand: social media.

We’re unpacking how doomscrolling slowly dents your self-esteem, how comparison sneaks in dressed as motivation, and why maybe your affirmations aren’t the problem — your reflection is.

Highlights:

• The internet is not your mirror.
• You’re probably not insecure; you’re just online too much.
• Social media gaslit your self-esteem, and you didn’t even notice.
• Maybe it’s not affirmations you need, just a break from the feed.

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You know how everyone keeps saying, “Speak it into existence,” like it’s a magic spell?

But what happens when you’ve said it, written it, repeated it… and you still don’t believe a single word?

In this episode, we’re talking about positive affirmations, and your brain’s arguing with your mirror pep talk.

We’ll unpack:

• How to actually feel the words you’re saying
• The link between self-trust and self-talk
• And how to rewrite those silent scripts that shape how you see yourself

Listen to the full episode to get the tea. Please, don't forget to like, share, and leave your reviews!

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Michael has done everything right. The sticky notes, the mirror talk, the “I am enough” chants that echo through his room every morning. But for some reason, life still isn’t giving what it’s supposed to give.

In this episode, we talk about why.

Why affirmations sometimes flop, why your brain doesn’t fall for empty words, and what to actually do instead.

If you’ve ever stared in the mirror, chanting “I am beautiful” while your brain side-eyed you like you're a liar, this one is for you.

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