In this episode, I’m answering a question that came straight from the community:

“How do I stop measuring my worth by my progress compared to other people?”

If you’ve ever looked around and felt like everyone else is moving forward, careers, relationships, money, milestones, while you feel stuck or behind, this conversation is for you.

We talk honestly about why comparison feels unavoidable, why pretending it doesn’t exist doesn’t actually help, and how to stay rooted in your worth without tying it to speed, timelines, or what other people are doing.

In this episode, I share:

• Why noticing other people’s progress doesn’t mean you’re failing
• The difference between progress and worth
• Practical ways to stop using other people’s timelines as a measuring stick
• How to manage social media and information overload without guilt
• What it really means to stay grounded in who God says you are, even when life feels slow

This isn’t about rushing your journey or forcing positivity.

It’s about learning how to grow without competing, and remembering that your worth was settled long before the milestones arrived.

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This episode is the final stop in our self-worth series, and honestly, it felt right to end it this way.

Over the past few weeks, we’ve talked about why your worth can’t survive if it’s tied to things that change.

In this episode, I share three very real, everyday tools that have helped me stay grounded in my identity.

We talk about:

• Why the books you read matter more than you think when you’re unlearning shaky ideas about yourself

• How finding the right community can either reinforce your worth or quietly erode it

• And the importance of challenging negative thoughts instead of letting them run your life unchecked

I also recommend a few books during the episode, and I’ve listed them below if you’d like to explore them at your own pace.

Thank you for staying with me through this series. I hope it’s met you gently, and helped you anchor your worth somewhere steady.

📚 Books mentioned in this episode:

• Get Out of Your Head by Jennie Allen
• The Search for Significance: Seeing Your True Worth Through God's Eyes by Robert S. McGee
• Her True Worth: Breaking Free From a Culture of Selfies, Side Hustles, and People Pleasing to Embracing Your True Identity in Christ by Brittany Maher & Cassandra Speer
• Building on the Rock: Finding Your Identity in Christ by Peter Maiden

💬 Let’s stay connected:

TikTok: @ayanpella

IG: @ayanpella

X: @ayanpella_

Email: ayantemeetope@gmail.com

If this episode resonated with you, please consider subscribing, leaving a review, or sharing it with someone who might need it.

Until next time 🤍

Most of us aren’t just struggling with low self-worth. We’re struggling with where we’re drawing it from.

Because without realising it, we've let people, outcomes, silence, success, and even failure decide how we feel about ourselves. One good day and we’re up. One bad interaction and everything crashes.

In this episode, I talk about how closeness shapes identity; how whatever you spend time with slowly becomes the voice in your head. And how staying close to God doesn’t just change what you believe, it changes what you internalise.

Press play when you’re ready to stop outsourcing your identity.