Dan Smitley got laid off by someone he called a friend. Then he caught himself coaching her on how to do it better.

This Soul Session is about the inflection point that does not come with a clean ending. Dan has been laid off twice, both times by people close to him. The second time, an accidental screen-share showed him what they really thought.

We get into:
- Why the layoff is the easy part, and the chaos after is the real work
- The "five whys" Dan uses to find his core when everything is uncertain
- Separating how you make money from how you add value to people
- Why faith and family drive every decision he makes
- The cost of being the guy who always helps, even when he is the one who needs it

At 21, Tiffany Chen turned down a six figure Wall Street offer on the spot, with no plan for what came next. Six years later, deep inside a fast moving AI startup that looked perfect on paper, she found herself asking the same quiet question: what are we all actually doing here?

In this Soul Sessions, Tiffany walks Damon through two leaps of faith that shaped her life and the inner compass that made both possible. They get into the golden handcuffs that keep high performers stuck, the immigrant household where security came first, the role her Christian faith plays as a compass, and the ten year journaling practice she uses to check in with herself every six months.

This is a conversation about the difference between climbing a ladder and choosing your own direction, and about answering the one question most people in privileged positions never stop to ask: how much is enough?

No bow on the end. Just an honest look at what it costs to bet on yourself.

You already know what's not working. The job, the habit, the relationship, the version of yourself you've outgrown. So why is it so hard to release it?

In this episode of Soul Sessions, Damon sits down with Stephanie Coleman to unpack the uncomfortable truth most people miss: you don't hold onto things that have no value. If you can't let go, it's because something in there is still paying you back, just not in the currency you'd admit out loud.

Inside this conversation:

• The hidden payoff that keeps you stuck in familiar pain • Why your nervous system reads "toxic but known" as safer than "better but unknown" • The single question that exposes what you're actually getting from the thing you say you want to release • How to tell the difference between a season worth protecting and one you've already outgrown

If you've been white-knuckling a chapter that's clearly over, this one is for you.

Connect with Stephanie: stephaniecoleman.com

There's a museum 15 minutes from my house. I told my wife I wanted to go for four years. This weekend, I finally went.

It wasn't what I thought it would be.

In this solo Soul Session, I'm sitting with something that's been on my mind. Why does the idea of a thing so often feel better than the actual thing? The relationship we imagine. The vacation we plan. The job in tech we chase. The buildup carries a kind of magic that the reality rarely matches.

I unpack a simple framework I keep coming back to. Disappointment is the gap between expectation and reality. The bigger the gap, the bigger the letdown. And most of us are walking around with expectations sitting way above what life is going to deliver.

A few things I'd love for you to sit with after listening: What is something you've been anticipating for years that you still haven't done? If you finally did it, would the reality match the version living in your head? And where in your life right now might the idea be the best part?

If this sparks one honest conversation with someone you trust today, it did its job.

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Imran Syed sold a company that had been around for over a decade. He fought to keep the deal alive, became CEO to bring it back from the brink, and when it finally closed he turned to his wife, said "I did it," and cried.

Then he looked up and saw the next mountain.

In this episode of Soul Sessions, Imran takes us through the inflection points that shaped him. Switching five schools in five years as his family migrated from Saudi Arabia to Canada. Learning at ten years old that the only constant is the person in the mirror. Watching soccer from the sidelines as the only kid who looked like him, and holding onto it as the one thing that felt like home.

We talk about what it really feels like to go from leading 150 people to leading no one, why he runs toward the things that scare him, and the idea that quietly reframes everything: there is no mountaintop. No nirvana. No end state. Just movement, and the choice to be at peace with it.

If you are in an uncertain season, this one is for you.

Guest: Imran Syed, founder of Hatchproof, building a new way to think about performance and the whole human at work.

Soul Sessions explores the inflection points that shape who we become. New episodes this season focus on curiosity and the people who keep showing up through uncertainty.

Most leadership advice tells you what good looks like. Almost none of it tells you how to access it when your body is in survival mode.

In this Soul Sessions Live, I sit down with Ann De Passos and Kim, two leadership coaches who have spent over fifteen years working with leaders, teams, and organizations through change. We get into:

• Why frameworks like the Five Dysfunctions and psychological safety stop short
• What's actually happening in your body during a big transition (layoff, new baby, career pivot, move)
• The difference between a ventral state and a survival state, and how to tell which one you're in
• Three practices you can start in the next 45 minutes to make better decisions under uncertainty
• Why urgency feels like productivity, and what it's actually costing you

If you're in the middle of a transition right now, or you're leading people who are, this one is for you.

Their experience session is linked in the comments for anyone who wants to feel the difference, not just hear about it.

Crystal Beachum Salako got promoted in tech sales four months after coming back from maternity leave — while breastfeeding a ten-month-old between cold calls. This is how she did it, and what it cost.

She spent six months getting rejected from customer success roles before a stranger named Penelope helped her see what she'd been missing: she'd been selling her whole life. Girl Scout cookies. Basketball fundraisers. Recruiting herself to colleges. She just hadn't learned to call it sales.

In this episode of Soul Sessions, we sit down with Crystal to talk about her path from would-be middle school teacher to tech sales — and what happened when she came back from maternity leave to a quota, a newborn, and a laptop she had to operate one-handed. Four months later, she got promoted.

Some people collect stories. Rio has survived them.

In 1998, when he was barely old enough to walk, his parents hid him somewhere in their Jakarta apartment, a room, a box, they still can't agree on the detail, while Chinese-Indonesian homes and businesses were being destroyed in some of the worst racial riots in Southeast Asian history. His father, one of only four Chinese students ever admitted to the "MIT of Indonesia," was beaten, bullied, and called slurs his entire childhood. He fought off five men in a single afternoon. And somehow, Rio says, his dad never let a single drop of that hatred live inside him.

That lesson shaped everything.

At 13, Rio won a one-in-thousands scholarship to Singapore. By his late twenties, he was walking away from three corporate jobs to start a company from scratch. And less than 24 hours before his own wedding, instead of rehearsing vows or greeting family, he was at his co-founder's apartment writing code, a decision he admits he still hadn't fully explained to the woman he was about to marry.

Then came Maui. A four-day babymoon. Day two, something felt off. What started as a precautionary ER visit ended with a private medical jet flying below 30,000 feet to Oahu, five days of praying his wife could hold on, and their son Rafael arriving four months early at two pounds, lungs too small to make a single sound.

In this conversation, Rio walks through all three chapters, the riots, the wedding-day bet, and the NICU, and what it actually costs to come out of each one softer instead of harder.

If you've ever had to be the "stable one" while the world quietly fell apart, this episode will stay with you.