This week Kylene and Patrick discuss 3 mindsets that will set you up for success in recovery and how those impact the betrayed partner and the addict in their journeys.

1. I am more than my circumstances
2. Healing is possible for everyone, but requires change and change is uncomfortable
3. There is something better that is available to me

If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql

Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8

Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2

For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org

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In today’s episode, Jackie Newman shares about the journal/workbook she co-authored called Unapologetically You.

Unapologetically You is your personal companion on a transformative journey towards inner peace, emotional healing, and self-awareness. This journal offers a collection of guided prompts, exercises, and reflective spaces to help you reconnect with your true self, heal old wounds, and embrace the fullness of who you are.

This journal is a reminder that healing is not a destination, but a beautiful, ongoing process. Step into the best version of yourself and begin your journey of healing today.

Today we walk through the 5 sections of the journal including:

• Safety
• Connection to Self
• Grounding and Self-Care
• Journaling
• Inspiration

And share how the journal helps betrayed partners feel more grounded and move forward on their healing journey

Conference:https://csbdhopeforhealing.org

Jackies website: https://www.ampersandintegrative.com

Barnes and Noble book link: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/unapologetically-you-jackie-newman/1147552402?ean=9798317694548

Lulu: https://www.lulu.com/shop/jackie-newman-and-grounding-grace-co/unapologetically-you/paperback/product-q6dk69y.html?srsltid=AfmBOoqyShlvGtOuXn_ULA7SWh7iWJ_yVMOpVkjLX3sznvolFCNU8Zw0&page=1&pageSize=4

Previous episode with Jackie Newman:

Prepping for disclosure: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-sex-addiction-support-betrayal/id1674653111?i=1000634888047

Today’s episode is a speech that Kylene was asked to present about overcoming adversity. She shares some of her own story as well as 3 keys she notices helps her and others move through painful experiences: Value, Clarity and Courage —> Knowing who you are, getting clarity on the future, and having courage to take steps towards it.

She shares these 5 truths:

1. You are not responsible for the behavior, reactions or thinking of others.
2. You are responsible for your own behavior - show up with integrity every day - if you can go to bed at the end of the day and say - I did my best - that’s all you can do
3. Mistakes are ok when we take responsibility for them
4. You are more than your experiences - in other words, negative things that happen in our lives do not have to become our identity
5. You are worthy and valuable just as you are - because you exist - and you don’t have to accomplish anything for that statement to be true.

Episode on self confidence vs self worth: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-sex-addiction-support-betrayal/id1674653111?i=1000708437532

Episode with future you meditation: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-sex-addiction-support-betrayal/id1674653111?i=1000611570008

If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql

Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8

Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2

For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org

Follow Kylene:

On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune

In todays episode, Patrick shares his thoughts on 3 important principles for a sex addict to remember in recovery:

1. It takes time - don’t expect your betrayed partner to recover from discovery quickly. There are many factors that play into their ability to heal and everyone’s relationship and trauma level is different. Healing and relational reconciliation is a lifelong commitment.
2. Demonstrate consistency so you can create safety for your partner.
3. Be proactive. Make sure your motivation comes internally - your spouse shouldn’t have to push you to move through your own recovery.

If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql

Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8

Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2

For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org

Follow Kylene:

On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune

Sometimes divorce isn’t just admissible, it’s beneficial. When a relationship hinders one or both parties from moving forward in health, divorce may be the best choice.

Kylene and Patrick know that there are many reasons that a couple may struggle with this decision including faith based guilt, internalized people pleasing, financial reasons, children etc… This is an nuanced conversation, and one that a single episode certainly will not cover in its entirety.

We are not here to tell you what to do. Instead, we are sharing some situations where divorce may be the healthiest option (outside of abusive situations which we do not focus on in this episode).

We hope this episode takes the pressure off, lets you take a deep breath and know that if you are heading down the path of divorce, there is nothing wrong with you. A relationship takes TWO people fully committed to work.

If you are listening to this episode and struggling with this decision we are sending you so much love.

If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql

Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8

Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2

For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org

Follow Kylene:

On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune

On IG: @KyleneTerhune

In this episode, Patrick explores the critical role that habits, routines, and daily discipline play in deep, lasting recovery. He emphasizes the value of fully engaging with all the tools and resources available in whatever recovery plan or program you're following. Patrick also shares insights on the power of journaling and the importance of being intentional when replacing old, unhealthy patterns with new, life-giving ones.

If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql

Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8

Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2

For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org

Follow Kylene:

On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune

If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql

Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8

Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2

For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org

Follow Kylene:

On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune

On IG: @KyleneTerhune

In this weeks episode, Kylene and Patrick discuss how patterns of thinking and behavior like: compartmentalization, the ability to feel deeply, and being someone who’s able to take action and get things done, can be great strengths in recovery, but those same strengths can also be our weaknesses in a different scenario.

They discuss how understanding our wounds, identifying the filters we view life through, and processing our emotions can help us challenge our own perspective so we can choose the healthy middle.

If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql

Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8

Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2

For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org

Follow Kylene:

On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune