00:00 – 01:12 | Intro: Our 5-Day Dating, 7-Week Engagement Story
Ali and Josh set the stage with their whirlwind love story and how their honeymoon season never ended (just with more laundry and fewer naps). 😅

01:13 – 03:25 | Marriage Is Supposed to Be Fun (and Holy)
Life = fun. And so does marriage. The goal? Days of heaven on earth built on truth, love, and laughter.

03:26 – 06:05 | Encouraging Your Husband as a Leader
Ali shares how she learned to let Josh lead even after years of independence.
✅ Speak to the king in him
✅ Ask for his wisdom
✅ Submit with confidence, not fear

06:06 – 08:30 | Submission ≠ Oppression
Josh breaks down biblical submission as yieldedness, not control. It’s rooted in unity and love not power plays or domination.

08:31 – 10:45 | What It’s Like to Lead a Strong Woman
Josh shares his journey learning to communicate, handle conflict, and “reel in the rocket britches” when needed with grace, prayer, and patience. 🙃

10:46 – 13:35 | Tone, Timing & Communication That Builds Trust
Ali and Josh share real-life moments where tone mattered more than truth and how small shifts in language can diffuse major tension.

13:36 – 15:22 | Communication Tips for Real-Life Conflict
✨ Learn to pause before responding
✨ Ask if your spouse wants advice or just to be heard
✨ And yes... sometimes the best advice really is: fight naked 😂

15:23 – 17:00 | You’re Not a Tree You Can Change
Just because you were raised a certain way doesn’t mean you’re stuck. God gives us wisdom to soften, grow, and lead better with Him.

17:01 – 18:40 | Listening > Fixing: The Husband’s Superpower
Josh shares how learning to just listen instead of jumping into problem-solving mode has radically shifted their marriage dynamic.

18:41 – 19:59 | Final Thoughts: Keep It Holy. Keep It Fun.
Ali & Josh wrap with a prayer over your marriage and a reminder that joy, intimacy, and laughter are sacred too.

Plus, the real reason Josh always tells couples to “fight naked.”

🎙 Welcome + Fun Facts
Josh and Ali open with their love story—dating after 5 days, engaged in 7 weeks, and still thriving 16 years (and 4 kids) later. Why this episode is one of their spiciest yet.

[01:16 – 04:20]
👰 “Always Fit in Your Wedding Dress” – What Ali’s Mom Taught Her
Ali shares the wisdom her mother—a marriage and family therapist—gave her during her wedding dress fitting, and how it shaped her view on health and marriage.

[04:21 – 06:40]
💪 Health, Confidence & Bringing Your Best to the Marriage
Ali opens up about body image struggles, performance culture as a young athlete, and why feeling healthy directly impacts how she shows up in her marriage.

[06:41 – 09:30]
🤵 Josh’s Perspective on the “Dad Bod” & Loving Your Wife Well
Josh shares why men also need to bring their best—physically and emotionally—for their wives and families. Longevity, libido, and leading well.

[09:31 – 12:00]
🧬 Hormones, Libido & Gut Health
Ali discusses how hormone shifts can affect marriage (especially intimacy), and how she’s actively supporting her health through gut-focused tools and mindset.

[12:01 – 14:20]
💄 Why Glam Still Matters
The backstory on how Ali discovered the power of getting ready with intention every day—and how it brought new energy into their marriage and business.

[14:21 – 16:00]
🧥 Intentional Dressing & Everyday Respect
Why it’s not about vanity—it’s about presenting yourself with honor for your spouse and the Kingdom. Showing up well matters.

[16:01 – 17:30]
🔥 Hot Take: Plan Your Own Anniversary If You Must
Ali challenges wives: stop waiting on your husband to plan everything. Book the hotel. Make the dinner reservation. Don’t let bitterness steal celebration.

[17:31 – 19:00]
🎉 Marriage Rhythms That Keep the Spark Alive
Their anniversary & birthday reset rhythm, the 24-hour getaway rule, and how it’s blessed their marriage through every season.

[19:01 – 21:00]
💬 Final Encouragement: Start Today
Josh and Ali wrap up with a bold call to action for husbands and wives to take ownership of their health, habits, and intimacy. It’s never too late to turn things around.

0:00 – Welcome Back & A Quick Recap
Josh and Ali dive right in with the backstory behind their whirlwind love story—five days dating, seven weeks to marriage, sixteen years and four kids later.

1:35 – Why Making Time to Connect Matters
The heart of this episode: why weekly connection (even in short bursts) can radically shift the tone of your marriage.

3:10 – Shared Activities, Even If It’s Not Your Thing
Josh talks about finally saying yes to Ali’s workouts—and the surprising joy of trying something new (even when you don’t love it).

5:45 – Morning Gym Dates & Small Changes That Matter
They share how even 15 minutes together in the morning has created intimacy and consistency during a busy season.

7:08 – Boundaries, Kids, and Mandatory Date Nights
No phones, no kids, no finances. Just undistracted time with each other. The simple rule that saved their connection.

9:45 – Real Talk: Where This All Started
Ali shares the bold moment a friend called her out and told her she’d be divorced if not for Joshua—and how public date nights started that very week.

11:20 – Don’t Wait for a Crisis to Create a Rhythm
How they’ve built sustainable rhythms that bless their marriage (and their parenting)—and why boundaries are the blessing.

13:50 – Set the Standard for Your Kids
Your kids are watching. Ali and Josh share how their littlest, Jake, responds to their date nights—and how it models love, consistency, and joy.

15:15 – Call to Action: Start Now
Pick a day. Set it. Stick to it. Even six weeks of consistency will transform the way you love, listen, and show up for each other.

17:00 – Final Encouragement & Outro
Why this one simple strategy can change everything—and how to invite God into your rhythms and relationship.

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