Confidence is one of the most sought-after qualities in professional and personal life, but it’s also one of the most misunderstood. In this episode of Headflex, co-hosts Rebecca and Diane explore what really makes us feel confident, and why the advice to “just believe in yourself” so often misses the point.

Drawing from years of coaching experience, they reveal the three biggest myths about confidence that regularly come up in coaching sessions like the idea that only extroverts are confident, or that fear must disappear for true confidence to emerge. The conversation covers why confidence is not a fixed personality trait, but a contextual skill that grows with self-awareness, repetition, and experience.

Rebecca and Diane share practical stories, language tips, and somatic exercises to help you shift your internal narrative, quiet your self-doubt, and find your own authentic confidence style, no matter your workplace, personality, or life stage. Whether you’re recovering after maternity leave, stepping back into work post-illness, or just trying to speak up more in meetings, there’s advice here for you.

As always, the episode wraps up with thought-provoking self-coaching questions to help you reflect and take action right away.

Here are the highlights:

01:16 Confidence isn’t a personality trait, but a skill you can grow

02:47 Myth 1: Extroverts aren’t the only confident people

05:53 Why comparison in the workplace is a confidence trap

10:16 Language patterns that undermine your confidence and what to say instead

12:37 Myth 2: Confidence is not the absence of fear, how to work with fear

15:01 Real coaching example: accepting nerves in high-stakes situations

19:21 The power of small actions and repetition in growing confidence

20:12 Myth 3: You’re ‘either confident or not’, labels often hold us back

23:18 How returning from maternity or sick leave impacts confidence

24:08 Focus on strengths to rebuild confidence, instead of weaknesses

26:00 Letting go of outdated labels and beliefs from the past

27:27 Why “be more confident” is a vague and unhelpful feedback goal

28:42 Three self-coaching questions for building confidence.

If you're curious about coaching, Headflex offers a range of coaching programmes to suit different needs. 1:1 coaching, team coaching, group coaching and their Headflex in Residence programme.

And, if time management is a challenge in your business then drop them a note and ask for details about their Headflex Lunch and Learn sessions. Visit www.headflex.co.uk

Connect with us at Headflex:

Email: hello@headflex.co.uk.

Website: www.headflex.co.uk

Instagram: www.instagram.com/head.flex/

Connect with Rebecca Walker: www.linkedin.com/in/rebeccawalker13/

Connect with Diane Williams: www.linkedin.com/in/dianewilliams1

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In a world where we feel busier than ever, time management can be a huge challenge. Join co-hosts Rebecca and Diane in the latest episode of Headflex, to dive deep into the topic of time management, a recurring challenge in the coaching world, too.

They explore why we often feel like the day controls us, common obstacles we face, and how real self-awareness, rather than simply new tools, is the secret ingredient to managing time effectively. As always, the episode concludes with self-coaching questions that encourage you to reflect and find strategies that work for you.

Here are the highlights:

03:07 What is time management all about (it can be deeply personal)

01:06 The pressure to ‘do more’ often comes from management

09:21 Modern work environments like remote work, can make focus difficult

01:27 There are bigger challenges for those who are neurodivergent

05:36 Identifying tasks you procrastinate or avoid entirely, and uncover why.

13:03 Be careful not to absorb others’ stress or assume deadlines are urgent without clarification.

22:54 Techniques like the Eisenhower Matrix and Pomodoro Technique can be useful once you understand your patterns.

If you're curious about coaching, Headflex offers a range of coaching programmes to suit different needs. 1:1 coaching, team coaching, group coaching and their Headflex in Residence programme.

And, if time management is a challenge in your business then drop them a note and ask for details about their Headflex Lunch and Learn sessions. Visit www.headflex.co.uk

Connect with us at Headflex:

Email: hello@headflex.co.uk.

Website: www.headflex.co.uk

Instagram: www.instagram.com/head.flex/

Connect with Rebecca Walker: www.linkedin.com/in/rebeccawalker13/

Connect with Diane Williams: www.linkedin.com/in/dianewilliams1

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After 30 episodes, Headflex celebrates its first anniversary! Join co-hosts Rebecca Walker and Diane Williams as they revisit the stories, standout moments, and lessons learned from a year of real-time coaching conversations. This episode is a blend of gratitude, reflection, and candid discussion about personal growth, the impact of brave guests, and the power of partnership in professional life. Whether you’re a longtime listener or new to the podcast, pour yourself a cuppa and settle in for an honest, uplifting conversation about workplace hot topics, coaching insights, and looking ahead to the next chapter.

Here are the highlights:

00:00 Reflecting on an amazing year of podcasting

04:54 The problems associated of isolation and remote work

07:11 Fear of failure resonates deeply, particularly in sales;

12:07 Encourage listening to discussions on improving workplaces for people with ADHD through small, impactful changes.

13:40 Thanking guests, especially Andrew Blair, for sharing insights

16:45 Reflection on self-compassion and caring less with age

20:20 The Headflex mission is to make coaching more accessible, please share with friends and colleagues.

Connect with us at Headflex:

Email: hello@headflex.co.uk.

Website: www.headflex.co.uk

Instagram: www.instagram.com/head.flex/

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As another year draws to a close, why does the pressure to reinvent ourselves, set big goals, and “start fresh” feel so intense? In this Headflex episode, co-hosts Rebecca and Diane pause the hustle, inviting you to join them in a gentle, honest reflection on the year that’s just ended.

Whether you’re craving a mindful way to say goodbye to 2025, hoping to set intentions for the coming year, or simply seeking a quieter space after a whirlwind December, Rebecca and Diane walk you through self-coaching questions, share personal stories, and offer insights for bringing perspective and intention into 2026.

Pour yourself a cuppa, grab your notebook, and settle in. This episode is dedicated to helping you reset, reflect, and carry forward what truly matters, one gentle, intentional pause at a time.

Here are the highlights:

00:00 Year-end podcast reflection before the new year

03:18 Reflect on your successes and what makes you proud

07:27 Focused on mindful work, finding joy in projects, and prioritising meaningful pursuits for next year

11:12 Health, self-discovery, and building bravery through support

15:38 Prioritise gentleness, reflection, and intentionality over rushing

16:50 Excited and intentional for the upcoming year, focusing on pacing and creating space for growth.

Connect with us at Headflex:

Email: hello@headflex.co.uk.

Website: www.headflex.co.uk

Instagram: www.instagram.com/head.flex/

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Why can the end of the year feel so emotionally charged - equal parts festive, frantic, and, for many, deeply stressful? In this Headflex episode, co-hosts Rebecca Walker and Diane Williams get real about the pressures of the holiday season. They share practical ways to manage workplace and personal expectations, flex your boundaries, and avoid ending up burnt out on December 24th.

Drawing from their coaching expertise, Rebecca and Diane discuss how tiredness, loneliness, and the ‘shoulds’ of the holidays can weigh on us, and why understanding your ‘stress signature’ is the starting point for real change. This episode serves up actionable insights and reflection questions to help you thrive, not just survive the festive period.

Here are the Highlights:

00:00 Intro: How to survive the stressful festive season

00:22 Exploring common workplace and home stressors

02:31 How to deal with the pressure of expectations

03:05 The power of social connection

04:16 Why ‘shoulds’ create more stress

05:19 The introvert/extrovert divide. Social battery drain versus loneliness and FOMO

06:18 How to stop overcommitting at work & socially

07:47 Recognising your personal ‘stress signature’

09:12 Creating safe spaces to talk honestly and support each other

10:14 Reframing deadlines: Can tasks wait until January?

12:22 Identifying unnecessary tasks (at work and at home) to reduce drain

13:39 Why a January lunch might beat squeezing in another event

17:14 Joyful priorities, creating pauses, finding nourishment

19:06 Christmas dinner plans and how food connects and nourishes

Connect with us at Headflex:

Email: hello@headflex.co.uk.

Website: www.headflex.co.uk

Instagram: www.instagram.com/head.flex/

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How often do you speak kindly to yourself after making a mistake or do you tend to be your own harshest critic? In this episode of Headflex, co-hosts Rebecca and Diane explore the powerful, but often misunderstood topic of self-compassion. Discover why being kinder to ourselves isn’t just “soft” or self-indulgent it’s scientifically proven to boost resilience, emotional regulation, and wellbeing.

Rebecca and Diane bust some big myths about self-compassion and share their coaching insights on why so many of us struggle to treat ourselves with the same kindness we offer others. Whether you’re wrestling with high expectations, tough self-talk, or feeling “stuck,” this episode will help you shift your perspective, boost your confidence, and unlock new ways to grow at work and beyond.

Here are the Highlights:

00:00 Introduction: Why self-compassion matters at work and in life

00:22 Seeing self-compassion as “soft” and why that’s a myth

01:08 Neuroscience: What kindness does for your body and mind

01:48 Philosophical roots from Aristotle to Buddha and Stoic wisdom

04:18 Mindfulness, common humanity, kindness

05:15 Expectations, imperfection, and tough self-talk at work

06:22 How our environment and learned behaviuor impact self-compassion

09:10 How awareness breaks the cycle of self-criticism

10:45 Is compassion weakness? Why the opposite is true

12:22 Accountability vs. kindness and why acceptance matters

15:09 When being kinder to yourself feels uncomfortable (or indulgent)

17:45 Lessons from health setbacks, parenting, and returning to work

20:45: Driving your career from compassion vs. “shoulds”

21:06 Practices to build self-compassion

26:46 Letting go, reframing, and daily habits for kinder self-talk

27:10 Self-coaching reflection questions to start your journey

Connect with us at Headflex:

Email: hello@headflex.co.uk.

Website: www.headflex.co.uk

Instagram: www.instagram.com/head.flex/

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Why do so many of us feel the need to be in control, at work, at home, and in our relationships? Co-hosts Rebecca and Diane dive into the complex and often messy world of control, exploring what drives our need to orchestrate and manage every detail. From the pressures of change and uncertainty to the deep links between trust, fear, and perfectionism, this episode provides real insights about how control shows up in our lives and impacts those around us.

Tune in as Rebecca and Diane discuss how our relationship with control can hold us back and how learning to relinquish control (yes, even when it feels challenging!) can help us move forward, boost collaboration, and restore our energy.

Here are the Highlights:

00:00 Introduction: Why our relationship with control matters

01:04 Control at work, when it helps, and when it hurts

02:14 What’s behind the need for control?

04:50 What drives controlling behaviours?

06:09 Real-life examples: Control at home and in the workplace

08:43 The energy drain of chasing control

09:19 The impact on teams: Collaboration, trust, and getting “stuck”

11:22 The cycle of rescuing, fixing, and passive behaviour

13:21 How to notice where control shows up for you

14:28 Trust, fear, and how to unlock new dynamics

16:15 Relinquishing control leads to innovation, creativity, and freedom

18:27 Self-compassion, pacing, and reframing what matters

20:42 Parenting, delegation, and the lessons for leadership

22:05 How to identify, trust, and delegate more effectively

22:34 Self-coaching questions to reflect on your relationship with control

Connect with us at Headflex:

Email: hello@headflex.co.uk.

Website: www.headflex.co.uk

Instagram: www.instagram.com/head.flex/

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Why do annual appraisals inspire so much anxiety from those being appraised, as well as their managers? Co-hosts Diane, and Rebecca take a deep dive into the good, the bad, and the ugly of performance reviews, sharing real insights from the coaching room and exploring how shifting mindsets can make these conversations far more meaningful (and less stressful) for everyone involved.

This episode brings practical strategies for approaching appraisals,, and offers self-coaching questions so you can reflect and take charge of your appraisal experience whether you’re giving or receiving feedback.

Here are the Highlights:

00:00 Introduction: Why it’s time to talk honestly about appraisals

01:45 A brief history of appraisals and why nerves kick in

03:30 Why appraisals have a negative reputation

04:26 The emotional impact of appraisals

06:22 The challenge for managers

08:52 Feedback pitfalls: The “feedback sandwich” and surprise revelations

11:46 The aftermath and why the negatives stick more than the positives

13:12 How to make appraisals more meaningful

15:15 Focusing on outcomes and forward-thinking

16:32 How to walk into an appraisal constructively

17:25 Choose a collaborative approach: Adult-to-adult communication

19:24 Who should do the talking? Why managers need to listen more

19:32 Self-care, reflections, and three essential self-coaching questions.

Connect with us at Headflex:

Email: hello@headflex.co.uk.

Website: www.headflex.co.uk

Instagram: www.instagram.com/head.flex/

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