Confidence is one of the most sought-after qualities in professional and personal life, but it’s also one of the most misunderstood. In this episode of Headflex, co-hosts Rebecca and Diane explore what really makes us feel confident, and why the advice to “just believe in yourself” so often misses the point.

Drawing from years of coaching experience, they reveal the three biggest myths about confidence that regularly come up in coaching sessions like the idea that only extroverts are confident, or that fear must disappear for true confidence to emerge. The conversation covers why confidence is not a fixed personality trait, but a contextual skill that grows with self-awareness, repetition, and experience.

Rebecca and Diane share practical stories, language tips, and somatic exercises to help you shift your internal narrative, quiet your self-doubt, and find your own authentic confidence style, no matter your workplace, personality, or life stage. Whether you’re recovering after maternity leave, stepping back into work post-illness, or just trying to speak up more in meetings, there’s advice here for you.

As always, the episode wraps up with thought-provoking self-coaching questions to help you reflect and take action right away.

Here are the highlights:

01:16 Confidence isn’t a personality trait, but a skill you can grow

02:47 Myth 1: Extroverts aren’t the only confident people

05:53 Why comparison in the workplace is a confidence trap

10:16 Language patterns that undermine your confidence and what to say instead

12:37 Myth 2: Confidence is not the absence of fear, how to work with fear

15:01 Real coaching example: accepting nerves in high-stakes situations

19:21 The power of small actions and repetition in growing confidence

20:12 Myth 3: You’re ‘either confident or not’, labels often hold us back

23:18 How returning from maternity or sick leave impacts confidence

24:08 Focus on strengths to rebuild confidence, instead of weaknesses

26:00 Letting go of outdated labels and beliefs from the past

27:27 Why “be more confident” is a vague and unhelpful feedback goal

28:42 Three self-coaching questions for building confidence.

If you're curious about coaching, Headflex offers a range of coaching programmes to suit different needs. 1:1 coaching, team coaching, group coaching and their Headflex in Residence programme.

And, if time management is a challenge in your business then drop them a note and ask for details about their Headflex Lunch and Learn sessions. Visit www.headflex.co.uk

Connect with us at Headflex:

Email: hello@headflex.co.uk.

Website: www.headflex.co.uk

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Connect with Rebecca Walker: www.linkedin.com/in/rebeccawalker13/

Connect with Diane Williams: www.linkedin.com/in/dianewilliams1

Produced by Winter Audio