Confidence is one of the most sought-after qualities in professional and personal life, but it’s also one of the most misunderstood. In this episode of Headflex, co-hosts Rebecca and Diane explore what really makes us feel confident, and why the advice to “just believe in yourself” so often misses the point.

Drawing from years of coaching experience, they reveal the three biggest myths about confidence that regularly come up in coaching sessions like the idea that only extroverts are confident, or that fear must disappear for true confidence to emerge. The conversation covers why confidence is not a fixed personality trait, but a contextual skill that grows with self-awareness, repetition, and experience.

Rebecca and Diane share practical stories, language tips, and somatic exercises to help you shift your internal narrative, quiet your self-doubt, and find your own authentic confidence style, no matter your workplace, personality, or life stage. Whether you’re recovering after maternity leave, stepping back into work post-illness, or just trying to speak up more in meetings, there’s advice here for you.

As always, the episode wraps up with thought-provoking self-coaching questions to help you reflect and take action right away.

Here are the highlights:

01:16 Confidence isn’t a personality trait, but a skill you can grow

02:47 Myth 1: Extroverts aren’t the only confident people

05:53 Why comparison in the workplace is a confidence trap

10:16 Language patterns that undermine your confidence and what to say instead

12:37 Myth 2: Confidence is not the absence of fear, how to work with fear

15:01 Real coaching example: accepting nerves in high-stakes situations

19:21 The power of small actions and repetition in growing confidence

20:12 Myth 3: You’re ‘either confident or not’, labels often hold us back

23:18 How returning from maternity or sick leave impacts confidence

24:08 Focus on strengths to rebuild confidence, instead of weaknesses

26:00 Letting go of outdated labels and beliefs from the past

27:27 Why “be more confident” is a vague and unhelpful feedback goal

28:42 Three self-coaching questions for building confidence.

If you're curious about coaching, Headflex offers a range of coaching programmes to suit different needs. 1:1 coaching, team coaching, group coaching and their Headflex in Residence programme.

And, if time management is a challenge in your business then drop them a note and ask for details about their Headflex Lunch and Learn sessions. Visit www.headflex.co.uk

Connect with us at Headflex:

Email: hello@headflex.co.uk.

Website: www.headflex.co.uk

Instagram: www.instagram.com/head.flex/

Connect with Rebecca Walker: www.linkedin.com/in/rebeccawalker13/

Connect with Diane Williams: www.linkedin.com/in/dianewilliams1

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In a world where we feel busier than ever, time management can be a huge challenge. Join co-hosts Rebecca and Diane in the latest episode of Headflex, to dive deep into the topic of time management, a recurring challenge in the coaching world, too.

They explore why we often feel like the day controls us, common obstacles we face, and how real self-awareness, rather than simply new tools, is the secret ingredient to managing time effectively. As always, the episode concludes with self-coaching questions that encourage you to reflect and find strategies that work for you.

Here are the highlights:

03:07 What is time management all about (it can be deeply personal)

01:06 The pressure to ‘do more’ often comes from management

09:21 Modern work environments like remote work, can make focus difficult

01:27 There are bigger challenges for those who are neurodivergent

05:36 Identifying tasks you procrastinate or avoid entirely, and uncover why.

13:03 Be careful not to absorb others’ stress or assume deadlines are urgent without clarification.

22:54 Techniques like the Eisenhower Matrix and Pomodoro Technique can be useful once you understand your patterns.

If you're curious about coaching, Headflex offers a range of coaching programmes to suit different needs. 1:1 coaching, team coaching, group coaching and their Headflex in Residence programme.

And, if time management is a challenge in your business then drop them a note and ask for details about their Headflex Lunch and Learn sessions. Visit www.headflex.co.uk

Connect with us at Headflex:

Email: hello@headflex.co.uk.

Website: www.headflex.co.uk

Instagram: www.instagram.com/head.flex/

Connect with Rebecca Walker: www.linkedin.com/in/rebeccawalker13/

Connect with Diane Williams: www.linkedin.com/in/dianewilliams1

Produced by Winter Audio

After 30 episodes, Headflex celebrates its first anniversary! Join co-hosts Rebecca Walker and Diane Williams as they revisit the stories, standout moments, and lessons learned from a year of real-time coaching conversations. This episode is a blend of gratitude, reflection, and candid discussion about personal growth, the impact of brave guests, and the power of partnership in professional life. Whether you’re a longtime listener or new to the podcast, pour yourself a cuppa and settle in for an honest, uplifting conversation about workplace hot topics, coaching insights, and looking ahead to the next chapter.

Here are the highlights:

00:00 Reflecting on an amazing year of podcasting

04:54 The problems associated of isolation and remote work

07:11 Fear of failure resonates deeply, particularly in sales;

12:07 Encourage listening to discussions on improving workplaces for people with ADHD through small, impactful changes.

13:40 Thanking guests, especially Andrew Blair, for sharing insights

16:45 Reflection on self-compassion and caring less with age

20:20 The Headflex mission is to make coaching more accessible, please share with friends and colleagues.

Connect with us at Headflex:

Email: hello@headflex.co.uk.

Website: www.headflex.co.uk

Instagram: www.instagram.com/head.flex/

Produced by Winter Audio