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If you’re job hunting right now, networking is just as important as applying for roles online.

As the saying goes: It’s not what you know - it’s who you know

In this episode of Ella Podcasts, we break down how to network strategically, confidently, and authentically - whether you’re an introvert, mid-career professional, or navigating a competitive job market shaped by AI and ageism.

From surviving awkward networking events to leveraging LinkedIn effectively, this conversation is packed with practical advice, honest opinions, and real-world strategies you can apply immediately.

Joining me are:

- Dr. Jonathan Marshall – Psychologist, former professor, Stanford & Harvard graduate

- Chris J. Reed – Founder of Black Marketing & LinkedIn personal branding expert

- Aya Clover – Host of HR & Beyond podcast, regional sales expert & experienced team leader

Together, we explore:

• Why networking increases your chances of landing a job

• How introverts can thrive at networking events

• The smartest way to use LinkedIn during your job search

• Whether the “Open to Work” badge helps or hurts

• How to follow up effectively (and quickly!)

• When to be strategic - and even ruthless - with your networking time

• Navigating rejection, ageism, and confidence dips

• Why networking should be a long-term strategy - not just when you’re desperate

This episode is honest, practical, and at times provocative - especially when discussing the realities of networking in Singapore, the impact of AI on hiring, and how to spot red flags in professional meetings.

Key Takeaways:

Introverts can network successfully by setting realistic goals (meet 1–2 people, not 25) Follow up within 24–48 hours — and personalize your message Quality and quantity both matter in today’s competitive job market Content marketing on LinkedIn can attract opportunities Rejection is part of the numbers game — don’t take it personally One meaningful conversation can change everything

Timestamps:

00:00 – Why networking matters in a job search

02:56 – How introverts can survive (and thrive at) networking events

07:02 – The bar strategy & breaking into conversations

14:12 – Ruthless vs relationship-focused networking

19:18 – Following up effectively after events

24:07 – LinkedIn strategies that work

33:56 – Open to Work: yes or no?

42:41 – Handling rejection, ageism & AI in the job market

If you’re currently job searching, feeling discouraged, or struggling with confidence — this episode is for you.

Remember: you only need one opportunity. Keep going.

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“Toxic relationship” has become one of the most commonly used phrases in modern dating - but what does it really mean?
Are some relationships genuinely unhealthy, or has the word toxic become a catch-all label for pain, conflict, and disappointment?

In this episode of Ella Podcasts, we unpack the psychology behind so-called toxic relationships — why people stay, why red flags are often ignored, and how early life experiences shape what feels familiar, safe, or even desirable in love.

I’m joined by:

• Dr Jonathan Marshall — psychologist and former professor (Stanford & Harvard graduate)
• Sophie Lung — women’s coach and founder of Master Your Saboteurs and Thriving Women workshops

Together, we explore why many difficult relationships are labelled toxic, how language around safety and boundaries has shifted across generations, and why not all unhealthy dynamics come from “bad” people — but from mismatched nervous systems, attachment patterns, and unresolved childhood wounds.

This episode covers:

• What “toxic” really means — and when the label is misused
• Toxic masculinity, insecurity, and exaggerated behaviours
• Why people often sense red flags early — but ignore them
• Codependency vs narcissism (and why they’re often confused)
• The role of attachment styles and childhood conditioning
• Why passion, chaos, and intensity can feel addictive
• How familiarity can feel like safety — even when it’s harmful
• Whether couples therapy can genuinely change toxic dynamics
• When staying “for the children” may do more harm than good

This is an honest, nuanced conversation about love, conflict, attraction, and why many of us repeat relationship patterns — even when they hurt.

If you’ve ever asked yourself:
Why did I stay so long? Why did I ignore the red flags? Why does stability feel boring and chaos feel alive?
— this episode will resonate.

🔑 Key Takeaways

• “Toxic” is often used too broadly — not all unhealthy relationships involve bad people
• Childhood experiences strongly influence adult attraction and attachment
• Red flags are often visible early but ignored during the honeymoon phase
• Passion and instability can feel more exciting than safety
• Codependent and narcissistic traits often stem from the same root: lack of self-worth
• Nervous system regulation plays a major role in relationship choices
• Couples therapy can help — but only when both partners genuinely want change
• Self-awareness is often the first step out of unhealthy patterns

🧠 Conclusion

This episode reminds us that relationships are rarely simple. What feels intoxicating can be familiar rather than healthy, and what looks stable can feel emotionally unsafe depending on our past.

By understanding the psychology behind attraction, attachment, and conflict, we gain compassion — not just for others, but for ourselves — and clearer insight into what kind of love actually allows us to grow.

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The Changing Role of White Men in the Workplace | DEI, Meritocracy & Fairness at Work

What does fairness in the workplace really look like today?
Has diversity, equity and inclusion (DEI) corrected historical imbalances — or created new tensions?

In this episode of Ella Podcasts, we explore the changing role of white men in the corporate world, the impact of DEI policies, and the complex questions surrounding meritocracy, opportunity, and discrimination in modern workplaces.

Drawing on my background in human resources, this conversation looks at how organisations are navigating DEI targets, legal challenges, and cultural change — and what this means for employees across generations, including young white men entering the workforce today.

I’m joined by:

• Dr Jonathan Marshall — psychologist and former professor (Stanford & Harvard graduate)
• Simon J. Littlewood — journalist, business advisor, author, and BBC World Service contributor
• Sameer Kothari — fund manager with global executive search experience

Together, we discuss:
• Whether DEI is correcting imbalance or creating unintended consequences
• Meritocracy vs quotas in hiring and leadership
• Why DEI has become legally and culturally contentious
• How identity, education, and opportunity shape career outcomes
• The “pendulum effect” in workplace culture
• What fairness at work could look like moving forward

This is a challenging but necessary conversation about power, opportunity, inclusion, and how organisations can balance compassion with competence in an evolving world of work.

At Ella Podcasts, the aim is not agreement — but understanding. We believe difficult conversations can be explored thoughtfully, respectfully, and without losing humanity.

🎧 If you’re interested in workplace culture, leadership, HR, DEI, equality, and the future of work, this episode offers a wide-ranging perspective.

Editorial Note

The views expressed by guests in this episode are their own and do not necessarily reflect my personal opinions or those of Ella Podcasts. This conversation is intended to explore a complex topic, not to endorse specific viewpoints.

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Why do political differences feel more divisive than ever? Have you ever lost a friend because of a political disagreement? In today’s episode of Ella’s Podcasts, host Ella is joined by Dr. Jonathan Marshall (psychologist and former professor, Stanford & Harvard graduate), Simon J. Littlewood (BBC World Service journalist, business advisor, and author), and Samir Kothari (international fund manager). Together, they dive into why politics divides relationships, how identity and belief systems shape our most personal connections, and what it takes to retain friendships across deep divides—even in a world that feels more polarized than ever.

This episode unpacks why political identity feels so personal, the psychology behind polarization and groupthink, the amplifying role of social media, and how disagreement now often feels like rejection. Expert guests share personal stories and practical advice on overcoming polarization and staying connected—even when differing worldviews threaten to come between us.

Quotes:

· I think empathy is key, that somebody may have a difference of opinion from you, but it doesn't necessarily mean that their core values or humanity aren't present.

· Political differences don’t have to spell the end of meaningful relationships.

· When we try to understand where someone is coming from, hostility over differences of opinion begins to lessen.

Takeaways:

· Political identity often feels deeply personal, influencing relationships and social dynamics.

· Social media amplifies outrage and increases polarization between individuals.

· Empathy and open dialogue are essential for maintaining friendships despite political disagreement.

· Universities and educational systems play a major role in shaping political discourse and identity.

· It is possible to disagree strongly yet maintain respect and connection with others.

Timestamps:

0:00:00 Introduction and Guest Introductions

0:01:50 Definitions of Liberal and Conservative

0:04:09 Psychology of Political Beliefs

0:10:40 Social Media and Polarization

0:18:42 Universities and Political Discourse

0:38:44 Workplace and Political Commentary

0:46:38 The Challenge of Reconciling Friendships

0:56:29 Final Thoughts and Closing

Conclusion:

Political differences don’t have to spell the end of meaningful relationships. By choosing empathy, open dialogue, and mutual respect, we can bridge even the widest divides. Our guests remind us that understanding each other’s perspectives makes us stronger, not weaker. Remember, a healthy debate can enrich your worldview and deepen your friendships. Let’s keep the conversation going and refuse to let politics stand in the way of connection.

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Have you ever felt like you did everything right but still didn’t get the outcome you hoped for? Episode 3: When IVF Fails & Motherhood Eludes You is one of the hardest conversations I’ve recorded — and one I felt was essential to have. Infertility and IVF failure can bring a grief that’s deeply personal, often invisible, and incredibly isolating. In this episode, we talk honestly about the devastation of not becoming a mother, how this kind of loss can affect identity and mental health, and what it means to face a future that looks very different from the one you imagined. We also explore the societal pressures, the financial strain, and how support from loved ones can make all the difference on this challenging journey.

I’m joined by Dr. Jonathan Marshall, psychologist and former professor; Echo Wu, leadership and mental toughness coach; and Grace Arthur, social worker and human rights activist, each offering unique perspectives and hope. Our guests share not only their expertise but also their raw, real stories of loss, resilience, and healing, while providing practical advice on self-care and emotional well-being when the dream of motherhood slips away.

Takeaways:

· Societal and medical judgments can profoundly shape the IVF experience.

· Infertility brings emotional, physical, and financial strain that affects relationships.

· Supportive partners, friends, and workplaces make a critical difference.

· Self-compassion and setting personal boundaries are vital throughout IVF and its aftermath.

· Openness about infertility helps break taboos and fosters community.

Timestamps:

0:00:00 Introductions and episode overview

0:02:56 Grace’s personal IVF and fertility journey

0:07:02 Emotional and physical toll of IVF

0:14:12 Societal pressures and family influence

0:19:18 Breaking taboos and sharing experiences

0:24:07 The grief of IVF failure

0:33:56 The financial impact of infertility

0:42:41 Finding acceptance and moving forward

Conclusion:

Infertility and IVF failure can feel like the end of a dream, but they don’t define your worth or future. By embracing vulnerability, sharing our stories, and seeking support, it’s possible to find light after loss. Remember: healing takes time, and prioritizing self-care is vital on this journey. Whether you choose new passions, lean on loved ones, or simply allow yourself to grieve, hope is still possible. Thank you for listening—reach out, share your experience, and know you’re never alone.

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Echo Wu’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/echoleadership/

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If Christmas feels a little quieter, heavier, or simply unlike years past, you’re not alone—and this conversation is for you. With the launch of Ella Podcasts just in time for the festive season, I wanted to create a space for those navigating grief, loneliness, or the aching weight of things not going as expected.

Episode 4, "Alone for Christmas & New Year," is all about those honest moments—when we wonder how to keep going, what to hold onto, and how to find pockets of calm when the world keeps spinning. In this episode, we explore why this season can feel tough and how the smallest gestures—a brief chat, a favorite tradition, or simply noticing what’s still here—can help us through. No need to pretend or force cheer; this is about finding gentle anchors and remembering that even on the hardest days, we’re still here, sharing our stories and strength.

Quotes:

· If you happen to be spending a holiday by yourself alone, it doesn't mean you need to be lonely, right?

· I think one of the very important things is to reach out to somebody and send them a warm message that will give you a lot of love.

· Doing acts of service seems to increase happiness.

Takeaways:

· Feeling lonely during the holidays is common, and it’s okay to acknowledge those emotions.

· Practical strategies like gratitude, helping others, and setting routines can improve your mood.

· Social media use should be limited to avoid increasing loneliness.

· Childhood experiences can shape holiday feelings, but healing and growth are possible.

· Small connections and personal rituals provide comfort during tough times.

Timestamps:

0:00:07 Introduction and Holiday Context

0:01:41 Reasons for Christmas Loneliness

0:04:22 Childhood Memories and Family Dynamics

0:12:47 Coping Mechanisms and Holiday Choices

0:18:14 Alone vs. Lonely and Positive Perspectives

0:20:59 Volunteering and Acts of Service

0:31:41 Building Resilience and Positivity

0:39:35 Social media, New Year, and Reflection

0:46:49 Final Positive Tips and Episode Wrap-up

Conclusion:

This episode reminds us that tough seasons don't require pretending everything is fine. When life feels overwhelming or different, it’s often the small anchors—gratitude, connection, and kindness—that help us through. Whether you're spending Christmas or New Year on your own or feeling the weight of change, we hope our conversation helps you feel steadier and a little less alone. Remember, you have the power to reach out, reflect, and embrace even the smallest moments of comfort. Wishing you warmth, hope, and the gentle reassurance that you’re still here, moving forward.

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Are you struggling to pick up the pieces after a sudden job loss? In today’s episode, we dive deep into the challenging emotions and practical realities that follow losing your job—whether from redundancy, corporate restructuring, or even company closure. Losing a job can shake far more than your finances; it can impact identity, self-worth, relationships, and mental health — often in ways people feel unable to talk about. Many carry the weight silently, masking fear and shame while trying to “push through” for those around them. You’ll hear raw personal stories, proven coping strategies, and powerful advice to help you move forward with confidence.

In this episode, we discuss openly the emotional toll of job loss, the risks of suppressing those feelings, and why being told to “just get on with it” can cause real harm. We also explore how perspective, support, and small practical tools can help people find their footing again when everything feels uncertain.

Quotes:

· I think jobs can be a beautiful thing, you know, a beautiful way of expressing what we do, and of creating value, and of using our potential.

· What's really helpful is to look at job loss as a gift in disguise.

· You know, you're lucky if you're only working five days a week.

Takeaways:

· Job loss impacts not just finances, but identity, mental health, and self-worth.

· Emotional support and open discussion play a key role in recovery after job loss.

· Practical routines, self-care, and networking are crucial strategies for moving forward.

· Maintaining perspective and reframing the experience can transform a setback into an opportunity.

· Compassionate handling by companies helps ease employees’ transitions through job loss.

Timestamps:

0:00:07 Introduction and Impact of Job Loss

0:01:58 Psychological and Identity Challenges

0:04:37 Emotional Responses and HR Perspective

0:09:59 The Effects of Corporate Culture and Restructuring

0:20:50 Personal Experiences and Coping Strategies

0:25:32 Shock, Routine, and Seeking Support

0:43:21 Physical and Mental Health Consequences

0:48:43 The Expat Experience and Support Networks

0:50:16 Moving Forward, Self-Care, and Final Advice

Conclusion:

Job loss can feel like the end of the world, but this episode proves it’s also the beginning of new possibilities. Remember, you're not alone—many have walked this path and emerged stronger and wiser. Embrace the chance to find new passions, seek support, and reinvent your professional journey. With the right mindset and tools, your next opportunity could be just around the corner. If this episode reaches even one person who feels less alone today, it’s done what it set out to do. Don’t forget to like, share, and join our community at the Ella Podcasts Facebook group—because you deserve support, and together we move.

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Have you ever felt your heart break after losing a beloved pet? If so, you’re not alone—and your feelings are absolutely valid. This reel is from Episode 1 of my new podcast, Ella’s Podcasts, launching next week, where we address the profound and too-often misunderstood journey of pet bereavement.
In this heartfelt conversation, we explore why saying goodbye to our animal companions can be so devastating, the unique, unconditional love they provide, and how grief can ripple through our lives, sometimes surprising us in its intensity and even affecting the pets who remain. You’ll also hear deeply moving stories on how pet loss impacts daily life, and learn strategies for navigating stages of grief, memorializing your fur friends, and moving forward with compassion.
Joining me are renowned psychologist and professor Dr. Jonathan Marshall, Mary Sue—founder of Oasis Second Chance Animal Shelter—and animal advocate Victoria Toy. Together, we discuss honest emotions, community support, and practical ways to honor your grief.
Quotes:
•I think it's not whether or not it's a pet or a human, it's how we attach to that thing that we've lost.
•I always tell people, you know, well, just think of it, you have given a dog a very good life, and that dog lived a very happy life.
•Grief is when you love somebody, and it's got nowhere to go.
Takeaways:
•The loss of a pet can be as profound and deeply felt as the loss of a human loved one.
•Grieving a pet is unique for everyone, and there’s no “right” timeline or process for healing.
•Support from others who understand pet loss can help ease the pain and reduce isolation.
•Creating memories and keepsakes, like photos or memory books, can provide comfort after a loss.
•Channeling the love for a lost pet into caring for other animals can be a healing next step.
Timestamps:
0:00:00 Introduction and Guest Introductions
0:01:34 Why Pet Loss Hurts So Much
0:03:55 Stages of Grief in Pet Bereavement
0:05:50 Coping Without Social Support
0:10:39 Personal Stories of Pet Loss
0:18:22 Community and Impact of Pet Loss
0:19:45 What to Expect After Losing a Pet
0:21:16 Navigating Guilt and Euthanasia
0:30:20 Memorializing Lost Pets
0:38:05 When Is the Right Time to Get a New Pet
0:41:58 Final Thoughts and Messages

Conclusion:
This episode is for anyone who has ever loved an animal and felt the sharp sting of their absence. You don’t need to minimize your feelings or seek anyone’s permission to grieve. Your love matters, your relationship was real, and healing comes from honoring the stories and memories you shared.
I hope this episode helps you feel seen, understood, and a little less alone. If you find comfort here, please share this episode with others, visit our Facebook page to connect, or request a follow-up. Remember: the paw prints pets leave on our hearts are forever.
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Dr. Jonathan Marshall’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jmarshallconsulting/
Victoria Toy’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/victoria-toy-25a37323/

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