Had the honor of being a guest on the Pete vs Anxiety Podcast, and I'm thrilled to share this powerful conversation with you! Host Pete and I dive deep into the unique ways OCD shows up for high-achieving women—and why traditional anxiety advice often misses the mark. 💜

If you've ever been told "it's just stress" when you know it's something more, or if you've struggled for years without getting real help for your intrusive thoughts, this episode will validate your experience and give you hope!

• Why OCD Gets Misdiagnosed: 🔹 The sneaky ways OCD shows up that therapists often miss [00:05:00] 🔸 Why women are told "it's just stress" when it's actually OCD [00:03:00] 🔹 The difference between anxiety and OCD (and why it matters!) [00:08:00]

• The Narcissism Fear Trap: 🔸 Why thoughtful, kind women worry they're narcissists [00:15:00] 🔹 How OCD attacks what you value most in the sneakiest ways [00:18:00] 🔸 The difference between narcissistic behavior and OCD intrusive thoughts [00:20:00]

• Real Talk About Treatment: 🔹 Why "Dr. Google" makes OCD worse, not better [00:12:00] 🔸 The exposure therapy approach that actually works [00:25:00] 🔹 How to support someone with OCD (without giving reassurance) [00:35:00]

• The homeless man analogy that perfectly explains intrusive thoughts [00:22:00]
• Why your fear of being a narcissist is actually proof you're NOT one [00:16:00]
• The average 10-14 year delay before people get proper OCD treatment [00:10:00]
• How OCD is a belief disorder, not just an anxiety disorder [00:06:00]

This episode originally aired on the Pete vs Anxiety Podcast, hosted by the amazing Pete who's on a mission to break the stigma around mental health. Pete creates a safe space for real, raw conversations about anxiety, depression, and everything in between.

If you loved this episode, please: 👉 Subscribe to Pete vs Anxiety Podcast on all platforms 👉 Follow Pete on social media @petevs.anxiety 👉 Check out his other incredible episodes with mental health experts and real people sharing their stories

Pete's tagline says it all: "Don't ask how your day is, ask how your mental health is today." 💙

Tired of being told "it's just stress" when you know it's more? My exclusive OCD Intensives program is designed specifically for high-achieving women who need specialized OCD treatment, not generic anxiety advice.

If you're:

• Struggling with intrusive thoughts that therapists don't understand
• Worried you might be a narcissist (even though you're clearly not)
• Tired of Googling symptoms and making things worse
• Ready for treatment that actually addresses OCD, not just anxiety

My OCD Intensives program will give you the specialized help you've been searching for.

In just 3 weeks, you'll learn:

• How to identify OCD thoughts vs. anxiety thoughts
• Exposure techniques specifically designed for your OCD subtype
• How to stop compulsions (including mental ones therapists miss)
• The difference between helpful self-reflection and OCD rumination

SPOTS ARE EXTREMELY LIMITED! I only accept ONE woman per month into this transformative program.

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Thank you to Pete for having me on his show and for doing such important work in the mental health space. And thank you for listening—you deserve specialized help that actually understands OCD! 💜

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When was the last time you sat still without your phone, without a to-do list, without feeling guilty? If you're a perfectionist woman, the answer is probably "I can't remember." In this eye-opening video, I reveal why your brain is literally wired to resist rest—and how to rewire it for peace! 💜

If you find yourself constantly busy, feeling guilty when you're not productive, or unable to relax without anxiety creeping in, this video will help you understand why stillness feels so impossible and what to do about it.

• The Perfectionist Rest Paradox: 🔹 Why your brain treats rest as "wasted time" and how this keeps you exhausted [00:00] 🔹 The neurological reasons perfectionists struggle with stillness [00:29] 🔹 How constant busyness becomes an addiction that's impossible to break [00:29]

• The Science Behind Perfectionist Restlessness: 🔸 Why rest is actually essential for your mental health and productivity [02:20] 🔸 How perfectionism hijacks your nervous system and prevents true relaxation [02:20] 🔸 The difference between "rest" and actual nervous system regulation [04:44]

• Practical Strategies for Perfectionist Rest: 🔹 Simple techniques to embrace stillness without guilt [04:44] 🔹 How to rewire your brain to see rest as productive, not lazy [06:28] 🔹 The mindset shifts that make stillness feel safe instead of scary [06:55]

00:00 The Challenge of Sitting Still for Perfectionists 00:29 Understanding Perfectionism and Rest Resistance 01:18 How OCD Intensives Helps Women Find Peace 02:20 The Importance of Rest for Mental Health and Productivity 04:44 Practical Tips for Embracing Stillness Without Guilt 06:28 Finding Success in Stillness as a Perfectionist 06:55 Conclusion and Your Next Steps to Rest

Can't sit still without feeling guilty or anxious? This video gives you a glimpse into the powerful rest and nervous system regulation techniques I teach in my exclusive OCD Intensives program.

If you're a perfectionist woman who:

• Feels guilty every time you try to rest
• Can't sit still without your mind racing with to-dos
• Believes rest is "unproductive" or "lazy"
• Wants to learn how to actually relax without anxiety

My OCD Intensives program will teach you advanced techniques to rewire your perfectionist brain for rest, peace, and true relaxation.

In just 3 weeks, you'll learn to:

• Sit still without guilt or anxiety
• Rewire your brain to see rest as essential, not optional
• Regulate your nervous system for true relaxation
• Create sustainable rest practices that actually work for perfectionists

SPOTS ARE EXTREMELY LIMITED! I only accept ONE perfectionist woman per month into this transformative program.

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Are you a high-achieving woman who gets angry at yourself when things aren't perfect? Do you find yourself in fight-or-flight mode when your standards aren't met, then feel guilty about your anger? You're not broken—you're just stuck in a perfectionism cycle that's hijacking your nervous system! 💜

In this powerful episode, I share a real client session that reveals why perfectionist women struggle with anger and introduce the game-changing TIP technique that helps you reset your nervous system in minutes, not hours.

🎯 What You'll Discover: - The Perfectionism-Anger Connection: 🔹 Why high-achieving women get trapped in anger when things aren't "perfect" [00:00] 🔹 How trauma and perfectionism create a constant fight-or-flight state [00:37] 🔹 The guilt cycle that keeps you stuck after perfectionist anger episodes [00:06]

- The TIPP Technique That Changes Everything: 🔸 Temperature change: The fastest way to reset your nervous system [02:14] 🔸 Intense exercise: How 30 seconds can shift your entire emotional state [02:44] 🔸 Purposeful breathing: The modified approach that actually works for perfectionists [03:15]

- Advanced Nervous System Reset: 🔹 Progressive muscle relaxation: Full-body reset for perfectionist tension [04:27] 🔹 How to use these techniques before, during, and after perfectionist episodes [05:21] 🔹 Why traditional anger management doesn't work for perfectionist women [00:37]

⏰ Episode Timestamps: 00:00 Understanding Anger in Perfectionism 00:06 Client's Story and Common Perfectionist Struggles 00:37 The Impact of Trauma and Fight or Flight Mode on Perfectionists 01:45 Introducing the DBT Tool: TIP with Two Ps 02:14 Temperature: The First Step to Nervous System Reset 02:44 Intense Exercise: Quick Endorphin Boost for Perfectionist Anger 03:15 Purposeful Breathing: A Modified Approach for High Achievers 04:27 Progressive Muscle Relaxation: Full Body Reset for Perfectionists 05:21 Wrapping Up and Your Next Steps to Freedom

📖 Key Takeaways for High-Achieving Women: - Perfectionist anger isn't a character flaw—it's a nervous system response - The TIP technique works faster than traditional therapy techniques for acute episodes - You can learn to interrupt the perfectionism-anger cycle before it spirals - Your anger is information about your unmet needs and impossible standards

🔥 TRANSFORM YOUR PERFECTIONIST ANGER WITH OCD INTENSIVES 🔥 Are you tired of getting angry at yourself every time something isn't perfect?This episode gives you a taste of the powerful techniques I teach in my exclusive OCD Intensives program.

If you're a high-achieving woman who: - Gets angry when things don't meet your impossible standards - Feels guilty about your perfectionist anger episodes - Wants to break the cycle of fight-or-flight perfectionism - Is ready to learn advanced nervous system regulation techniques

My OCD Intensives program will teach you not just the TIP technique, but dozens of other strategies specifically designed for perfectionist women who are tired of being controlled by their emotions.

In just 3 weeks, you'll learn to: - Interrupt perfectionist anger before it takes over - Reset your nervous system in under 2 minutes - Create realistic standards that don't trigger fight-or-flight - Build a toolkit of techniques that work for YOUR specific triggers

SPOTS ARE EXTREMELY LIMITED! I only accept ONE high-achieving woman per month into this transformative program.

👉 VIEW PROGRAM DETAILS & APPLY NOW! https://bit.ly/ocd-intensives-program)

Don't spend another day being controlled by perfectionist anger. The techniques in this episode are just the beginning—imagine what's possible when you have the full toolkit!

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Your perfectionist anger doesn't define you—it's just information. You deserve to feel calm, confident, and in control of your emotions!

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Are you a high-achieving woman who finally accomplishes something amazing, only to immediately think "it wasn't good enough"? Do you find yourself constantly moving the goalpost instead of celebrating your wins? In this milestone 100th episode, I dive deep into the perfectionism trap that's stealing your joy and keeping you exhausted! 💜

If you're tired of feeling like nothing you do is ever enough—especially as a military wife juggling deployments, PCS moves, and endless responsibilities—this episode will help you break free from the cycle that's keeping you stuck.

• The Goalpost Moving Addiction: 🔹 Why you can't celebrate accomplishments and immediately create more tasks [00:00] 🔹 How perfectionism becomes an addictive cycle that's impossible to satisfy [01:00] 🔹 The shocking truth about what happens when you finally get your house "perfect" [01:00]

• The Hidden Cost of Perfectionism: 🔸 Why you never get to celebrate wins and how it robs you of momentum [01:00] 🔸 How endless revisions exhaust you and steal time from what matters [01:00] 🔸 The impossible standards you're modeling for your family and colleagues [02:00]

• Breaking the Perfectionism Cycle: 🔹 How to recognize when you're moving the goalpost (the "should" trap) [02:00] 🔹 The "enough practice" that will transform how you approach goals [03:00] 🔹 Why "good enough" isn't settling—it's choosing to live more [04:00]

00:00 Welcome to Episode 100 - The Perfectionism Trap 01:00 How Moving the Goalpost Becomes an Addiction 01:00 The 5 Ways Perfectionism Destroys Your Life 02:00 Recognizing When You're Moving the Goalpost 03:00 The Life-Changing "Enough Practice" 03:16 The Instagram Quote That Changed Everything 04:00 Final Thoughts: You're Choosing to Live More, Not Less

• Your brain learns that completion isn't the goal—perfection is (and perfection is impossible)
• You're teaching everyone around you that "good enough" isn't acceptable
• Time is a resource you can't get back—stop spending it on endless perfectionism
• The "enough practice": Set your enough point, complete the project, celebrate, then move on

Are you a high-achieving military wife tired of perfectionist thoughts controlling your life? My exclusive OCD Intensives program is designed specifically for women who are:

• Constantly moving the goalpost instead of celebrating wins
• Exhausted from endless revisions and never feeling "enough"
• Ready to break free from the perfectionism cycle that's stealing their joy
• Wanting to model healthy standards for their families

In just 3 weeks, you'll learn to set "enough points," celebrate accomplishments, and build momentum instead of getting stuck in endless perfectionism.

SPOTS ARE EXTREMELY LIMITED! I only accept ONE client per month into this transformative program.

👉 VIEW PROGRAM DETAILS & APPLY NOW

Perfectionism is exhausting—and your body feels it too! Between managing everything as a high-achieving woman, constant stress, and never feeling "good enough," your body needs extra support.

I personally use Core Nutritionals supplements to support my mental clarity and energy levels. Their science-backed formulations help me stay focused and calm, especially when battling perfectionist thoughts.

If you're ready to support your body while you work on healing your perfectionist mindset, check out Core Nutritionals and use my code "ERIN" for 15% off your order.

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Remember: You're not settling for less when you practice "enough"—you're choosing to live more. Thank you for being here for 100 episodes of transformation!

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Do you lie awake at night replaying every interaction with other military spouses? Wondering if you said the wrong thing at the FRG meeting or if your house wasn't clean enough when the first sargent's wife stopped by?

Military life creates the perfect storm for perfectionism, from constant evaluations to managing everything alone during deployments. If you're tired of feeling like you're never doing enough, this episode will help you understand why perfectionism is stealing your joy and what to do about it.

• The Military Wife Perfectionism Trap: 🔹 Why military wives face constant evaluation and judgment that fuels perfectionism [00:20] 🔹 How isolation during PCS moves and deployments makes perfectionism worse [00:20] 🔹 The hidden cost of trying to be the "perfect" military spouse [00:00]

• The Single Parenting Perfectionism Spiral: 🔸 Why managing everything alone during deployments triggers perfectionist tendencies [00:56] 🔸 How career sacrifices for military life create guilt and perfectionist compensation [00:56] 🔸 The exhausting mental load that makes you feel like you're never doing enough [01:57]

• Breaking Free from Societal Expectations: 🔹 How societal expectations create impossible standards for military wives [02:55] 🔹 Why perfectionism actually makes military life harder, not easier [02:55] 🔹 Permission to struggle, seek help, and be imperfect [04:14]

00:00 The Hidden Struggles of Military Wives and Perfectionism 00:20 Constant Evaluation and Isolation Fueling Perfectionism 00:56 Single Parenting Pressures and Career Sacrifice Guilt 01:57 The Mental Load and Perfectionist Logistics Management 02:55 Societal Expectations and Perfectionism Pressure 04:14 Permission to Struggle and Seek Help Despite Perfectionism 04:50 Conclusion: Embracing Imperfection in Military Life

• Perfectionism in military life is a survival mechanism that's actually making you miserable
• Military wife isolation and constant evaluation create unique perfectionist pressures
• You deserve support for perfectionist struggles—not just after the next PCS or deployment

Are you tired of perfectionist thoughts controlling your military life? My exclusive OCD Intensives program is designed specifically for military wives who are:

• Constantly trying to be the "perfect" military spouse
• Feeling overwhelmed by perfectionist expectations during deployments and PCS moves
• Struggling with perfectionist anxiety about single parenting and career sacrifices
• Ready to break free from the mental prison of perfectionism and societal expectations

In just 3 weeks, you'll learn to manage perfectionist anxiety, stop the all-or-nothing thinking, and reclaim your peace—no matter what military life throws at you.

SPOTS ARE EXTREMELY LIMITED! I only accept ONE military wife per month into this transformative program.

👉 VIEW PROGRAM DETAILS & APPLY NOW to see if this program is right for you!

Perfectionism is exhausting—and your body feels it too! Between managing everything alone during deployments, constant stress, and never feeling "good enough," your body needs extra support.

I personally use Core Nutritionals supplements to support my mental clarity and energy levels. Their science-backed formulations help me stay focused and calm, especially when I'm battling perfectionist thoughts and military life stress.

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You don't have to be perfect to be a good military wife. Your struggles with perfectionism and societal expectations are valid, and you deserve support. Take the first step toward embracing imperfection today!

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Are you exhausted from trying to be the "perfect" military spouse? In this heartfelt episode, I share my own journey as a former military wife and reveal the hidden toll that perfectionism takes on your mental health, relationships, and happiness during military life. 💜

Military life comes with enough pressure without adding impossible standards for yourself. Learn how to recognize when it's time to ease up and discover practical mindset shifts that will transform your experience.

• The Perfectionism Trap: 🔹 Why military life creates the perfect storm for perfectionism 🔹 How striving for control actually increases your anxiety 🔹 The difference between high standards and harmful perfectionism

• Three Warning Signs It's Time to Loosen Control: 🔸 When your need for order is causing more stress than relief 🔸 How perfectionism impacts your relationships with family and friends 🔸 The physical symptoms that signal you're pushing too hard

• Three Mindset Shifts for Military Life: 🔹 Embracing flexibility without feeling like you're failing 🔹 Finding the balance between structure and adaptability 🔹 How to give yourself permission to be imperfectly human

00:00 Introduction: Understanding Military Life Pressures 00:12 The Trap of Perfectionism in Military Life 01:12 Three Signs It's Time to Loosen Control 02:26 Mindset Shifts for Thriving in Military Life 02:47 Conclusion and Next Episode Preview

Is perfectionism taking over your military life? My exclusive OCD Intensives program is designed specifically for military spouses who need results FAST.

In just 3 weeks (meeting 3 times per week for 3 hours), you'll:

• Break free from perfectionism and people-pleasing patterns
• Learn practical tools to manage anxiety during military transitions
• Develop healthy boundaries that honor both structure and flexibility
• Reclaim joy in your daily life, even amidst military challenges

SPOTS ARE EXTREMELY LIMITED! I only accept ONE military spouse per month into this transformative program.

👉 APPLY for the OCD Intensives Program to see if this program is right for you!

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You don't have to be perfect to thrive in military life. Take the first step toward freedom today!

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Military life is challenging enough without OCD stealing your peace! In this special episode, I pull back the curtain on my exclusive OCD Intensives program—designed specifically for military families who need results FAST before the next PCS or deployment disrupts your progress.

Did you know studies show that intensive OCD treatment produces faster, more lasting results than weekly therapy? If you're tired of feeling like a prisoner to your mind while juggling military life's unique challenges, this episode reveals the solution you've been searching for.

• The Military-Specific Advantage: 🔹 Why culturally adapted therapy has 30% better outcomes for military families 🔹 How the program works around YOUR schedule, not the other way around 🔹 The unique benefits of getting results before your next PCS or deployment

• Inside the Intensive Experience: 🔸 The powerful 3-3-3 structure: 3 weeks, 3 hours per session, 3 times per week 🔸 How virtual sessions eliminate childcare headaches and scheduling conflicts 🔸 The gold-standard ERP approach tailored specifically for military stressors

• Beyond the Sessions: 🔹 24/7 messaging support between sessions (9am-9pm response time) 🔹 Bonus resources that accelerate your progress 🔹 How to leverage insurance benefits to make treatment affordable

• This intensive format means you can get your life back in THREE WEEKS, not years
• The program is completely virtual—perfect for military families with unpredictable schedules
• You'll develop strategies that help you through deployments, PCS moves, and beyond

Spots are EXTREMELY limited! I only take ONE client per month for this transformative program.

This program is perfect for you if:

• You're tired of managing OCD symptoms alone during military challenges
• You want military-specific understanding of your triggers
• You need results faster than traditional weekly therapy can provide
• You're ready to invest in intensive change that lasts through deployments and moves

👉 BOOK YOUR FREE 30-MINUTE CONSULTATION to see if this program is right for you!

00:00 Introduction to Military Stress and OCD 00:17 Overview of the OCD Intensives Program 01:09 Program Structure and Benefits 02:14 Therapeutic Techniques Used 03:38 Additional Program Perks 04:15 Eligibility and Consultation 05:44 Financial Information and Insurance 06:14 Expected Outcomes and Benefits 06:56 Final Thoughts and Application Process

Military life is unpredictable enough—your mental health doesn't have to be. Apply now and transform your military experience from surviving to thriving!

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