In this soapbox episode of 'The Better Sex Podcast,' sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman emphasizes the importance of talking about sex more openly. Jessa explores the cultural taboo surrounding discussions about sex and how it leads to feelings of isolation and shame. Sharing her personal experiences and observations, she highlights the common struggles couples face and encourages listeners to initiate conversations about sex with their partners and friends. By normalizing these discussions, Jessa argues, people can alleviate feelings of inadequacy and seek the support they need. The episode ends with a challenge for listeners to talk about sex with at least one person in the coming week.

00:00 Introduction to Better Sex

00:58 The Taboo of Talking About Sex

01:10 Real-Life Conversations and Observations

02:50 Common Struggles in Sexual Relationships

04:18 Encouragement to Open Up

05:31 Conclusion and Call to Action

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The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com

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In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman is joined by psychiatrist Dr. Hector Rodriguez to discuss the effects of trauma on sexual desire, libido, pleasure, and satisfaction. Dr. Rodriguez shares insights on how trauma can impact intimate relationships and how the brain can be rewired to facilitate healing and enjoyment of sex. He dives into the role of dopamine and oxytocin, the difference in trauma's impact on individuals, and how simple actions like hugging and handholding can promote healing. The episode highlights the importance of understanding and caring for the brain to improve overall sexual wellness.

00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast

00:52 Guest Introduction: Dr. Hector Rodriguez on Trauma and Sexual Health

01:40 Understanding Trauma and Its Impact on Intimacy

03:44 Brain Patterns and Trauma Responses

05:39 Trauma's Effect on Sexual Wellness

08:52 The Brain's Role in Desire and Intimacy

11:18 Self-Soothing and Healthy Sexual Practices

12:23 Quizzes for Better Intimacy

12:50 Trauma and Self-Soothing Behaviors

13:49 Integrating Dopamine and Life Management

14:59 Addressing Trauma and Brain Health

16:02 Hope and Brain Scan Validation

18:45 Emotional Intelligence and Forgiveness

19:52 Reconnecting Couples Through Simple Gestures

23:00 Understanding the Brain's Complexity

24:18 Resources and Final Thoughts

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Bio:

Dr. Hector Rodriguez is a psychiatrist, brain expert, and speaker specializing in trauma, brain health, and sexual wellness. With a background in neuroscience, advanced brain imaging, and lifestyle psychiatry, he helps people reframe struggles with intimacy, libido, and confidence through both science and soul. Known for his unapologetic yet compassionate approach, Dr. Hector blends trauma-informed care with practical strategies for resilience, emotional intelligence, and thriving relationships. His core message is simple: you’re not broken — you’re wired to survive, and you can rewire to thrive.

www.whitebutterflyclinic.com

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Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast

Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast

How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com

The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com

The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com

Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com

Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman discusses the common issue of differences in sexual desire among couples. She emphasizes the importance of open communication and partnership when addressing this issue, rather than resorting to quick fixes like CBD gummies or sex toys without mutual consent. Jessa explains why these well-intentioned solutions often backfire and are perceived as pressure or blame. Instead, she encourages couples to work together in improving their intimate relationship through shared responsibility and understanding.

00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast

00:45 Today's Topic: Enhancing Desire in Relationships

01:15 Case Study: Alcohol and Connection

02:09 The Trap of Quick Fixes

02:47 The Importance of Communication

04:10 Working Together as a Team

05:29 Conclusion and Listener Engagement

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Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast

Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast

How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com

The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com

The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com

Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com

Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass

In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman interviews Dr. Jacquie Del Rosario about the invasive impact of technology on relationships. They discuss how excessive screen time can weaken intimacy and emotional connections, and how couples can set boundaries to deepen their face-to-face interactions. Dr. Del Rosario shares insights on how technology has altered dating and wooing practices, the importance of intentional communication, and strategies for couples to reconnect. They also touch on the challenges of addressing a partner's technology use and the benefits of seeking professional help to maintain a healthy relationship.

00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast

00:47 Impact of Technology on Relationships

04:04 Challenges of Modern Dating

07:44 Maintaining Connection in the Digital Age

13:16 Setting Boundaries for Better Intimacy

15:12 The Impact of Technology on Intimacy

15:38 Introduction to Jess and Her Services

16:06 Setting Boundaries with Technology

17:07 The Importance of Face-to-Face Communication

20:08 Using Conversation Cards to Reconnect

22:17 Leveraging Technology Positively

23:26 Addressing Technology Concerns with Your Partner

26:35 The Role of Professional Help in Relationships

29:00 Dr. Jacquie's Trauma Treatment Cohort

30:45 Conclusion and Contact Information

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Bio:

Dr. Jacquie’s meteoric rise into the relationship and marriage arena has

deemed her America's Marriage Coach™. Her magnetic appeal and

practical solutions to relatable issues captivates her audiences worldwide.

Dr. Jacquie’s mantra derives from the idea that the foundation of any society

starts within an individual’s home. For the past 20 years, Dr. Jacquie has

evangelized couples everywhere with her philosophy of the seven pillars of

compatibility. She has engineered a host of tools to cultivate healthy

relationships and marriage. These tools include: Curricula, The Marriage

University, Best Marriage Keys, and created the Compatibility Quiz. In

addition to this curricula, Dr. Jacquie hosts conferences and intensive

trainings that provide skill-based learning that induces a shift in

trajectories.

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More info and resources:

Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast

Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast

How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com

The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com

The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com

Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com

Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass

In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, hosted by sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman, legendary adult film actor Mitch Hartwell shares his unique insights on male sexual performance. Drawing from his two-decade career in the adult film industry and his expertise in neurolinguistic programming, Mitch discusses the psychological and physical strategies men can utilize to improve their sexual experiences, focusing on control, mindset, and overcoming common issues like erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation. Mitch emphasizes the importance of understanding one's own anatomy, being strategic in the bedroom, and building self-confidence through incremental success. Listen in for expert advice, practical tips, and an in-depth conversation about navigating and enhancing intimate relationships.

00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast

00:50 Guest Introduction: Mitch Hartwell

01:56 Mitch's Journey and Expertise

05:27 Understanding Male Performance

11:06 The Three Levels of Sexual Satisfaction

20:58 Belief Systems and Performance

25:31 Recognizing and Utilizing Tools for Change

26:08 The Dangers of 'I Hope' Thinking

26:54 Strategies for Erectile Dysfunction

27:25 Understanding Sensations and Performance Pathways

30:54 Psychological vs. Physical Erections

38:39 Strategies for Premature Ejaculation

39:07 The Five Minute Marker

40:15 Position Strategies for Lasting Longer

43:19 Building Confidence and Avoiding the Doom Loop

44:18 Conclusion and How to Reach Out

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Bio:

Erik Everhard (Mitch Hartwell) is a best-selling author, elite men’s coach, and former top-ranked adult film star who helps men get harder, last longer, and satisfy women faster — by increasing their “SQ” (sexual intelligence).

His methods combine tactical psychology, proven techniques, and strategic bedroom positioning — not theory. With over 5,000 real-world sexual encounters and a master-level certification in neuro-linguistic programming, Erik brings a rare, lived perspective that helps men eliminate limiting beliefs, master their performance, and lead with confidence in the bedroom.

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Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast

Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast

How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com

The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com

The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com

Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com

Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass

In this episode of Better Sex, host and sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman discusses a practical strategy for improving communication and collaboration in intimate relationships. She emphasizes the importance of understanding each other's perspectives and removing the pressure of making immediate decisions. By fostering empathy and seeking a win-win solution, couples can create a more harmonious decision-making process. The episode provides actionable steps on how partners can share their views and reach mutually beneficial outcomes.

00:00 Introduction to Better Sex

00:52 Communication Strategy for Couples

01:31 Understanding Each Other's Perspectives

02:33 Collaborative Decision Making

04:11 Seeking Win-Win Solutions

05:45 Conclusion and Listener Engagement

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Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast

Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast

How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com

The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com

The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com

Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com

Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass

In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host and sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman discusses the concept of not apologizing too quickly in intimate relationships. She explains why immediate apologies can often miss the mark and how important it is to first listen and empathize with your partner's feelings and experiences before apologizing. Jessa elaborates on why understanding the emotional impact on your partner and providing a space for them to express their hurt is crucial for a sincere apology. She also explores different motivations people have for quick apologies and provides strategies to avoid misunderstandings in the future.

00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast

00:44 The Importance of Not Apologizing Too Quickly

01:52 Understanding Your Partner's Experience

04:43 The Right Way to Apologize

06:06 Conclusion and Listener Engagement

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More info and resources:

Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast

Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast

How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com

The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com

The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com

Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com

Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass