When the lights go up and the whistle blows, she’s the calm and the storm. In this heartfelt Whistles & Wives season finale, host Sheka Espy sits down with her husband, Coach Frank Espy, for an unfiltered look at marriage, family, and life inside the coaching grind.

To close out Season 1, Sheka invites her favorite coach — and partner in life — Frank Espy to the mic. Together they open up about how football first wove into their love story, what it’s really like balancing marriage and family through endless seasons, and how intentional communication keeps them connected when life moves faster than the game clock.

From missed dinners to game-day pressure and long-distance living, the Espys pull back the curtain on the realities of being a coaching family. They share the mindset shifts, faith, and humor that help them stay grounded, plus the lessons learned from raising kids while chasing championships.

If you’ve ever wondered how coaches’ families make it all work — or you’re walking that same sideline — this candid conversation is equal parts truth, laughter, and love.

✨ Key Takeaways

• How Sheka & Frank first met and how football shaped their story
• Balancing marriage, parenting, and coaching life
• Staying connected through intentional time and communication
• Misconceptions about coaching families and career mobility
• Lessons from wins, losses, and everything between
• The Espy family’s plans beyond football

👥 Guest Bio

Frank Espy is a veteran football coach and husband of Whistles & Wives host Sheka Espy. With decades of coaching experience, Frank has mentored players on and off the field while leading his own family with purpose, discipline, and faith.

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Behind every whistle and every game, there’s a wife holding it all together. In this episode of Whistles & Wives, host Sheka Espy sits down with Kim Bonta, wife of Arkansas Tech special teams coordinator Chris Bonta and Secretary of the American Football Coaches’ Wives Association (AFCWA), for an honest, heartfelt conversation about life in football.

Episode Summary

What does it really take to raise kids, manage a career, and support a husband whose passion is all-encompassing football? Kim Bonta knows the answer well. From early coaching days in California JUCO ball to navigating cross-country moves, mental health challenges in her family, and balancing her own 20-year career, Kim shares how she has learned to embrace the chaos of coaching life with resilience and grace.

As the Secretary of the AFCWA, Kim also reveals why community is a lifeline for coaches’ wives, and how sisterhood provides strength when constant transitions feel overwhelming. Together with host Sheka Espy, she reflects on marriage, family, football, and the importance of support networks in the coaching world.

Whether you’re a coach’s wife, part of a sports family, or simply curious about what life looks like behind the whistle, this episode is packed with honesty, laughter, and encouragement.

Key Takeaways

• How Kim balances a 20-year career with football family life
• Parenting challenges through constant moves and transitions
• The mental health realities coaching families face
• Why the AFCWA community matters for coaches’ wives nationwide
• Marriage lessons: teamwork, trust, and resilience
• Kim’s game-day MVP → the heated, portable stadium chair every wife needs!

Guest Bio

Kim Bonta is the wife of Arkansas Tech special teams coordinator Chris Bonta and Secretary of the American Football Coaches’ Wives Association. A sales and business development professional with over 20 years of experience, Kim balances her career with football life while championing community and resilience among coaching families.

🔗 Learn more about AFCWA: https://www.afcwa.org

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Behind every whistle and every game, there’s a wife holding it all together. In this special episode of Whistles & Wives, we step into the circle of incredible women who live the coaching life every single day — and aren’t afraid to share the truth about it. .

This week, host Sheka Espy takes you inside the Black Coaches Wives Collective, recorded live in Scottsdale during their most recent wives retreat. What unfolded was a raw, heartfelt, and unforgettable conversation filled with laughter, encouragement, and honest reflections on the highs and lows of being a coach’s wife.

From unexpected moves and balancing motherhood to building resilience and finding community, these women open up about what it really takes to thrive in the world of athletics. Whether you’re a coach’s wife yourself, or simply curious about the life behind the whistle, this episode is a celebration of strength, sisterhood, and survival.

Key Takeaways

• The hardest parts of transition season: moving, solo parenting, and constant uncertainty
• How football and basketball shape marriages, families, and even children’s perspectives
• What it’s like to juggle careers, parenting, and supporting a partner in athletics
• The unique bond and sisterhood found in the coaching wives community
• Honest, relatable stories of resilience, faith, and laughter through it all

✨ In this episode you’ll hear from:

• Laton Smith (Temple University) – on the challenge of moving as both a coach and a coach’s wife
• Kimi Griffin (UT Martin) – on raising four children and building resilience through transitions
• Princess Pedew (Elizabeth City State University) – on commitment, patience, and living through loss and new beginnings
• Kesia Bivins (Alabama State University) – on balancing busy schedules and supporting a husband’s passion
• Alyssa Jones (North Carolina A&T) – on finding blessings in the moves and building relationships through football
• Nicole Shannon (University of South Carolina) – on learning to be intentional with limited family time
• Bria Stokes (University of Michigan) – on community, giving back, and raising children in the football life
• Mandisa Cook (Arizona Cardinals) – on walking in unity as a couple and following a plan together

This episode is a celebration of sisterhood, strength, and survival on the sidelines. Whether you’re part of the coaching world or just love stories of resilience and community, this one will inspire you.

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