In part one of this two-part episode, we kick things off by talking about the vision boards Janai and Kelsi made — what we're calling in, what we're intentionally building, and how our desires are shifting as we grow.

We break the ice with a new segment we're officially coining Whiteboard Confessions, playing games that lead us straight into honesty, laughs, and unexpected takes. From there, the conversation takes a turn into dating, standards, and self-awareness.

Janai shares about a recent date and the long list of things she didn't like — and Kelsi challenges whether that list exists because of pretty privilege… aka having options. That opens up a deeper discussion about how privilege shows up differently depending on gender, and whether pretty privilege for women mirrors what weaponized incompetence has historically been for men.

We unpack how women have evolved so much in the workplace and the world at large that they no longer need men in the same ways — and how some men internalize that shift through resentment, hostility, and a growing hatred toward the modern woman.

The episode closes by setting the stage for a deeper conversation on emotional intelligence — what it looks like, who's actually doing the work, and why it's becoming the real divider in modern relationships.

If you're interested in dating dynamics, gender roles, power shifts, and the uncomfortable truths shaping modern relationships, this episode is for you.

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In this New Year's Eve episode, we reflect on the habits, mindsets, and patterns we're leaving in 2025 — and the versions of ourselves we're intentionally bringing into 2026.

We play games, laugh a lot, and get real about what it actually takes to break cycles instead of just talking about change every January. From nipping old behaviors in the bud to remembering who we are at our core, this episode is about moving into the new year with clarity, softness, and self-trust.

Kelsi opens up about how gentle her inner monologue has become, and how learning to speak kindly to herself has changed the way she moves through life. Janai shares the contrast — navigating a much harsher inner voice — and together we unpack how the way we talk to ourselves shapes everything: confidence, habits, healing, and growth.

We talk about the power of speaking life into and over ourselves, catching the BS before it spirals, and choosing intention over self-criticism as we step into a new year.

If you're entering 2026 ready to release old versions of yourself, rewrite your inner dialogue, and move forward with more grace and self-awareness, this episode is for you.

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In this episode, we're getting into all things Christmas — the cozy moments, the chaos, the unexpected emotions, and the very unholy holiday drama our listeners shared with us.

Janai talks about hosting her first Christmas with her family, the pressure, the excitement, and the "am I really the adult now?" feeling that comes with stepping into that role. Kelsi gets real about navigating a bit of the holiday blues — the quiet sadness the holidays can bring, even when everything looks picture perfect on the outside.

And then… things get JUICY.

We read wild Christmas confessions from our listeners, including the story of a girl who hooked up with her married boss… only for his wife to friend request her afterward 👀 And another listener who wore the same matching Christmas pajamas with two different men — in the same season. We laughed. We gasped. We judged a little. And we loved every second.

We also played a fun (and messy) game answering spicy questions in an "I Would" or "I Wouldn't" format, forcing us to be honest about what we'd actually do if we were in some of these situations.

If the holidays make you feel everything at once — nostalgic, overwhelmed, emotional, a little chaotic, and very entertained — this episode is for you.

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