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Sometimes, there’s a wild dragon in our mind.

It makes our head turn small problems into something that feels threatening.

Creating a big disaster and making our thoughts catastrophizing.

The dragon can awaken at any time.

When we get triggered — by our partner, our boss, or even by ourselves — our calm state gets hijacked.

And suddenly, it feels like a fire-breathing dragon takes over our thoughts.

It twists how we see things.

It exaggerates danger.

And if we’re not careful, we don’t just have the dragon in our mind — we become it.

We say things we don’t mean.

We assume the worst.

We hurt other people — and ourselves — often without even realizing it.

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Negativity Bias Article: https://thedecisionlab.com/biases/negativity-bias

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► Episode Timestamps:

00:00 The Inner Dragon

04:25 Why The Dragon Exists

07:50 How To Tame The Dragon

10:46 Final Thoughts

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Why do intimate relationships always feel so emotionally overwhelming?

I’ve been wondering about that question ever since I started dating.

Somehow, relationships always felt more difficult for me than they seemed to be for other people.

Not for everyone, but there is definitely a group of people who doesn't understand my specific challenges with it.

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Regulation in Isolation Episode: https://youtu.be/PP9dvNWZ8p4?si=dCqQr20jMrTEE2RK

You Can’t Change Them Episode: https://youtu.be/JUu4MkLvrK4?si=AfBjjLIw7nAj8CDb

Sense of Self Article: https://www.healthline.com/health/sense-of-self

The Four Points of Balance: https://jamesmchristensen.com/blog/david-schnarchs-four-points-of-balance

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00:00 Intro - Relationships Feel Emotionally Overwhelming

Relationships Feel Emotionally Overwhelming

03:39 Why Your Relationships Feel Emotionally Overwhelming

10:05 How To Feel Less Emotionally Overwhelmed In Relationships

11:19 The Four Points Of Balance

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Emotions are just states that constantly change. No emotional state stays forever. Also emotions are survivable. This is what my therapist always said. You are not the emotions, which are the clouds, you are the sky that’s always there, no matter which emotion arises.

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00:00 Intro - Inside the Emotional Storm

01:43 Why Is The Emotional Storm So Powerful?

03:59 Calming The Storm

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► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory.

My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)

► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.

I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.