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  • Episode 18: New Year Resolutions
    Jan 4 2026
    Hosts: Greg, Rich, Jay, Derek, SarahOverviewThis episode opens the 2026 season with an honest, grounded look at why New Year’s resolutions so often fail—and what can actually help them last. The hosts focus on self‑compassion, small steps, and allowing space for real life. Instead of rigid promises, the conversation centers on clarity, flexibility, gratitude, and choosing changes that fit who we truly are.They also share personal experiences with past resolutions, how their thinking has shifted over time, and what is currently weighing on their hearts.Key Themes & TakeawaysSelf‑compassion matters more than willpower Vague resolutions fail; clear goals with steps last longer Change does not have to start on January 1 Small, realistic actions build momentum Accountability and community support improve consistency Progress beats perfection Gratitude makes goals meaningful instead of stressfulHighlightsGregGreg reframes resolutions as acts of kindness toward oneself rather than pressure to improve.Quote / Key Point:“A resolution is often a promise made in the moment. A goal has steps, structure, and a plan.”Noteworthy Insight:Greg highlights forgiveness for past attempts and treating yourself the way you would treat a friend.Additional Takeaways:Focus on being a better human today than yesterday Consistency matters more than intensity Avoid rigid language like “always” and “never”RichRich reflects on letting go of large, long‑term resolutions in favor of smaller, flexible adjustments.Quote / Key Point:“We can choose to begin a life adjustment at any time, not just the new year.”Noteworthy Insight:Parenting, life experience, and recovery from TBIs changed how Rich plans—favoring doable steps over big visions.Additional Takeaways:Resets can happen after setbacks Seasons and life events offer natural restart points Small goals make accountability possibleJayJay shares his focus on health and how progress began with one major change.Quote / Key Point:“My main goal is improving my health. If weight loss happens, that’s a bonus.”Noteworthy Insight:Quitting smoking outside of January became a catalyst for lasting momentum.Additional Takeaways:Writing goals down increases accountability Baby steps reduce overwhelm Small wins build confidence Gratitude strengthens commitmentDerekDerek centers on attention, focus, and the ability to begin again at any moment.Quote / Key Point:“The next moment, start brand new. You can start anew whenever you put your mind to it.”Noteworthy Insight:He speaks openly about distraction and the value of reminders and visual cues.Additional Takeaways:Slowing down creates progress Losing focus is not failure Awareness of self supports kindness toward othersSarahSarah brings vulnerability and realism after a difficult year.Quote / Key Point:“Not having a plan is having a plan in and of itself.”Noteworthy Insight:Rather than resolutions or naming the year, Sarah chooses openness and humility after a challenging 2025.Additional Takeaways:“Word of the year” approaches can reduce pressure Reading and slowing down offer reset Gratitude for supportive people aids healingWhat’s On Their HeartsGreg: Reconnecting with family and gentler self‑talk Rich: Long‑term family planning and navigating change Jay: Gratitude for sobriety, health, and time with his mother Derek: Re‑centering priorities and reducing self‑created stress Sarah: Simplifying life and appreciation for supportSupport Groupshttps://luma.com/calendar/cal-oyT0VPlVTKCPxBwFinal ReflectionThis episode reminds listeners that growth is not a race, and change does not require perfection. Whether your year begins with a resolution, a word, or simply showing up again tomorrow, every day offers a chance to move forward with kindness.If this conversation resonated, consider subscribing, leaving a review, or sharing it with someone who might need encouragement today.
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    20 Min.
  • Episode 17: Gratitude
    Dec 28 2025
    The Support and Kindness Podcast Episode 17: Gratitude Hosts: Greg Shaw, Rich, Jay, Derek Podcast Series: Support and Kindness Episode Summary In Episode 17, Greg and the co-hosts slow things down to talk about gratitude as a lived practice, not just good manners or positive thinking. The conversation explores how gratitude supports mental wellbeing, strengthens relationships, and helps people cope during hard seasons like grief, stress, addiction recovery, chronic pain, and isolation. The episode blends research, real-life experiences, and honest reflection. Gratitude is framed as something that does not erase pain, but helps people meet life as it is, with more steadiness and awareness. Listeners hear how practicing gratitude, even in very small ways, can reduce rumination, foster connection, and create meaningful emotional shifts over time. Key Themes & Takeaways • Gratitude is not denial or pretending things are okay • Gratitude can be practiced even when life feels messy or painful • Small, intentional practices make a real difference • Appreciation strengthens relationships and builds trust • Gratitude can soften stress, fear, and scarcity thinking • Community and connection are powerful sources of gratitude • Everyone has access to at least one small thing worth appreciating Noteworthy Observations & Quotes by Host Greg Greg frames gratitude as a tool for mental wellbeing, not a finish line after life improves. Quote: “Gratitude isn’t the finish line. It can be part of the path.” Key Insight: Greg emphasizes that gratitude changes how we meet life, not the circumstances themselves. He openly shares that holidays are hard for him due to family distance and estrangement, yet gratitude helps him stay grounded in what he does have. Observation: Greg highlights research showing that gratitude reduces rumination and supports emotional health, especially during difficult seasons. Rich Rich focuses on how gratitude creates ripple effects that extend far beyond a single moment. Quote: “I enjoy showing gratitude to people who never expect it because of the ripples that it creates.” Key Insight: Rich shares how expressing thanks, especially in everyday interactions like customer service or workplaces, boosts morale for both the giver and the receiver. Observation: He reflects on teaching gratitude to his children at every stage of life, from infancy to adulthood, showing that gratitude evolves as we grow. Jay Jay grounds gratitude in foundation-level awareness, especially when life feels overwhelming. Quote: “We all have something to be grateful for, even if it’s at a root level.” Key Insight: Jay speaks about gratitude in recovery spaces like Alcoholics Anonymous, emphasizing community, belonging, and support as sources of gratitude even when life feels broken. Observation: He shares a personal holiday reflection about spending one more Christmas with his grandmother, reminding listeners that gratitude often becomes clearest in moments of impermanence. Derek Derek brings a reflective and observational approach, focusing on simple, often overlooked moments. Quote: “It’s an honor and a privilege to have a warm shower. We take that for granted.” Key Insight: Derek practices gratitude by slowing down, breathing, and noticing simple physical and emotional experiences that remind him of being alive. Observation: He speaks about gratitude for human connection, beauty in nature, light through clouds, and how perspective can shift emotional overwhelm. Scientific & Psychological Insights Mentioned • Gratitude increases effort and engagement (call center study showed a 50% effort increase after simple appreciation) • Writing gratitude lists improves mood and wellbeing over time • Gratitude letters can produce lasting emotional benefits • Gratitude reduces rumination and worry loops • Gratitude inhibitors include fear, scarcity, comparison, and entitlement Suggested Gratitude Practice Three Good Things Exercise For at least one week: • Write down three things that went well today • Note why they went well • No forced positivity • Focus on noticing what is also true alongside the hard Support & Resources Mentioned • Kindness RX – https://kindnessrx.org • 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (US) – Call or text 988 •
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    22 Min.
  • Episode 16: Holiday Traditions and Memories
    Dec 21 2025
    Support and Kindness Podcast Episode 16: Holiday Traditions and Memories Hosts: Greg, Rich, Jay, Derek Episode Overview This episode explores holiday traditions around the world and the personal memories that give the season meaning. The conversation moves from ancient winter festivals and global rituals of light to deeply personal stories about family, food, grief, change, and chosen traditions. The core message is simple and grounding: traditions don’t have to be perfect or old to matter. Sometimes the smallest rituals carry the most light. Greg and the co-hosts reflect on how holidays can hold joy and ache at the same time, and how it’s okay to simplify, grieve, protect your peace, or create something new that fits your life now. Main Themes & Highlights Why humans have always created light-centered traditions during the darkest months of the yearHow traditions connect us to the past while still evolving over timeGlobal holiday customs that focus on renewal, remembrance, and communityThe emotional reality of changing family dynamics and holiday griefFood as memory, culture, and comfortThe power of simple, intentional ritualsChosen family and redefining what “home” can mean Global Traditions Discussed Winter solstice celebrations in Northern Europe (fires, candles, Yule log)Saturnalia (Ancient Rome): feasting, gift-giving, role reversalsChristmas: blended traditions, history of the Christmas treeLas Posadas (Mexico): reenacting Mary and Joseph’s search for shelterLucia Day (Sweden): candle-lit processions and saffron bunsHanukkah: eight nights of light and remembranceDiwali: Festival of Lights celebrated by Hindus, Jains, and SikhsLunar New Year: red decorations, firecrackers, and the legend of NianHogmanay (Scotland): first footing and symbolic giftsSpain’s 12 grapes: luck for each month of the new yearBonfire Night (UK): November 5th and the memory of Guy FawkesDía de los Muertos (Mexico): honoring loved ones who have diedObon (Japan): remembrance of ancestorsKrampusnacht, Mari Lwyd, Kallikantzaroi: folklore and winter mischiefNight of the Radishes (Oaxaca, Mexico)KFC on Christmas (Japan)Roller skating to church (Venezuela)Hiding brooms (Norway folklore) Food as Tradition Italian American Feast of Seven FishesFamily recipes passed down and sometimes lostHoliday foods as emotional anchors rather than perfection projects Voices & Reflections from the Hosts Greg (Host) Key Reflection: Greg centers the episode on the idea that you don’t need a whole holiday to create meaning. One small act can be enough. Quote: “Sometimes it’s one text, one meal, one song, or one shared laugh.” Takeaway: Traditions are not about performance or perfection. They are intentional acts of connection that can be created at any point in life. Noteworthy Observation: Greg openly names that holidays can hold both warmth and pain, and reassures listeners that there is no “right way” to do the season. Rich Key Reflection: Rich shares how consistent, low-stress family gatherings transformed his experience of holidays. Quote: “There is no tension. There is no stress. It’s the most loving Thanksgiving and Christmas environment I’ve ever been a part of.” Memorable Story: Rich remembers his grandmother’s famous “Ruth’s Rolls,” a simple food that holds his childhood joy. Takeaway: Stability, emotional safety, and kindness matter more than elaborate planning or traditions done “right.” Jay Key Reflection: Jay reflects on smaller family gatherings that felt peaceful, loving, and deeply personal. Quote: “That’s one of the best memories of my childhood… just the happiest times I can remember.” Memorable Foods: Shrimp dip (cream cheese, shrimp, cocktail sauce)Corn pudding passed down through the family Takeaway: Even when families change due to loss or divorce, memories can remain a source of comfort rooted in togetherness. Noteworthy Observation: Jay emphasizes gratitude for time with loved ones and recognizes chosen family as equally meaningful. Derek Key Reflection: Derek speaks openly about grief, simplicity, and learning to live without ex
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    30 Min.
  • Episode 15: Forgiveness
    39 Min.
  • Episode 14: Understanding Chronic Pain - Beyond Hurt
    Dec 8 2025
    The Support & Kindness Podcast – Episode 14 Title: Understanding Chronic Pain: Beyond Hurt Recording date: December 6, 2025 Hosts: Greg (host), Rich, Jay, Derek, Sam Important Disclaimer None of the hosts are medical professionals. This episode offers education, validation, and peer support. It is not medical advice. Always consult your healthcare provider before starting, stopping, or changing any treatment or medication. Episode Overview Chronic pain is much more than “something hurts.” It can change: Your bodyYour brainYour relationshipsYour work and financesThe way you see yourself and the world In this episode, Greg and co‑hosts Rich, Jay, Derek, and Sam sit down for an honest, vulnerable conversation about: What it’s really like to live with ongoing painWhat helps them keep going What Is Chronic Pain? Greg opens with a simple grounding definition: Chronic pain = pain that lasts longer than normal healing timeUsually 3–6 months or more It’s different from acute pain, which is your body’s early warning system that something is wrong. When pain persists, the nervous system can become overly sensitive, so: Ordinary sensations or minor activities can feel disproportionately painful. Chronic pain doesn’t stay in one box. It can: Impact on the Body Weaken the immune system Easier to get sickHarder to recover Affect heart and circulation Higher blood pressureFatigueChanges in heart rate Disrupt digestion NauseaAppetite changesStomach issues Change weight Weight loss or weight gainOften tied to changes in activity, appetite, and medication side effects Affect breathing Shallow, tight breathingEspecially when pain and anxiety show up together Turn everyday tasks into major challenges Walking, standing, cleaning, cooking, showeringOn the worst days, even brushing your teeth or taking a shower can feel impossible Force changes in hobbies and movement Sports, crafts, music, and exercise may need to be: ReducedAdaptedPaused or stopped How Chronic Pain Affects the Mind Chronic pain doesn’t just live in the body. It also changes how the mind works. Brain Fog & Concentration Losing words mid‑sentenceForgetting thingsStruggling to focus on simple tasks Decision Fatigue Even small choices feel huge: What to do nextWhether to go outWhether to cook or order in It can feel like climbing a mountain when you’re already exhausted. Motivation Shifts You may still want thingsBut feel too drained or overwhelmed to start This often feeds: GuiltShameSelf‑criticism Especially in a world that celebrates “pushing through” pain instead of respecting limits. Emotional & Social Impact Greg and the co‑hosts talk about how chronic pain affects: EmotionsIdentityRelationships Common emotional and social impacts: Anxiety & Stress Fear of flare‑upsWorries about the future, work, and moneyFeeling like life is shrinking Self‑Image & Self‑Esteem Feeling “broken,” “lazy,” or “not enough”Especially when people don’t understand or don’t believe you Coping with Substances Some people turn to alcohol or drugs trying to get reliefIt’s completely understandable—and can still create serious problems later Isolation Canceling plans at the last minuteMissing family eventsLeaving early to lie downWithdrawing because you don’t want to disappoint people Family Roles When a partner, parent, or caregiver lives with pain, roles at home often shift. This can be stressful for everyone involved Intimacy Physical closeness and sex can become: PainfulComplicatedHard to talk about Even in loving relationships. Work & Money Missed daysReduced hoursLosing a job entirelyOngoing medical bills and treatment costs The Invisible Side of Chronic Pain One of the hardest parts, as Greg puts it, is that chronic pain is often invisible. People around you might say: “You don’t look sick.”“You were fine yesterday.”“It’s probably stress.” Scans and blood tests may come back “normal” even when the pain is intense. Pain is complex: it involves both body and brain, and current tests don’t capture everything. Greg emphasizes: “If you live with chronic pain, even if tests show nothing, your pain is still real. Your experience is valid and it matters. Not seeing anything on a scan doesn’t mean you’re imagining it or making it up.” Co‑Host Stories & Key Insights Greg invites each co‑host to share three things: How their pain beganOne emotional or social challengeOne practical strategy that helps them get through the day Rich – Migraines, TBI, Missing Milestones How it began: Multiple car accidents as a teenLayered on top of earlier sports concussionsLed to traumatic brain injuries, headaches, and migraines that still affect him decades later Social/emotional impact: Avoided concerts, sporting events, noisy environmentsLight and sound could turn a headache into a full migraineMissed holidays, left gatherings early, skipped “fun times” to lie down with a washcloth ...
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    31 Min.
  • Episode 13: Holiday Stress!
    18 Min.
  • Episode: 12 – Substance Use Nostalgia
    Nov 23 2025
    Title: Substance Use Nostalgia – When “Good Memories” Become Risky Triggers Podcast: The Support and Kindness Podcast Episode: 12 – Substance Use Nostalgia Release Date: Saturday, November 22, 2025 Hosts: Greg (host), with co-hosts Derek, Rich, Liam, and Jay Episode Summary In this powerful and honest episode, the team explores “substance use nostalgia” – that pull to look back on past drinking or drug use as if it were all fun, freedom, and connection, while conveniently forgetting the harm and consequences. Greg and his co-hosts talk about how this kind of nostalgia can quietly become a major relapse trigger, especially when it shows up as: A favorite song from your using daysOld hangouts or people you used to party withPhotos, objects, or even “art” related to substancesEmotional upheaval, loneliness, or stress Each person shares personal examples of nostalgia, cravings, and triggers, along with the tools they use to stay grounded in recovery. The group emphasizes that having memories of using doesn’t mean you’re failing. Cravings and nostalgic thoughts are normal – what matters is how you respond to them. By the end, listeners walk away with practical strategies (like the “3 R’s” and HALT), reassurance that they’re not alone, and reminders that there is also such a thing as positive nostalgia in recovery. Key Concepts From Greg Substance use nostalgia defined: “Substance use nostalgia… is a dangerous distortion of that feeling. It's a longing for the feelings and the experiences associated with drugs, substances, or alcohol, and it's a significant trigger for relapse.”It romanticizes the past by: Highlighting the highs: euphoria, social connection, escapeFiltering out the lows: hangovers, withdrawal, embarrassment, consequences “It's a mental trap… creating internal conflict between the desire for recovery and the idealized memory of using.” Triggers and cravings: Triggers are cues that remind the brain of past substance use: Internal: thoughts, feelings, body states (HALT: Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired), sadness, anxietyExternal: people, places, paraphernalia, celebrations, and even overconfidence “A craving is a temporary wave that fades if you don't give in.” The 3 R’s – Immediate internal coping protocol: Recognize: “Recognize the feeling for what it is – it's a craving.”Remind: “Remind yourself that you don't have to act on it.”Remove: “If possible, remove yourself from that situation.” On his own triggers (inhalants): “Just seeing that canister… I could taste it. I could taste the sensation, I could taste the fluttering in my chest as my heart was speeding up… I could feel that euphoric wave rising up from within me.”Greg avoids keeping inhalant products at home and uses a battery-powered blower instead of canned air: “I can't tempt fate.” Closing reassurance: “If you feel that pull back to the old using days, you're not broken and you're not alone.”“A craving is like a wave – it rises and it falls and you don't have to ride it all the way to relapse.” Key Insights From Rich On romanticizing the past: “It romanticizes the past… and it can be really dangerous to romanticize former drug use. You're putting yourself back in that position, putting yourself back in that place.”He notes how quickly a song, a social memory, or a visual reminder can transport you back to those moments. Long-term abstinence and changing relationship to cravings: “Having a very, very long time abstinent… 27 years… my cravings are not… I don't view them as threatening, I don't view them as craving. I view them purely as memory, purely as memory of youth and nothing more.”Contrast with early recovery: “When they were fresh, when I was newly sober, they were aggressive cravings. They were things that I fought against. And that's the path of recovery.” Blotter paper and subtle triggers: Rich shares a unique example: looking at “blotter paper” art (LSD on paper with designs): “I came here to look at artwork… but it very quickly devolved into people discussing strength of dosages and all sorts of… facts about drug on paper, not art on paper, and I had to excuse myself.” Interesting observation: Even something that seems harmless or “artistic” can shift into a drug-glorifying conversation.He acknowledges he was “probably walking a line in the first place” just by engaging with that content. Noteworthy point: Rich emphasizes the importance of “focusing on the whole picture” of substance use, not just the highlights: “Not just remembering the feeling of the high, but… the ways that it affected you and your life, all aspects of your life.” Key Insights From Liam On mixed memories – joy and pain: “I have so many memories that revolve around substance use… The problem… there's a lot of good in those memories b
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    21 Min.
  • Episode 11: What Does Recovery Look Like To You?
    Nov 16 2025
    Title: The Support and Kindness Podcast with Greg and Rich Episode 11: What Does Recovery Look Like To You? Date: November 15, 2025 Hosts: Greg, Rich, Jay Episode summary: This episode explores how recovery can look different depending on the person and the context—addiction, eating disorders, mental health, or physical rehabilitation. The conversation emphasizes community, accountability, coping skills, and the importance of seeking help. Jay shares an honest account of addiction and long-term sobriety, Rich focuses on physical rehabilitation and the power of milestones and community, and Greg reflects on family, stigma, and the transformation that recovery can bring. Together, they stress that recovery is not linear, setbacks are feedback, and asking for help is brave. Key themes: Recovery is personal and non-linearCommunity and connection reduce isolation and improve outcomesCoping skills replace harmful habits over timeSetbacks are learning opportunities, not failuresMental health support is essential in all forms of recoveryAccountability and routine foster progressForgiveness—especially self-forgiveness—is a crucial step Noteworthy quotes and observations: From Greg: Quote: “Recovery is not a straight line or a checklist. It’s more of a winding river… sometimes it’s smooth and sometimes it’s rough, but it’s always changing.”Observation: Greg reframes relapse as “valuable feedback about triggers or skills that still need to be built.”Personal insight: He shares a powerful story of his stepmother’s transformation through sobriety and treatment—moving from chaos and harm to kindness and love—highlighting how recovery can change identity and relationships.Call to action: “I care. People care. I love you. You are worth it… seek help.” He provides concrete resources and urges listeners to reach out. From Jay: Quote: “They say that if you hear enough in the rooms of Alcoholics Anonymous, that one day something clicks. And one day something did click.”Milestone: Coming up on 11 years sober on December 5; earned his 10-year coin; sober from both alcohol and heroin.Insight: Gradual commitment helped—“I was just going to wait a week… then two… then a month”—showing how short-term goals can build long-term sobriety.Observation: He connects physical injury and addiction, sharing a traumatic brain injury and the painful shift from pain meds to heroin, underscoring the intersection of medical care and substance use.Key point: “Eventually you have to forgive yourself… it’s a necessary step of recovery in any fashion.” From Rich: Quote: “There’s a mental health side of recovery to injury or to addiction that can’t be ignored.”Focus: Physical rehabilitation milestones—range of motion, weight-bearing, and measurable progress with a therapist.Observation: The rehab schedule builds a “rehabilitation community” that supports accountability and motivation.Insight: Modern medicine and therapy can restore careers after injuries that were once career-ending (e.g., ACL, Achilles), highlighting hope and the role of persistence and care. Main takeaways: Recovery looks different for everyone—addiction, eating disorders, mental health, injury—and every path is valid.Measurable milestones (days sober, therapy sessions, range-of-motion goals) build momentum and hope.Community—12-step rooms, therapists, coaches, friends, faith—is a protective factor; isolation worsens struggle.Setbacks are part of the process; treat them as data to adjust supports and skills.Mental health support should be integrated into all recovery plans.Self-compassion and forgiveness are essential—toward self and others.Practical plans may include therapy, medication, support groups, physical therapy, boundaries, joyful activities, nourishing food, and movement that feels good. Episode highlights: Jay’s candid story from first drink at age nine, many rehabs, brain surgery after a drunk driving accident, transition from pain meds to heroin, and long-term sobriety.Rich’s detailed view on physical recovery: tracking progress weekly, building rapport with therapists and fellow patients, and how accountability helps you show up.Greg’s deeply personal reflection on family change through recovery and his strong, compassionate appeal to listeners to seek help. Actionable insights: Set short, achievable goals that compound (e.g., “wait one week” can become “wait one month”).Build a support network and show up regularly—routine creates accountability.Track tangible progress (coins, session counts, reps, degrees of motion) to visualize growth.Reframe setbacks as signals to adjust coping strategies or supports.Incorporate mental health care alongside physical rehab or sobriety programs.Practice self-forgiveness to move forward. Resources mentioned: SAMHSA
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    16 Min.