“Being activated doesn’t mean you’re failing. It means something needs your attention.” 🔊👂🏽

In this episode, we unpack one of the biggest healing myths: that being triggered means you’re going backwards. It doesn’t. Healing isn’t about becoming unbothered — it’s about learning how to return to yourself without shame. 🏠❤️‍🩹

Look, getting triggered does not mean you’re slip sliding back into old, harmful ways. 🛝

It doesn’t mean that you are failing at life as a person. You are still allowed to feel a full spectrum of emotions like jealousy, fear and guilt. 🎭This episode reframes healing as regulation, repair, and self-trust — not perfection. A secure relationship isn’t one without triggers; it’s one where rupture can be followed by repair, communication, and safety. 👷🏽‍♀️🏗️

We want you to have a regulated nervous system - but like, what does that even mean? Don’t worry. We got you covered. Shaheena shares lekker breathing exercises and mantras to help you get started. 💆🏽‍♀️🧘🏽‍♀️

You are not broken because you felt something deeply.You are healing because you noticed it — and chose safety instead of shame. 🌱🌻

Triggered doesn’t mean damaged. It means you’re learning a new way to come home to yourself.

Hey Skinnebekkies! The weekend is almost here 😝

And if you’re anything like us, you need something to get you over the finish line.

So we’re choosing softness this week.

In this episode, we unpack what a real soft life actually looks like.

Everyone wants a soft life…

Until it requires a hard conversation. 🗣️🥊💬

Soft life isn’t face masks and bath bombs, it’s truth bombs. 💆🏽‍♀️🛀🏽🧼

It has nothing to do with aesthetics, filters, or disappearing to keep the peace. 🪷☮️

Softness isn’t passive. It’s honest, regulated, and protected by boundaries. 😌🧘🏽‍♀️

We talk about:

• Why rest without guilt is revolutionary

• How boundaries are the work behind peace

• Saying no without a backstory, apology, or emotional cushioning

• The difference between peacekeeping and actual peace

• Why feeling guilty doesn’t mean you’re doing something wrong

• How firmness with others allows softness with yourself

If you’ve ever:

• Explained yourself into exhaustion

• Said yes while resenting it

• Confused people-pleasing with kindness

• Wanted peace but felt scared to enforce it

This episode is for you.

So go make a cup of coffee or tea, sit down, and lock in. ☕🍵

It’s all about no, no, no, no, no and not, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah! 🎵🎶

Season Four is HERE 🖤🌱We’re back, babes.

New season. New look. Is it cute?

This episode, we're defaulting back to our factory settings, like for your phone, except not, it's for you, and we are asking who we were before all the trauma?

Who are you without survival mode?
Without labels?
Without other people’s expectations?

Because softness doesn’t mean avoiding hard truths.
Sometimes healing hurts before it heals.
Sometimes growth is klom cringe.
Sometimes it’s laughing through the discomfort.

And yes — it is okay to care what people think of you.
Stop lying to yourself if you’re pretending it’s not.

This episode is honest.
It’s tender.
It’s funny.
It’s uncomfortable in the way that leads to freedom.

Eeeeeeeeeeeek.

Sound good?
Okay lekker 😌💫

🤔 Who are you when no one’s watching?

📸 And who are you when everyone is?

We talk about the gap between who we are and who we post.

Why we only see the highlights.

Why validation isn’t wrong — but pretending might be.

Oversharing. Lying. Parasocial relationships.

And the quiet pressure of living life according to social media timelines.

This episode dives into the real self vs the online persona — validation, oversharing, curated lives, and the quiet pressure to live life by the feed.

Messy. Honest. Necessary. 💥

Aagh you know where the links are bestie x

Two VERY different things, but ag… life will mos teach you until you learn properly.

We spoke about naming your boundaries, setting them, and actually keeping them — even when it feels kak uncomfortable 😅.

Early detection is ALWAYS easier… for you and for the guilty parties 😂.

Family, friends, romantic partners — nobody is exempt.

Boundaries aren’t disrespect 🙅🏽‍♀️

They’re clarity.

They’re care.

They’re the difference between connection and full-blown chaos 💥.

And babes — watch for the vibes, but not whole time whole time 👀😂. LISTEN instead.

That’s the important part.

Because as usual… the technical grinch got us 😒😂

Don’t vesuip in the boundaries. Hold them with softness, but HOLD THEM.

This took 7 years. Osss is MOEG.

The technicals still have us in a chokehold and honestly… at this point? It is what it is, maaan. 😭🎙️

But we made it. And we’re coming in HOT with something I legit never heard of before: Limerance.

Wat is daai even? 👀

All I’m saying is… once you know, you can’t un-know. And suddenly?

HARD RELATE.

Skat, we’ve ALL been there… maybe. 😅

Come laugh with us, at us — ek care nie.

Just listen, and maybe learn something new about yourself… or someone you smaak. 👀💛

🎧 Linky links in the bio.

I wasn’t grieving him — I was grieving the version of my life I thought I finally deserved. 💔

The loss wasn’t the person… it was the future I let myself believe in.

Future faking doesn’t just break your heart — it breaks your imagination.

I didn’t fall for him; I fell for the future he painted — and that’s what hurt.

The betrayal wasn’t in the leaving, it was in the dreaming.

Healing began when I realised I wasn’t naive — I was hopeful. ✨

I had to forgive myself for loving a life that never existed.

Rebuilding self-trust starts here: hope didn’t fail me — he did.

The hardest goodbye is the one you say to the future you thought was yours.

It wasn’t delusion. It was desire — and someone took advantage of that.

🔥 Disclaimer: The video quality is ass, but the conversation is FIRE.

Just be lekker and listen — you mos don’t need to see us. 😌

Netflix: “Here’s another serial killer series.”

Us: “Lekker. Add spice and all the sauce — we’ll take a full Gatsby, cut in 4.” 😭💀

From horror to habit, babes — the macabre’s got us in a chokehold.

Netflix feeds, we consume, then act ‘so disturbed’ like we didn’t just binge the whole thing in one night 😭

What the actual, babes?! Hoekom?

We’re talking Monsters, specifically Ed Gein — and our sick craving for the dark side 👀But like… what does that actually say about us?

Is OS okay? Or does this deeply disturbing content make the real world feel a bit more bearable?

Thing is though — these stories are true! 💀

🎧 New episode out now. Go listen there, man.