“Being activated doesn’t mean you’re failing. It means something needs your attention.” 🔊👂🏽

In this episode, we unpack one of the biggest healing myths: that being triggered means you’re going backwards. It doesn’t. Healing isn’t about becoming unbothered — it’s about learning how to return to yourself without shame. 🏠❤️‍🩹

Look, getting triggered does not mean you’re slip sliding back into old, harmful ways. 🛝

It doesn’t mean that you are failing at life as a person. You are still allowed to feel a full spectrum of emotions like jealousy, fear and guilt. 🎭This episode reframes healing as regulation, repair, and self-trust — not perfection. A secure relationship isn’t one without triggers; it’s one where rupture can be followed by repair, communication, and safety. 👷🏽‍♀️🏗️

We want you to have a regulated nervous system - but like, what does that even mean? Don’t worry. We got you covered. Shaheena shares lekker breathing exercises and mantras to help you get started. 💆🏽‍♀️🧘🏽‍♀️

You are not broken because you felt something deeply.You are healing because you noticed it — and chose safety instead of shame. 🌱🌻

Triggered doesn’t mean damaged. It means you’re learning a new way to come home to yourself.

Hey Skinnebekkies! The weekend is almost here 😝

And if you’re anything like us, you need something to get you over the finish line.

So we’re choosing softness this week.

In this episode, we unpack what a real soft life actually looks like.

Everyone wants a soft life…

Until it requires a hard conversation. 🗣️🥊💬

Soft life isn’t face masks and bath bombs, it’s truth bombs. 💆🏽‍♀️🛀🏽🧼

It has nothing to do with aesthetics, filters, or disappearing to keep the peace. 🪷☮️

Softness isn’t passive. It’s honest, regulated, and protected by boundaries. 😌🧘🏽‍♀️

We talk about:

• Why rest without guilt is revolutionary

• How boundaries are the work behind peace

• Saying no without a backstory, apology, or emotional cushioning

• The difference between peacekeeping and actual peace

• Why feeling guilty doesn’t mean you’re doing something wrong

• How firmness with others allows softness with yourself

If you’ve ever:

• Explained yourself into exhaustion

• Said yes while resenting it

• Confused people-pleasing with kindness

• Wanted peace but felt scared to enforce it

This episode is for you.

So go make a cup of coffee or tea, sit down, and lock in. ☕🍵

It’s all about no, no, no, no, no and not, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah! 🎵🎶

Season Four is HERE 🖤🌱We’re back, babes.

New season. New look. Is it cute?

This episode, we're defaulting back to our factory settings, like for your phone, except not, it's for you, and we are asking who we were before all the trauma?

Who are you without survival mode?
Without labels?
Without other people’s expectations?

Because softness doesn’t mean avoiding hard truths.
Sometimes healing hurts before it heals.
Sometimes growth is klom cringe.
Sometimes it’s laughing through the discomfort.

And yes — it is okay to care what people think of you.
Stop lying to yourself if you’re pretending it’s not.

This episode is honest.
It’s tender.
It’s funny.
It’s uncomfortable in the way that leads to freedom.

Eeeeeeeeeeeek.

Sound good?
Okay lekker 😌💫