Pain is inevitable, but suffering does not have to be.

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Dr Emily Musgrove, our resident psychologist and general provider of wisdom, is here to talk about radical acceptance.

Drawing inspiration from our holy grail episode with Gina Chick, Dr Em deep dives radical acceptance; what is it, how do we cultivate it, and why is it important to us as human beings?

According to Dr Em, radical acceptance is not about liking or accepting (insert profanity here) situations or circumstances, or denying an experience, but rather, accepting the pain inside of us to avoid the reaction of suffering.

Instead of feeling better, it’s about finding a better way of feeling.

For Hugh, the concept of radical acceptance really hits close to home, and he reflects on how it has changed his life insurmountably.

Dr Emily, we love ya, and we missed ya.

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0:00 – Getting the Gina Chick zoomies
6:23 – The Radical Acceptance origin story
14:20 – Change how you relate
21:19 – On a global scale
27:25 – An Unwanted Guest
34:42 – The third option
40:38 – Grieving the loss of what you wanted
45:28 – Living proof ft. Hugh
53:18 – Anxious about my anxiety
1:03:26 – Main character moment
1:10:17 – Putting it in practice

🫖Other episodes of The Imperfects mentioned on this episode

• Gina Chick - Don’t Fight Life - https://bit.ly/4b9nAVG

📖 Things to read

• Unstuck, by Dr Emily Musgrove - https://bit.ly/4o8JFay
• The Happiness Trap, by Russ Harris - https://bit.ly/4kRn3Lq
• The Guest House, by Rumi - https://bit.ly/4kXhaMS

💻Things to check out

• Tara Brach - RAIN meditation - https://bit.ly/3MNou0M
• Alfred Adler - Three Sided Column - https://bit.ly/3P1gSbJ
• Jill Bolte Taylor - 90 second shelf life of emotions - https://bit.ly/4aV5rtL

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You just have to be a good parent 30-40% of the time. According to the research, and parenting expert Maggie Dent.

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In our Academy of Imperfection, Maggie schools parents Hugh and Josh, and trusted non-parental figure Ryan, about the ‘no matter what’ rule, the importance of micro connections and the beauty of a well-timed fart.

An advocate for imperfect parenting (which is REALLY great for brand alignment), Maggie insists on the significance of unconditional love when raising boys.

Maggie you are wonderful. This was wonderful. You’re the best.

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0:00 – Why boys are better than girls
6:22 – The science of boys
14:02 – Shedding the shame
22:28 – Growing healthy boys
31:09 – Connecting with your rooster
42:56 – The S words: screens and social media
47:00 – The good enough factors
57:45 – Correcting the narrative
1:06:05 – Importance of Lightness + Letting go of mistakes
1:11:41 – Raising an autistic boy
1:16:05 – How do you resist the easy method

🫖Other episodes of The Imperfects mentioned on this episode

• Hugh’s ADHD…brief - https://bit.ly/4aofEjd

📖 Things to read

• You can find all of Maggie’s books here - https://bit.ly/46g4GK7
• Help Me Help My Teen by Maggie Dent (page 106 to converse with teens) - https://bit.ly/4aYi2NO
• Maggie’s Fragile Boy Friendship Blog Post - https://bit.ly/4qUqzGw

📺 Things to watch

• Bluey ‘Octopus’ episode - https://bit.ly/4riF2Ng
• Marc-Andre Leclerc - The Alpinist - https://bit.ly/4tEsaCR

💻 Things to check out

• Allan Schore’s Brain Development for Boys research - https://bit.ly/3OfRyi9

🎧 Things to listen to

• The Good Enough Dad with Maggie Dent - https://bit.ly/4aGq2la
• Parental As Anything - https://bit.ly/4qHAleM

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What do you do when your 3 day-old-baby just doesn’t wake up?

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Motherhood is really hard. And Bron Lewis isn’t afraid to talk about it (anymore).

Joining us in the Vulnerabilitea House, Bron answers the question ‘when was a time you genuinely needed help and were you able to ask for it?’, and recounts the worst week of her life.

Deals with the devil, post-natal anxiety, and post-natal depression, Bron is incredibly vulnerable with Hugh and Ryan, sharing how the love from friends, professional help, and medication allowed her to return to herself.

Bron, it was a delight.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/qc9ZNO6VpeY

0:00 – We’re all best friends / fathers / daughters
8:51 – When was a time you genuinely needed help?
18:44 – Long nights, relentless days
25:42 – Socially accepted punishment
33:36 – Using pain to drown out the noise
40:50 – Obviously, I can do it all
45:44 – It doesn’t have to be this hard
54:55 – On day 3, he didn’t wake up
1:07:27 – The worst week of her life
1:22:54 – This should feel good, shouldn’t it?
1:33:01 – The aftermath

🚨If you, or someone you know, is struggling with postpartum depression or anxiety, these are a few great resources

• PANDA - 1300 726 306
• ForWhen - 1300 24 23 22
• Beyond Blue - 1300 22 4636

📖 Things to read

• I’m Not Mad (Anymore) by Bron Lewis - https://bit.ly/3ObBgGQ

🎟️ Things to go see

• Bron’s Comedy Show, Chaos - https://bit.ly/4aabRWz

🎧Things to listen to

• Chains by Tina Arena - https://bit.ly/4arb1DI
• Work Hates podcast - https://bit.ly/4arbdCW
• Your Two Drunk Aunties podcast - https://bit.ly/4cnJndj
• Good Sheilas podcast - https://bit.ly/4rkGxun

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Two cataclysmic events have shaped Dr Lucy Hone’s relationship with grief, and resilience.

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Today in the Academy of Imperfection, we welcome Dr Lucy Hone. Dr Lucy’s work focuses on making sense of the senseless, and helping others to do the same.

As a legitimate expert in grief, resilience and wellbeing, Dr Lucy is able to blend the science with her own lived experience.

This episode explores living losses (divorce, estrangement, infertility), grief comparison, as well as the research around post-traumatic growth. Guided by questions from Dr Lucy’s latest book, How will I ever get through this?, Hugh, Josh and Ryan ask Dr Lucy why grief feels so lonely, how you are supposed to accept loss, and will you ever be happy again, amongst others.

This is a special one.

0:00 – An Unsuspecting Saturday Morning
12:11 – Grief comparison
21:25 – How am I supposed to accept this?
31:14 – How do you keep hope alive?
35:48 – Why do I feel so lonely?
50:20 – Will I ever be happy again?
56:36 – Letting the other children live
1:03:44 – Do you know your strengths?
1:09:12 – Who and what do you want to live for?
1:14:59 – Who and what is good in your world?

To full this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/Zyb7kELxFxI

🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

• Dr Emily - Grief Lightening - https://bit.ly/3ZPVNmO
• Dr Emily - Other People Matter - https://bit.ly/3Oku8b4
• Dr Emily - Goals For Your Goals - https://bit.ly/4rAK3AF

📖 Things to read

• How Will I Ever Get Through This by Dr Lucy Hone - https://bit.ly/4bAWO9w
• Resilient Grieving by Dr Lucy Hone - https://bit.ly/4kpkf8g
• Oscillation Grief Theory - https://bit.ly/4qZ5WK1
• Michael F. Steger - Meaning and Purpose Work - https://michaelfsteger.com
• J. William Worden - Four Tasks of Mourning - https://bit.ly/3NTGPcU

💻Things to check out

• Dr Lucy’s website - https://www.drlucyhone.com
• 3 Secrets of Resilient People TedTalk - https://bit.ly/3Zguj9S
• Dr Lucy’s ‘Look Forward To’ Calendar
• VIA Strengths test - http://bit.ly/4h2KYFJ
• Coping With Loss community on Facebook - https://bit.ly/3NTnDvT
• Welcome to Holland poem - https://bit.ly/4kgB0lH
• Will Arnett + Conan O’Brien on Grief - https://bit.ly/4a06320

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Stop. Everything. Now. It’s Claudia Karvan day.

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An icon of the screen, and of the heart, Claudia is Australian entertainment royalty.

Claudia’s life itself feels like a movie (no one else grew up in a nightclub, did they?) and it was an absolute privilege to listen to all the lessons that she has learnt along the way.

With incredible grace, Claudia talks to Hugh, Ryan and Josh about playing the long game during divorce, and how she came to the realisation that it wasn’t up to her to fix everything.

Claudia speaks openly about separating the person from the diagnosis, and how, and why, she thinks so often about death.

This is one for the highlight reel.

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0:00 – Hugh ‘questionable-decisions’ van Cuylenburg
12:24 – The role of a lifetime
17:55 – An unconventional childhood
28:50 – It’s not up to you to fix everything
39:55 – The opening of another world
45:47 – Doing it all (with support)
51:12 – Love and family HER way
59:33 – Play the long game
1:07:15 – Managing mental ill-health
1:24:39 – The benefit of helping others
1:26:48 – How to love in a healthy way

🥸 Which Imperfects Host Are You Quiz? - https://tally.so/r/Xx4PEO

🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

• Stephen Curry - I Dug a Hole … and Found Myself - https://bit.ly/3ZpPNkN
• Hannah Ferguson - Outspoken But Not Broken - https://bit.ly/3M8SC6y

📺 Things to watch

• Love My Way - https://bit.ly/4qFCjNA
• The Secret Life of Us - https://bit.ly/3Z1Thtt
• The Queen of Versailles - https://bit.ly/3Z5FemE
• Australian Story - The Secret Life of Claudia Karvan - https://bit.ly/3ZE8p0g
• Who Do You Think You Are? with Claudia Karvan - https://bit.ly/4bIw3QL
• Bump - https://bit.ly/49O16Jv

📖 Things to read

• The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying by Sogyal Rinpoche - https://bit.ly/4k8qdtR

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Ryan’s got news.

Well, past-Ryan had news, and now future-Ryan is going to reflect on how present-day-Ryan is currently feeling about said news. Get it? It’s reflecting on a reflection about a rejection.

Today we’re giving you two for the price of none, and bringing you two of the most memorable moments from our subscriber based show A Little More Imperfects.

With both segments focusing on wildest dreams, Hugh, Ryan and Josh explore how to navigate regret when you’re not at your best, and how to show yourself compassion and love when your dreams are, well, crushed.

Also, we ask Hugh what happened to him today.

If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/Ilg-r9gHGPk

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🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

• James van Cuylenburg - Love Your Wonky Bricks - https://bit.ly/457hYZA
• Ryan Shelton - Shame, Jealousy & Purpose - https://bit.ly/454PJL6
• Isaac Humphries - Coming Out on Court - https://bit.ly/4jQtxtD

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Do you believe in ghosts? Josh doesn’t, Ryan does, and Hugh is actually being haunted.

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It’s the second episode of our super sexy summer series (the alliteration is wild in this episode), and we’re revisiting the time that Hugh got haunted.

Blending together a few episodes of A Little More Imperfects, our subscriber platform that you can sign up for below, we’ll introduce you to Geraint the shamanic healer, what happened during Hugh’s ghost busting appointment, and whether Hugh has had any paranormal activity since.

And finally, whether this whole ordeal has convinced Josh that ghosts are real.

Long live summer!

0:00 – A phoenus? Draw it
4:17 – Team Josh v Team Ryan
10:28 – Meeting the shamanic healer
16:25 – The not-so-light-hearted update
30:01 – Cursed artwork: to burn or not to burn
35:46 – Has the ghost been busted?

If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/u4XNRTLXtrQ

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🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

• Maria Ruberto - Advancing Despite Adversity - https://bit.ly/49TSktd
• Maria Ruberto - Sleep Your Way To Your Top - https://bit.ly/49jJJ2S

👻Ghost busters

• Garant

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Today, we come to you with a gift: bonus Dr Emily. Thank you in advance for the standing ovation.

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Welcoming you into the world of A Little More Imperfects, our subscriber-based platform available on Patreon and Apple Podcasts, our resident psychologist Dr Emily reaches into the reflection pond, to discuss and decode a reflection from one of our community members.

Responding to this reflection, Dr Emily chats to Ryan, Josh, and special guest Producer Bridge, about how life changing it can be to receive an ADHD diagnosis, as well as the not so joyful emotions, such as grief and anger, which can accompany this.

Josh talks about his own inner critic, which leads into a broader discussion about self-compassion, top down vs bottom up therapy, and the therapeutic benefits to showing up for your younger self as the adult you are today.

Don’t say we don’t spoil you.

If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AzBxIFUOJL0

🩷To join our A Little More Imperfects Community

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🩵Where to send in your reflections

• https://bit.ly/4rYjfuS

🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

• Janelle Booker - Living with ADHD - https://bit.ly/4rXQIG0
• Hugh’s ADHD … brief - https://bit.ly/3MJBzb4
• Ben Crowe (Pt 1) - Meet Your Inner Fan - https://bit.ly/3KHwJdX
• Ben Crowe (Pt 2) - Now BE Your Inner Fan - https://bit.ly/49bVxnB
• James van Cuylenburg - Love Your Wonky Bricks - https://bit.ly/3MzZKZz
• What’s Your ATAR? - https://bit.ly/4pwNZBG

📺Things to watch

• The Rehearsal - https://bit.ly/48V6IA0
• Good Will Hunting - https://bit.ly/4iW7hhn
• Rick Hanson - Velcro for the Bad, Teflon for the Good - https://bit.ly/4rVpe3R

💻 Things to do

• Rick Hanson - Positive Neuroplasticity Training - https://bit.ly/48COcgN

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