Pain is inevitable, but suffering does not have to be.

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Dr Emily Musgrove, our resident psychologist and general provider of wisdom, is here to talk about radical acceptance.

Drawing inspiration from our holy grail episode with Gina Chick, Dr Em deep dives radical acceptance; what is it, how do we cultivate it, and why is it important to us as human beings?

According to Dr Em, radical acceptance is not about liking or accepting (insert profanity here) situations or circumstances, or denying an experience, but rather, accepting the pain inside of us to avoid the reaction of suffering.

Instead of feeling better, it’s about finding a better way of feeling.

For Hugh, the concept of radical acceptance really hits close to home, and he reflects on how it has changed his life insurmountably.

Dr Emily, we love ya, and we missed ya.

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0:00 – Getting the Gina Chick zoomies
6:23 – The Radical Acceptance origin story
14:20 – Change how you relate
21:19 – On a global scale
27:25 – An Unwanted Guest
34:42 – The third option
40:38 – Grieving the loss of what you wanted
45:28 – Living proof ft. Hugh
53:18 – Anxious about my anxiety
1:03:26 – Main character moment
1:10:17 – Putting it in practice

🫖Other episodes of The Imperfects mentioned on this episode

• Gina Chick - Don’t Fight Life - https://bit.ly/4b9nAVG

📖 Things to read

• Unstuck, by Dr Emily Musgrove - https://bit.ly/4o8JFay
• The Happiness Trap, by Russ Harris - https://bit.ly/4kRn3Lq
• The Guest House, by Rumi - https://bit.ly/4kXhaMS

💻Things to check out

• Tara Brach - RAIN meditation - https://bit.ly/3MNou0M
• Alfred Adler - Three Sided Column - https://bit.ly/3P1gSbJ
• Jill Bolte Taylor - 90 second shelf life of emotions - https://bit.ly/4aV5rtL

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You just have to be a good parent 30-40% of the time. According to the research, and parenting expert Maggie Dent.

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In our Academy of Imperfection, Maggie schools parents Hugh and Josh, and trusted non-parental figure Ryan, about the ‘no matter what’ rule, the importance of micro connections and the beauty of a well-timed fart.

An advocate for imperfect parenting (which is REALLY great for brand alignment), Maggie insists on the significance of unconditional love when raising boys.

Maggie you are wonderful. This was wonderful. You’re the best.

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0:00 – Why boys are better than girls
6:22 – The science of boys
14:02 – Shedding the shame
22:28 – Growing healthy boys
31:09 – Connecting with your rooster
42:56 – The S words: screens and social media
47:00 – The good enough factors
57:45 – Correcting the narrative
1:06:05 – Importance of Lightness + Letting go of mistakes
1:11:41 – Raising an autistic boy
1:16:05 – How do you resist the easy method

🫖Other episodes of The Imperfects mentioned on this episode

• Hugh’s ADHD…brief - https://bit.ly/4aofEjd

📖 Things to read

• You can find all of Maggie’s books here - https://bit.ly/46g4GK7
• Help Me Help My Teen by Maggie Dent (page 106 to converse with teens) - https://bit.ly/4aYi2NO
• Maggie’s Fragile Boy Friendship Blog Post - https://bit.ly/4qUqzGw

📺 Things to watch

• Bluey ‘Octopus’ episode - https://bit.ly/4riF2Ng
• Marc-Andre Leclerc - The Alpinist - https://bit.ly/4tEsaCR

💻 Things to check out

• Allan Schore’s Brain Development for Boys research - https://bit.ly/3OfRyi9

🎧 Things to listen to

• The Good Enough Dad with Maggie Dent - https://bit.ly/4aGq2la
• Parental As Anything - https://bit.ly/4qHAleM

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The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

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What do you do when your 3 day-old-baby just doesn’t wake up?

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Motherhood is really hard. And Bron Lewis isn’t afraid to talk about it (anymore).

Joining us in the Vulnerabilitea House, Bron answers the question ‘when was a time you genuinely needed help and were you able to ask for it?’, and recounts the worst week of her life.

Deals with the devil, post-natal anxiety, and post-natal depression, Bron is incredibly vulnerable with Hugh and Ryan, sharing how the love from friends, professional help, and medication allowed her to return to herself.

Bron, it was a delight.

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0:00 – We’re all best friends / fathers / daughters
8:51 – When was a time you genuinely needed help?
18:44 – Long nights, relentless days
25:42 – Socially accepted punishment
33:36 – Using pain to drown out the noise
40:50 – Obviously, I can do it all
45:44 – It doesn’t have to be this hard
54:55 – On day 3, he didn’t wake up
1:07:27 – The worst week of her life
1:22:54 – This should feel good, shouldn’t it?
1:33:01 – The aftermath

🚨If you, or someone you know, is struggling with postpartum depression or anxiety, these are a few great resources

• PANDA - 1300 726 306
• ForWhen - 1300 24 23 22
• Beyond Blue - 1300 22 4636

📖 Things to read

• I’m Not Mad (Anymore) by Bron Lewis - https://bit.ly/3ObBgGQ

🎟️ Things to go see

• Bron’s Comedy Show, Chaos - https://bit.ly/4aabRWz

🎧Things to listen to

• Chains by Tina Arena - https://bit.ly/4arb1DI
• Work Hates podcast - https://bit.ly/4arbdCW
• Your Two Drunk Aunties podcast - https://bit.ly/4cnJndj
• Good Sheilas podcast - https://bit.ly/4rkGxun

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The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

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