Every marriage has challenges. But what happens when autism is part of the relationship too?

In this episode, Kate and Toni are joined by Kate's husband, Derek, for one of their most honest conversations yet. Together, they pull back the curtain on what life really looks like when autism shapes not only parenting, but communication, routines, emotional needs, and marriage itself.

Derek shares his experience of being diagnosed with autism as an adult, how it changed the way he understood himself, and the ways he and Kate have learned to support each other through seasons of burnout, overwhelm, and everyday life. From raising Greyson and Roz to balancing work, therapies, and family life, they talk openly about the realities that many couples experience but rarely say out loud.

This isn't a conversation about having the "perfect" marriage. It's about learning each other, communicating honestly, giving grace, and remembering that you're on the same team, even when life feels overwhelming.

Whether you're in a neurodivergent relationship, parenting a child with autism, or simply trying to navigate the ups and downs of marriage, this episode is a reminder that understanding each other will always matter more than being perfect.

What happens when the thing that once felt impossible becomes the thing that helps you connect?

In this episode, Kate and Toni are joined by Tom, a magician from the UK who shares his story of growing up autistic without knowing it, struggling through school, feeling misunderstood, and eventually finding a completely unexpected path through magic.

Tom opens up about being labeled as the “naughty kid,” navigating social challenges, masking, overwhelm, and the turning points that helped him better understand himself later in life. He also shares how learning magic gave him a way to communicate, build confidence, manage social situations, and create a space where people could connect with him on his terms.

And of course, Tom brings the magic. He performs several mind-blowing tricks that show not only his skill, but the unique way he thinks, connects, and he lets the magic speak for itself.

This conversation is funny, honest, surprising, and full of moments that show how powerful it can be when someone finds the thing that finally makes the world feel a little more manageable.

Because sometimes support does not look like a textbook strategy.

Sometimes it looks like a deck of cards, a TikTok Live, and the courage to show up exactly as you are.

Tom’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thomasrickmagic?

@thomasrickmagic

For many parents, finding a babysitter means sending a text, making a phone call, or asking a family member for help. For autism families, it's often much more complicated.

In this episode, Kate and Toni have an honest conversation about one of the least talked about challenges of parenting a child with autism: finding someone you trust to care for your child. From seizure protocols and safety concerns to behavioral support, communication differences, and the constant worry that comes with leaving your child in someone else's care, they explore why "just get a babysitter" isn't always an option.

Kate shares the reality of raising Greyson, whose medical and behavioral needs require caregivers with specialized training, experience, and a deep understanding of who he is. She opens up about the challenges of finding support, the anxiety that comes with leaving him with new people, and the countless family events, weddings, trips, and opportunities that have been missed along the way.

Toni reflects on the universal challenge of trusting others with our children, while recognizing the additional layers autism families often face. Together, they discuss building trust, preparing caregivers for success, creating support systems, and why asking questions is one of the most important qualities any caregiver can have.

The conversation also explores the hidden impact caregiving has on parents themselves. The missed date nights. The postponed dreams. The hobbies left behind. The constant balancing act between caring for your child, maintaining relationships, and preserving your own identity.

Most importantly, this episode shines a light on the power of community. Whether it's a trusted therapist, a respite worker, another autism parent at the playground, or a stranger who simply understands, the right support can make an overwhelming journey feel a little less lonely.

Because sometimes the hardest part isn't finding someone to watch your child. It's finding someone who truly sees them.

And for families raising children with autism, that kind of trust can change everything.

What is it like to grow up alongside a sibling with autism?

In this special episode, Kate and Toni welcome a very important guest to the podcast: Kate's daughter, Roz. Together, they have an honest, funny, heartfelt, and surprisingly emotional conversation about life as Greyson's big sister.

Roz shares what it's really like growing up in a world where therapy schedules, medical appointments, seizures, support staff, and autism often take center stage. She talks openly about feeling overlooked at times, wishing for more one-on-one attention, and navigating the complicated reality of loving a sibling who requires so much of the family's time and energy.

But this conversation is about far more than the challenges.It's about the bond between siblings. The unspoken understanding. The inside jokes. The protectiveness. The way a brother and sister can learn to read each other better than anyone else in the world. Through laughter, honesty, and a few moments that may hit close to home for many families, it's clear that Greyson and Roz share a connection that runs deep.

Kate opens up about the guilt many parents carry when trying to divide their attention between children with very different needs. Toni explores the emotions that siblings often experience but rarely get the chance to talk about openly.

Together, they discuss honesty, communication, independence, family dynamics, and why making every child feel seen matters so much.

This episode is a reminder that autism doesn't just impact the individual who receives the diagnosis.It touches parents. It shapes siblings. It influences family relationships in ways both beautiful and difficult.

Whether you're raising multiple children, have a sibling with autism, or simply want a better understanding of what life can look like inside these families, this conversation offers an honest perspective that doesn't get enough attention.

Because every autism story includes more than one voice.

And this time, it's Roz's turn to share hers. 💜

For many parents, an IEP meeting feels less like a meeting and more like walking into a room where everyone knows the rules except you.

In this episode, Kate and Toni tackle one of the most important and often most intimidating parts of raising a child with autism: advocating for your child at school.

Kate shares what it's really like preparing for Greyson's IEP meetings, from reviewing pages of reports and data to learning how to speak up when something doesn't feel right. Toni offers practical insight from both the education and clinical sides of the table, breaking down what parents need to know about IEPs, 504 Plans, evaluations, accommodations, and the rights available to support their child.

But more than anything, this conversation is about confidence.

It's about realizing that you do not need a degree in education to advocate for your child. You do not need to know every law, every acronym, or every piece of educational jargon. You simply need to know your child.

Whether you are preparing for your very first IEP meeting or have spent years sitting across from school teams fighting for the support your child deserves, this episode is a reminder that your voice matters, your concerns are valid, and you belong at that table.

Because at the end of the day, no one knows your child better than you do.

Raising a child with autism comes with love, joy, advocacy, and a whole lot of expenses people rarely see.

In this episode, Kate and Toni talk honestly about the financial side of autism parenting, from therapy costs and insurance battles to gas, equipment, safety needs, reduced work hours, lost income, and the endless paperwork that somehow becomes part of everyday life.

Kate shares what it has looked like to fight for nursing care, manage appointments, pay for safety supports, cut household expenses, and adjust her work life around Grayson’s needs. Toni brings her perspective as a provider, sharing what she sees families carry behind the scenes and why financial stress can shape so many decisions around care.

This conversation is real, practical, and deeply validating for any parent who has ever felt guilty, overwhelmed, or stretched thin trying to give their child what they need.

Because struggling financially does not mean you are failing. It means you are making impossible choices, doing the best you can, and loving your child through every hard decision.

What happens when autism is only part of the picture?

In this deeply personal episode, Kate and Toni open up about the complicated reality many families face after an autism diagnosis. Because for so many children, the story does not stop there.

From seizures, genetic conditions, anxiety, OCD, sensory struggles, sleep issues, GI problems, and medication side effects, they discuss how autism can overlap with so many other challenges and why understanding the full picture matters. Kate shares Greyson’s ongoing medical journey and the emotional weight of navigating specialists, testing, unanswered questions, and the constant balancing act of advocating for your child while trying not to lose yourself in the process.

They also talk about the importance of building a care team that truly communicates, trusting your instincts as a parent, and recognizing that behaviors are often signs that something deeper is going on beneath the surface.

This conversation is honest, emotional, validating, and filled with the kinds of thoughts many parents carry silently every day.

If you have ever felt overwhelmed trying to connect the dots, exhausted from appointments, confused by diagnoses, or unsure if anyone truly sees the whole child behind the paperwork and labels, this episode is for you.

What happens when you stop living in the “what ifs” and start learning how to live in the moment?In this episode, Kate and Toni have an honest conversation about anxiety, control, OCD, autism, and the emotional weight so many parents and caregivers quietly carry every day. Kate opens up about her own struggles with obsessive thoughts, needing control, fear of the future, and constantly replaying the past, especially while navigating life with a child who has significant medical and support needs.Together, they talk about how Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) helped Kate shift from surviving in fear and uncertainty to finding more peace in the present. They also discuss the reality of setbacks, intrusive thoughts, parenting stress, perfectionism, and why growth is rarely a straight line.This episode is not about “fixing” yourself or pretending everything is okay. It is about learning how to breathe through the hard moments, let go of what you cannot control, and find joy in the life happening right in front of you, even on the messy days.