Every marriage has challenges. But what happens when autism is part of the relationship too?

In this episode, Kate and Toni are joined by Kate's husband, Derek, for one of their most honest conversations yet. Together, they pull back the curtain on what life really looks like when autism shapes not only parenting, but communication, routines, emotional needs, and marriage itself.

Derek shares his experience of being diagnosed with autism as an adult, how it changed the way he understood himself, and the ways he and Kate have learned to support each other through seasons of burnout, overwhelm, and everyday life. From raising Greyson and Roz to balancing work, therapies, and family life, they talk openly about the realities that many couples experience but rarely say out loud.

This isn't a conversation about having the "perfect" marriage. It's about learning each other, communicating honestly, giving grace, and remembering that you're on the same team, even when life feels overwhelming.

Whether you're in a neurodivergent relationship, parenting a child with autism, or simply trying to navigate the ups and downs of marriage, this episode is a reminder that understanding each other will always matter more than being perfect.

What happens when the thing that once felt impossible becomes the thing that helps you connect?

In this episode, Kate and Toni are joined by Tom, a magician from the UK who shares his story of growing up autistic without knowing it, struggling through school, feeling misunderstood, and eventually finding a completely unexpected path through magic.

Tom opens up about being labeled as the “naughty kid,” navigating social challenges, masking, overwhelm, and the turning points that helped him better understand himself later in life. He also shares how learning magic gave him a way to communicate, build confidence, manage social situations, and create a space where people could connect with him on his terms.

And of course, Tom brings the magic. He performs several mind-blowing tricks that show not only his skill, but the unique way he thinks, connects, and he lets the magic speak for itself.

This conversation is funny, honest, surprising, and full of moments that show how powerful it can be when someone finds the thing that finally makes the world feel a little more manageable.

Because sometimes support does not look like a textbook strategy.

Sometimes it looks like a deck of cards, a TikTok Live, and the courage to show up exactly as you are.

Tom’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thomasrickmagic?

@thomasrickmagic

For many parents, finding a babysitter means sending a text, making a phone call, or asking a family member for help. For autism families, it's often much more complicated.

In this episode, Kate and Toni have an honest conversation about one of the least talked about challenges of parenting a child with autism: finding someone you trust to care for your child. From seizure protocols and safety concerns to behavioral support, communication differences, and the constant worry that comes with leaving your child in someone else's care, they explore why "just get a babysitter" isn't always an option.

Kate shares the reality of raising Greyson, whose medical and behavioral needs require caregivers with specialized training, experience, and a deep understanding of who he is. She opens up about the challenges of finding support, the anxiety that comes with leaving him with new people, and the countless family events, weddings, trips, and opportunities that have been missed along the way.

Toni reflects on the universal challenge of trusting others with our children, while recognizing the additional layers autism families often face. Together, they discuss building trust, preparing caregivers for success, creating support systems, and why asking questions is one of the most important qualities any caregiver can have.

The conversation also explores the hidden impact caregiving has on parents themselves. The missed date nights. The postponed dreams. The hobbies left behind. The constant balancing act between caring for your child, maintaining relationships, and preserving your own identity.

Most importantly, this episode shines a light on the power of community. Whether it's a trusted therapist, a respite worker, another autism parent at the playground, or a stranger who simply understands, the right support can make an overwhelming journey feel a little less lonely.

Because sometimes the hardest part isn't finding someone to watch your child. It's finding someone who truly sees them.

And for families raising children with autism, that kind of trust can change everything.