As little girls, we picked petals whispering, “He loves me, he loves me not.”Somewhere along the way, the petals changed — but the guessing didn’t.

Now it sounds like:“He wants me… he wants me not?”

In this episode, we’re unpacking the subtle but powerful difference between being desired and being pursued — because while they can feel similar at first, they are not the same.

Desire can feel exciting. Flattering. Magnetic.Pursuit feels intentional. Steady. Clear.

One gives butterflies and confusion.The other brings peace and direction.

In this episode we talk about:

• Why chemistry alone isn’t proof of intention
• How attention can masquerade as commitment
• The “lazy middle” where desire never turns into pursuit
• Why someone can genuinely like you — and still not choose you
• How to tell if you’re being prioritized or just entertained
• The hard truth about “great connection, bad timing”
• Why yearning and intentional love should go hand in hand

We also share personal reflections on what it feels like to be liked by many… but chosen by none — and why that may actually be a sign of boundaries, standards, and readiness.

Because here’s the truth:

If someone truly wants you, it will be clear.Confusion is not romantic.Breadcrumbs are not pursuit.And love that leads you toward God will never leave you guessing.

Ask yourself:

• Am I being chosen — or just entertained?
• Do his actions bring peace or confusion?
• If nothing changed, would I be okay staying here?

You deserve desire.You deserve yearning.You deserve intentional pursuit.

And above all, you deserve a love that reflects the clarity of God’s love — not one that feels like a guessing game.

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The Bare Minimum Is Not a Love Language

One Sweet Single Life — Season 2, Episode 1

Welcome back to Season 2 of One Sweet Single Life! We’re opening this season with a conversation that has been sitting heavy on our hearts — because we keep hearing the same thing from women everywhere.

“He texts back.”
“He prays with me.”
“He opens the door.”
“He’s respectful.”
“He doesn’t cheat.”

And somehow… basic decency has started to sound like the grand prize.

So we’re asking the real question: When did the bare minimum become something women feel lucky to receive?

In this episode, we break down why so many women are mistaking baseline behavior for intentional love — and why raising your standard doesn’t make you unrealistic… it makes you honest.

What We Talk About:

What is the “bare minimum” — really?

We define the bare minimum as behavior that meets basic human decency, not proof of depth, commitment, or intentional pursuit. Things like:

• Consistent communication
• Keeping plans he made
• Basic respect and kindness
• Not pressuring boundaries
• Being polite or gentlemanly
• Even praying together — especially if you’re both Catholic or Christian

These things are good — but they are the baseline, not the reward.

🤍 Why Women Start Celebrating the Bare Minimum

Without shaming anyone, we explore why this pattern is so common:

• Modern dating culture normalizing inconsistency
• Scarcity mindset and “at least he’s not ___” thinking
• Social media optics vs real relationship health
• Fear of being labeled “too much”
• Being praised for being “chill” or low-maintenance

We also reflect on a powerful insight from Venerable Fulton Sheen about the dignity of womanhood — and how the standard women accept often shapes the standard men rise to.

The Hidden Cost of Settling for Basic

Accepting crumbs doesn’t protect your heart — it slowly confuses it.

We talk about:

• Emotional exhaustion
• Romanticizing small gestures
• Staying stuck in situationships
• Losing clarity about what healthy love actually looks like

Because the bare minimum keeps you just satisfied enough to stay… and just empty enough to keep questioning yourself.

And ladies, say it with us: We don’t settle. We don’t do basic.

Bare Minimum vs. Actual Intention:

Not all effort equals intention.

We unpack the difference between:

• Effort vs consistency
• Attention vs intention
• Chemistry vs character

Anyone can send a “good morning” text or show up once. Intention shows up in patterns, follow-through, sacrifice, and clarity.

Raising the Standard — Not the Fantasy:

Healthy standards are not entitlement, perfection, or control.

They look like:

• Emotional consistency
• Clear communication
• Mutual effort
• Respect for your time, body, faith, and values
• A growth-oriented mindset

You are not asking for too much — you may simply be asking the wrong person.

💌 If You’re Listening and Thinking… “Oh No, This Is Me”...

First — breathe.

Awareness isn’t failure.
You don’t need to rewrite your past — just tell yourself the truth moving forward.

Discernment over drama.
Wanting more doesn’t make you difficult. It makes you honest.

Season 2 Is About:

Clarity.
Standards.
Discernment.
Dignity.
Self-respect.

This season we’re going deeper into conversations that help women date — and live — from a place of confidence and truth.

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And remember, ladies: The bare minimum is not the prize — it’s the starting line.

Back in August, we traveled to Mexico City together — a trip that left both of us undone in the best way. So in honor of her feast, today we’re talking about Our Lady of Guadalupe, the story behind her apparitions, and what she means for us as Catholic women… especially as single women discerning, building, waiting, and hoping in real time.

A Quick Summary of the Apparitions of Our Lady of Guadalupe:

When: December 9–12, 1531
Where: Tepeyac Hill, near Mexico City
Who: St. Juan Diego Cuauhtlatoatzin & his uncle, Juan Bernardino
How many apparitions: Five total — four to Juan Diego, one to Juan Bernardino

✨ First Apparition — Dec. 9Mary appears to Juan Diego in radiant clothing, speaking Nahuatl, asking for a church to be built where she can show her love and mercy.

✨ Second Apparition — Dec. 9 (later)Juan Diego returns after being doubted by the bishop. Mary encourages him and asks him to try again.

✨ Third Apparition — Dec. 10Mary promises a sign the bishop will believe.

✨ Pause — Dec. 11–12Juan Diego stays home to care for his dying uncle.

✨ Fourth Apparition — Dec. 12 (early morning)Mary intercepts Juan Diego on a different path.Her words: “Do not be afraid. Am I not here, I who am your Mother?”She instructs him to gather miraculous Castilian roses blooming on the barren hill.

✨ Fifth Apparition — Dec. 12Mary appears to Juan Bernardino, heals him, and gives her name: “Santa María de Guadalupe.”

✨ The Miracle of the TilmaJuan Diego opens his tilma before the bishop; the roses spill to the floor and the iconic image of Our Lady of Guadalupe appears.

A church is built. Devotion spreads across the Americas.

We share what it was actually like to go see her:

• Stopping at Mercado Jamaica to pick out flowers to bring her
• Spending the entire day on the grounds of the Shrine
• The unexpected moments that struck us most
• How being there shifted something interiorly — for both of us, in different ways

Mary meets us in the “in-between” spaces — the quiet seasons, the hidden seasons, the transitions we didn’t choose but are trying to trust our way through.

Her message is profoundly personal:

• God sees you
• God chooses you
• Your life has purpose even when it feels still or unclear
• You are not alone in discerning your vocation, your calling, or your next step

Her words to Juan Diego echo into our own lives:“Am I not here, I, who am your Mother?”

This episode is an invitation to let those words land.

Bring one intention to Our Lady of Guadalupe on her feast day.Something small or something impossible — she holds both with tenderness.

Let Mary mother you — especially in this season of your life.

If you'd like to learn more about the miracles related to the tilma: https://www.kenmaymd.com/blog-1/miracles-part1

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