SEASON 3, EPISODE 10

Welcome to Backstage with Randy Phillips - a lighthearted dialogue meant to inspire every heart and home to live a life of purpose.

ABOUT THIS EPISODE

In this powerful Backstage with Randy Phillips season finale, bestselling author, podcaster, and former divorce attorney Toni Nieuwhof shares her journey from toxic shame to true healing—and how even the most impressive résumé can hide deep emotional pain.

With honesty, humor, and faith, Tony opens up about:

• Her marriage struggles with Carey Nieuwhof

• The lie of performance-based identity

• How shame shaped her parenting and faith

• Practical steps to heal through counseling, EMDR, and spiritual practices

• A beautiful breath prayer that’s helped her experience God’s love daily

Whether you’re battling feelings of worthlessness, overachieving to feel accepted, or questioning your value, this conversation will bring freedom, clarity, and hope.

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TIMESTAMPS

00:00 – Welcome to the Season Finale

00:28 – Meet Tony Newhoff: Lawyer, Pastor’s Wife, Believer

01:55 – The Unusual Call to Divorce Law

03:12 – The Story Behind “Before You Split”

04:24 – A Marriage Restored After Nearly Giving Up

06:00 – Should Every Marriage Be Saved?

07:29 – How the Church Can Support Women Better

09:02 – Helping People Love Being Home

10:24 – The Home Environment and Family Climate

11:09 – Why Counseling Belongs in the Church

12:46 – Bringing Christ’s Light into Therapy

14:06 – The Resume That Masked Deep Shame

15:14 – The Hidden Pain of Childhood Abuse

16:45 – From Self-Sufficiency to Healing

18:07 – How Shame Shaped Her Parenting

20:00 – When Independence Feels Like Isolation

21:38 – Hope for Women Battling Shame

23:10 – Tools That Helped Tony Heal

24:02 – Shame, Genesis, and the Voice of the Enemy

25:34 – Shame Revealed Slowly Over Time

27:10 – Timeline of Healing and God’s Faithfulness

28:04 – Meditative Prayer Practice on God’s Love

29:03 – Breath Prayer: “Be Loved / Beloved”

30:09 – Why This Practice Has Changed Her Life

30:48 – Closing Words and Blessing

Music: Alive - Instrumental by Lone Waves

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