In this episode of New Dad Order, the hosts sit down for an honest, wide-ranging conversation about the state of America, global power, and the narratives shaping public opinion. What starts with a brief discussion on the NFL and leadership quickly evolves into deeper topics surrounding immigration enforcement, media influence, artificial intelligence, and U.S. foreign policy.

A central focus of the episode is ICE operations within the United States, including recent activity in Louisiana and Minneapolis. Through personal stories and firsthand observations, the hosts explore the fear and uncertainty felt by U.S. citizens and legal residents—particularly within Latino communities—when immigration enforcement appears indiscriminate. While acknowledging the need for law enforcement to address real threats, the conversation emphasizes a clear principle: when innocent people are harmed or detained, it’s one too many.

The discussion also examines how modern media shapes perception, often prioritizing emotional narratives and political division over context and facts. From viral headlines to symbolic “poster-child” storytelling, the hosts question whether outrage has become more profitable than truth. They also break down how “whataboutism” and tribal politics shut down productive conversation rather than encouraging understanding.

On the global stage, the episode touches on Venezuela, Nicolás Maduro, AI-generated videos, and online military simulations, raising questions about U.S. power, geopolitical interests, and the role of money, oil, and influence in international conflicts. Rather than offering simple answers, the hosts challenge listeners to think critically about why certain actions are taken—and who benefits from them.

The episode closes with reflections on parenting, civic responsibility, and intellectual honesty. Rejecting blind loyalty to political parties or public figures, the hosts stress the importance of questioning authority, seeking facts, and teaching the next generation how to think independently in an increasingly polarized world.

This episode isn’t about picking sides — it’s about asking better questions.

✦ About Ernie Burns & Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsPresident & CEO: Ernie M. Burns, Jr.Master Certified Estate Planner (MCEP®)Forbes Top Financial Security Professional in Louisiana – 2022 & 2023Author: Total Retirement: A Step-By-Step Educational GuideHost: Total Retirement with Ernie Burns – airing weekly across Louisiana, Florida & Alabama✦ Contact InformationToll-Free: 800-308-4416Louisiana: 985-345-7114Florida: 850-855-4890Alabama: 251-378-9822Fax: 985-345-7124Email: marketing@burnsestateplanning.comWebsite: burnsestateplanning.comOffice Locations: Hammond (HQ), Mandeville, Metairie, Baton Rouge (LA); Destin, Panama City Beach, Pensacola, Tallahassee, West Palm Beach, Jacksonville (FL); Spanish Fort (AL).Social Media:Facebook: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsLinkedIn: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsYouTube: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth Advisors

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📩 Reach Out:Jerrard:📧 Email: jmparfait@gmail.com📱 Instagram: @itsparfaitRay:📧 Email: rbelvin91@gmail.com💤 Sleep & Recovery:Melatonin-Free Sleep & Recovery for Peak Fitness👉 Hit this link and use promo code: NDOZZZ🔗 https://thirdzy.com/⚡ Energy Boost:Need a new energy drink? Try Dubby Energy!👉 Use this link and discount code automatically applies🔗 https://www.dubby.gg/discount/NEWDADORDER?ref=fhfcqotb🌐 Find Us Online:Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/newdadorderpodcast1Spotify:🎧 https://open.spotify.com/show/4Zi2b2lmVbAr1m8mhHhjOK?si=l6HluKZ8Rs2Fxt6WJAVy9QTikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@newdadorderApple broadcast:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/new-dad-order/id1849310124Amazon Music:https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/ba418c03-7313-46c7-ae75-8dc55122a082/new-dad-order

In this powerful episode of New Dad Order, Ray and Parfait dive into why New Year’s resolutions so often fail—and what actually makes fathers, husbands, and families better over time. Instead of empty promises made on January 1st, this episode focuses on discipline, presence, and leadership inside the home.Parfait shares how his biggest life change didn’t happen because of a New Year’s resolution. In August of 2024, he decided to take control of his health, losing over 25 pounds, working out consistently, and rebuilding his discipline. That decision—made in the middle of the year—proved that lasting change happens when a man commits, not when a calendar changes. The same principle applies to fatherhood.A major theme of the episode is leading by example. Kids don’t become who we tell them to be—they become who they see. When a father shows discipline, consistency, and effort every day, that becomes a child’s definition of what “normal” looks like. The conversation also turns to one of the biggest challenges modern dads face: being present. Both Ray and Parfait admit that phones, distractions, and mental fatigue often steal attention away from their kids. Even when a child is telling a simple story about recess or a kickball game, that moment matters. Those small conversations build trust, and that trust is what allows kids to come to their parents when life gets harder later on.Another important focus is creating real family time. Ray shares how rediscovering family game nights over the holidays reminded him how powerful simple connection can be. Playing cards, laughing, competing, and talking creates memories that last far longer than scrolling on a screen or watching TV together.The episode also highlights the importance of emotional availability and maturity. Being able to say “I was wrong,” to apologize, and to listen without defensiveness builds stronger relationships between parents and children. Finally, Ray explains why it’s critical for kids to feel safe coming to their parents no matter what. Whether they’ve made a mistake or are in a dangerous situation, knowing they can call home without fear may be the difference between safety and tragedy. ✦ About Ernie Burns & Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsPresident & CEO: Ernie M. Burns, Jr.Master Certified Estate Planner (MCEP®)Forbes Top Financial Security Professional in Louisiana – 2022 & 2023Author: Total Retirement: A Step-By-Step Educational GuideHost: Total Retirement with Ernie Burns – airing weekly across Louisiana, Florida & Alabama✦ Contact InformationToll-Free: 800-308-4416Louisiana: 985-345-7114Florida: 850-855-4890Alabama: 251-378-9822Fax: 985-345-7124Email: marketing@burnsestateplanning.comWebsite: burnsestateplanning.comOffice Locations: Hammond (HQ), Mandeville, Metairie, Baton Rouge (LA); Destin, Panama City Beach, Pensacola, Tallahassee, West Palm Beach, Jacksonville (FL); Spanish Fort (AL).Social Media:Facebook: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsLinkedIn: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsYouTube: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth Advisors#NewDadOrder #Podcast 📩 Reach Out:Jerrard:📧 Email: jmparfait@gmail.com📱 Instagram: @itsparfaitRay:📧 Email: rbelvin91@gmail.com💤 Sleep & Recovery:Melatonin-Free Sleep & Recovery for Peak Fitness👉 Hit this link and use promo code: NDOZZZ🔗 https://thirdzy.com/⚡ Energy Boost:Need a new energy drink? Try Dubby Energy!👉 Use this link and discount code automatically applies🔗 https://www.dubby.gg/discount/NEWDADORDER?ref=fhfcqotb🌐 Find Us Online:Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/newdadorderpodcast1Spotify:🎧 https://open.spotify.com/show/4Zi2b2lmVbAr1m8mhHhjOK?si=l6HluKZ8Rs2Fxt6WJAVy9QTikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@newdadorderApple broadcast:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/new-dad-order/id1849310124Amazon Music:https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/ba418c03-7313-46c7-ae75-8dc55122a082/new-dad-order

Navy veteran and father of three Charles Lyle shares his deeply personal story of resilience, faith, and rebuilding life after trauma, loss, and military service. From growing up in the aftermath of Hurricane Katrina to serving as a Navy airman, Charles reveals how adversity shaped both the man and the father he has become.Charles describes how Katrina destroyed his childhood in Bay St. Louis, Mississippi, forcing his family to evacuate and permanently uprooting his life. The storm didn’t just destroy homes — it fractured friendships, routines, and stability. That early trauma later fueled his drive to compete in football, eventually leading him to play college football at Pearl River Community College and East Mississippi Community College, where he played under Coach Buddy Stevens just before the Netflix series Last Chance U began.After leaving football, Charles chose a harder path: military service. He joined the U.S. Navy, becoming an aviation loadmaster flying missions across the globe on C-130 aircraft, transporting cargo and people to places like Japan, South Korea, Guam, and Papua New Guinea. While the Navy gave him discipline and purpose, Charles reveals the harsh truth about what happens when veterans leave the service. Despite years of service, he faced financial collapse, and job rejection while trying to support his growing family.At the same time, Charles was navigating unimaginable grief. His father spent 47 days in the hospital before passing away after complications from diabetes and amputation. While grieving, Charles was also betrayed by a business partner, losing his ownership stake in a construction company he helped build — a moment that nearly broke him emotionally and financially.Today, Charles has rebuilt his life working in construction and roofing, helping families recover after hurricanes and disasters — a fitting mission for someone who once lost everything to one. As a husband and father of three, he now channels his past pain into purpose, raising his children with discipline, love, and unwavering faith in God.Get in Touch with Charles:TikTok-Charles_RoofsFacebook-@charleslyleFacebook-@choicevineroofingWebsite-Choicevineroofing.com ✦ About Ernie Burns & Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsPresident & CEO: Ernie M. Burns, Jr.Master Certified Estate Planner (MCEP®)Forbes Top Financial Security Professional in Louisiana – 2022 & 2023Author: Total Retirement: A Step-By-Step Educational GuideHost: Total Retirement with Ernie Burns – airing weekly across Louisiana, Florida & Alabama✦ Contact InformationToll-Free: 800-308-4416Louisiana: 985-345-7114Florida: 850-855-4890Alabama: 251-378-9822Fax: 985-345-7124Email: marketing@burnsestateplanning.comWebsite: burnsestateplanning.comOffice Locations: Hammond (HQ), Mandeville, Metairie, Baton Rouge (LA); Destin, Panama City Beach, Pensacola, Tallahassee, West Palm Beach, Jacksonville (FL); Spanish Fort (AL).Social Media:Facebook: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsLinkedIn: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsYouTube: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth Advisors#NewDadOrder #Podcast 📩 Reach Out:Jerrard:📧 Email: jmparfait@gmail.com📱 Instagram: @itsparfaitRay:📧 Email: rbelvin91@gmail.com💤 Sleep & Recovery:Melatonin-Free Sleep & Recovery for Peak Fitness👉 Hit this link and use promo code: NDOZZZ🔗 https://thirdzy.com/⚡ Energy Boost:Need a new energy drink? Try Dubby Energy!👉 Use this link and discount code automatically applies🔗 https://www.dubby.gg/discount/NEWDADORDER?ref=fhfcqotb🌐 Find Us Online:Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/newdadorderpodcast1Spotify:🎧 https://open.spotify.com/show/4Zi2b2lmVbAr1m8mhHhjOK?si=l6HluKZ8Rs2Fxt6WJAVy9QTikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@newdadorderApple broadcast:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/new-dad-order/id1849310124Amazon Music:https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/ba418c03-7313-46c7-ae75-8dc55122a082/new-dad-order

New Dad Order – Episode 37 is a thoughtful, wide-ranging conversation about modern fatherhood, youth sports, resilience, and intentional parenting, featuring the real-life experiences of a former Division I athlete, attorney, coach, and dads. The episode explores how early life lessons, career pressure, natural disasters, and sports culture shape the way men show up as fathers today. The discussion begins with youth sports and the complicated decision many fathers face about whether to coach their own children. Drawing from firsthand experience in competitive football environments, the episode highlights the importance of fundamentals, safety, fairness, and emotional maturity in coaching kids. It directly addresses common problems like favoritism and “daddy ball,” emphasizing that youth sports should prioritize character development, teamwork, and confidence over winning or parental ego. From there, the conversation expands into the long-term impact of athletics on personal growth. Lessons learned through high-level football—discipline, accountability, leadership, and time management—are reframed through the lens of parenting. The episode connects sports culture to fatherhood, showing how habits formed on the field often influence how dads approach structure, expectations, and communication at home. A major theme of the episode is resilience, particularly parenting through instability and crisis. The family’s experience surviving Hurricane Katrina, losing their home, living displaced for months, and later enduring Hurricane Ida provides a powerful backdrop for discussing emotional safety, adaptability, and how children process trauma. The episode explores how disruption affects kids differently at various ages and why parents must balance honesty, reassurance, and emotional presence during uncertain times. Rather than advocating rigid parenting rules, the episode promotes a philosophy centered on guidance, course correction, and respect. Parenting is framed as an evolving process—one that requires awareness of developmental stages, empathy, and accountability without authoritarianism. Contact Attorney Tony Maska:Email him at Anthonymaska@gmail.com✦ About Ernie Burns & Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsPresident & CEO: Ernie M. Burns, Jr.Master Certified Estate Planner (MCEP®)Forbes Top Financial Security Professional in Louisiana – 2022 & 2023Author: Total Retirement: A Step-By-Step Educational GuideHost: Total Retirement with Ernie Burns – airing weekly across Louisiana, Florida & Alabama✦ Contact InformationToll-Free: 800-308-4416Louisiana: 985-345-7114Florida: 850-855-4890Alabama: 251-378-9822Fax: 985-345-7124Email: marketing@burnsestateplanning.comWebsite: burnsestateplanning.comOffice Locations: Hammond (HQ), Mandeville, Metairie, Baton Rouge (LA); Destin, Panama City Beach, Pensacola, Tallahassee, West Palm Beach, Jacksonville (FL); Spanish Fort (AL).Social Media:Facebook: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsLinkedIn: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsYouTube: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth Advisors#NewDadOrder #Podcast 📩 Reach Out:Jerrard:📧 Email: jmparfait@gmail.com📱 Instagram: @itsparfaitRay:📧 Email: rbelvin91@gmail.com💤 Sleep & Recovery:Melatonin-Free Sleep & Recovery for Peak Fitness👉 Hit this link and use promo code: NDOZZZ🔗 https://thirdzy.com/⚡ Energy Boost:Need a new energy drink? Try Dubby Energy!👉 Use this link and discount code automatically applies🔗 https://www.dubby.gg/discount/NEWDADORDER?ref=fhfcqotb🌐 Find Us Online:Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/newdadorderpodcast1TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@newdadorderApple broadcast:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/new-dad-order/id1849310124Amazon Music:https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/ba418c03-7313-46c7-ae75-8dc55122a082/new-dad-order

In this episode of New Dad Order, Ray and Parfait dive deep into the college football coaching carousel, reacting to Lane Kiffin leaving Ole Miss for LSU and the ripple effects it creates across the SEC and the national landscape. This conversation tackles the complicated intersection of NIL, the transfer portal, early signing day, and the evolving expectations placed on modern college coaches. Whether you’re a fan of Ole Miss, LSU, or simply fascinated with high-stakes college football drama, this episode breaks down why Kiffin’s move is bigger than one program—it’s a symptom of how the sport has changed.Ray argues from the player-first, culture-building perspective: college coaches play a crucial role in shaping athletes’ lives through development, mentorship, character building, and academic support. When a high-profile coach like Lane Kiffin leaves during a pivotal moment—right as the expanded College Football Playoff era begins and during the most sensitive part of the recruiting calendar—it raises questions about loyalty, leadership, and the promises made to players and their families. Ray emphasizes the emotional and relational cost when coaches sell stability and then walk away at the height of a program’s trajectory.Parfait counters with a business-reality take: college football has always been transactional. Coaches move for better jobs, players transfer for better opportunities, universities chase revenue, and fans are the only ones who get emotionally attached. With the rise of NIL money and the transfer portal, players now have as much freedom as coaches, making it inconsistent to criticize coaches for doing what players do every offseason. From his lens, Lane Kiffin going to LSU isn’t betrayal—it’s normal.The transfer portal introduces constant roster turnover, raising questions about continuity, culture, and long-term development.Throughout the episode, the conversation stays grounded in the show’s core mission—fatherhood, faith, and navigating manhood today. Ray and Parfait remind listeners that sports are ultimately a “man’s soap opera,” something we enjoy and invest in emotionally, but not something that defines us.✦ About Ernie Burns & Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsPresident & CEO: Ernie M. Burns, Jr.Master Certified Estate Planner (MCEP®)Forbes Top Financial Security Professional in Louisiana – 2022 & 2023Author: Total Retirement: A Step-By-Step Educational GuideHost: Total Retirement with Ernie Burns – airing weekly across Louisiana, Florida & Alabama✦ Contact InformationToll-Free: 800-308-4416Louisiana: 985-345-7114Florida: 850-855-4890Alabama: 251-378-9822Fax: 985-345-7124Email: marketing@burnsestateplanning.comWebsite: burnsestateplanning.comOffice Locations: Hammond (HQ), Mandeville, Metairie, Baton Rouge (LA); Destin, Panama City Beach, Pensacola, Tallahassee, West Palm Beach, Jacksonville (FL); Spanish Fort (AL).Social Media:Facebook: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsLinkedIn: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsYouTube: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth Advisors#NewDadOrder #Podcast 📩 Reach Out:Jerrard:📧 Email: jmparfait@gmail.com📱 Instagram: @itsparfaitRay:📧 Email: rbelvin91@gmail.com💤 Sleep & Recovery:Melatonin-Free Sleep & Recovery for Peak Fitness👉 Hit this link and use promo code: NDOZZZ🔗 https://thirdzy.com/⚡ Energy Boost:Need a new energy drink? Try Dubby Energy!👉 Use this link and discount code automatically applies🔗 https://www.dubby.gg/discount/NEWDADORDER?ref=fhfcqotb🌐 Find Us Online:Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/newdadorderpodcast1Spotify:🎧 https://open.spotify.com/show/4Zi2b2lmVbAr1m8mhHhjOK?si=l6HluKZ8Rs2Fxt6WJAVy9QTikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@newdadorderApple broadcast:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/new-dad-order/id1849310124Amazon Music:https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/ba418c03-7313-46c7-ae75-8dc55122a082/new-dad-order

Will AI destroy us, or are we panicking about the wrong things? Through a fast-paced and honest conversation, we explore how artificial intelligence, social media, screen addiction, and technology are shaping modern life—and whether any of it actually threatens humanity.The discussion begins with the widespread belief that social media is destroying society. But the hosts challenge this idea, arguing that social media itself isn’t the real problem; it’s how we use it. Platforms like Instagram, TikTok, and YouTube reflect our behaviors, habits, and emotional states. When people consume negativity or conflict-driven content, they naturally spiral into a darker worldview. The issue isn’t the screen—it’s the content diet.From there, the episode shifts into the debate around screen time and digital addiction. Parents often worry that kids are glued to smartphones, but adults are just as dependent—sometimes more so. The hosts point out a key difference: today’s kids have grown up with technology and are likely to self-regulate better than older generations. Just like society learned to handle alcohol, smoking, and seatbelts over time, we will eventually learn to manage digital habits in healthier ways.The conversation then turns toward AI fears, particularly stories of AI models appearing manipulative, emotional, or intelligent. One example involved an AI system generating a response that seemed like it was “threatening” a fictional manager. While shocking, the hosts explain that this doesn’t mean the AI is conscious or dangerous—it’s simply predicting patterns and mimicking human-like behavior. It feels alive, but it isn’t. Another major theme is the idea that technology is making us dumber. The hosts fully debunk this. With tools like Google Search, GPS, and AI-powered assistants, the goal is no longer memorizing everything—it’s knowing how to find information quickly and accurately. Efficiency doesn’t equal stupidity; it reflects a shift in how intelligence works.This episode is a must-listen if you're curious about the future of AI, the impact of social media on mental health, or whether technology addiction is really as bad as we think. ✦ About Ernie Burns & Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsPresident & CEO: Ernie M. Burns, Jr.Master Certified Estate Planner (MCEP®)Forbes Top Financial Security Professional in Louisiana – 2022 & 2023Author: Total Retirement: A Step-By-Step Educational GuideHost: Total Retirement with Ernie Burns – airing weekly across Louisiana, Florida & Alabama✦ Contact InformationToll-Free: 800-308-4416Louisiana: 985-345-7114Florida: 850-855-4890Alabama: 251-378-9822Fax: 985-345-7124Email: marketing@burnsestateplanning.comWebsite: burnsestateplanning.comOffice Locations: Hammond (HQ), Mandeville, Metairie, Baton Rouge (LA); Destin, Panama City Beach, Pensacola, Tallahassee, West Palm Beach, Jacksonville (FL); Spanish Fort (AL).Social Media:Facebook: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsLinkedIn: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsYouTube: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth Advisors#NewDadOrder #Podcast 📩 Reach Out:Jerrard:📧 Email: jmparfait@gmail.com📱 Instagram: @itsparfaitRay:📧 Email: rbelvin91@gmail.com💤 Sleep & Recovery:Melatonin-Free Sleep & Recovery for Peak Fitness👉 Hit this link and use promo code: NDOZZZ🔗 https://thirdzy.com/⚡ Energy Boost:Need a new energy drink? Try Dubby Energy!👉 Use this link and discount code automatically applies🔗 https://www.dubby.gg/discount/NEWDADORDER?ref=fhfcqotb🌐 Find Us Online:Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/newdadorderpodcast1Spotify:🎧 https://open.spotify.com/show/4Zi2b2lmVbAr1m8mhHhjOK?si=l6HluKZ8Rs2Fxt6WJAVy9QTikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@newdadorderApple broadcast:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/new-dad-order/id1849310124Amazon Music:https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/ba418c03-7313-46c7-ae75-8dc55122a082/new-dad-order

The Dad Rules Compilation explores a humorous yet relatable set of “dad rules” covering fitness etiquette, grocery store behavior, men’s fashion, and the culture of fatherhood. Blending real-life scenarios with bold opinions, the conversation outlines what it means to be a modern dad—and what behaviors should be avoided.A major focus of the discussion is gym etiquette. The hosts emphasize that dads should never wear weightlifting gloves, arguing that calluses symbolize hard work and commitment. They also highlight a controversial take: sumo deadlifts don’t count, calling them an ego lift with no real functional benefit. The podcast stresses traditional lifting form, discipline, and teaching sons the value of physical effort.Another standout rule is about grocery cart etiquette, a surprisingly viral topic in dad culture. The hosts believe leaving a cart in the parking lot is a major character flaw. A real dad always returns the grocery cart to the designated cart return, no excuses—even for older adults. This dad rule reinforces responsibility, accountability, and respect for shared spaces.The discussion also takes aim at dad fashion pitfalls, specifically calling for the end of cargo shorts and outdated jeans bought decades ago. The hosts claim modern dads need to stay somewhat current with fashion rather than relying on old, oversized, below-the-knee shorts or early-2000s denim. The humor underscores a real message: stay presentable, stay confident, and avoid becoming a walking time capsule.The conversation shifts into fantasy football, a cherished dad tradition. The hosts insist on live drafts, not online ones, arguing that the camaraderie, road trips, and competitive rituals build lasting friendships. They describe a homemade NFL-style combine—complete with sprinting, punting, and broad jumps—to determine draft order. This reinforces a core theme: fatherhood thrives on connection, laughter, and traditions shared with the “dude group.”Overall, the compilation blends comedy with practical life principles. The dad rules emphasize fitness discipline, proper etiquette, modern style, and male bonding rituals, all wrapped in a humorous, conversational tone. These rules are aspirational yet accessible, giving dads a simple roadmap for being more intentional, respectful, confident, and fun.✦ About Ernie Burns & Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsPresident & CEO: Ernie M. Burns, Jr.Master Certified Estate Planner (MCEP®)Forbes Top Financial Security Professional in Louisiana – 2022 & 2023Author: Total Retirement: A Step-By-Step Educational GuideHost: Total Retirement with Ernie Burns – airing weekly across Louisiana, Florida & Alabama✦ Contact InformationToll-Free: 800-308-4416Louisiana: 985-345-7114Florida: 850-855-4890Alabama: 251-378-9822Fax: 985-345-7124Email: marketing@burnsestateplanning.comWebsite: burnsestateplanning.comOffice Locations: Hammond (HQ), Mandeville, Metairie, Baton Rouge (LA); Destin, Panama City Beach, Pensacola, Tallahassee, West Palm Beach, Jacksonville (FL); Spanish Fort (AL).Social Media:Facebook: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsLinkedIn: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsYouTube: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth Advisors🎧 Listen on Spotify: New Dad Order Podcast on Spotify📸 Follow us on Instagram: @newdadorderpodcast1 #NewDadOrder #Podcast #rules 📩 Reach Out:Jerrard:📧 Email: jmparfait@gmail.com📱 Instagram: @itsparfaitRay:📧 Email: rbelvin91@gmail.com💤 Sleep & Recovery:Melatonin-Free Sleep & Recovery for Peak Fitness👉 Hit this link and use promo code: NDOZZZ🔗 https://thirdzy.com/⚡ Energy Boost:Need a new energy drink? Try Dubby Energy!👉 Use this link and discount code automatically applies🔗 https://www.dubby.gg/discount/NEWDADORDER?ref=fhfcqotb🌐 Find Us Online:TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@newdadorderApple broadcast:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/new-dad-order/id1849310124

In this episode, Ray and Parfait dive deep into the real meaning of failure, discipline, and doing hard things—and how these principles shape success in sports, business, parenting, and everyday life. They break down why people fear failure, why excuses become our biggest obstacle, and how building discipline through small daily challenges leads to long-term growth.Sports becomes a central metaphor throughout the episode. Ray and Parfait talk about coaching, competition, and how a “win the next pitch” mentality helps kids (and adults) bounce back quickly. They highlight the difference between getting beat by someone better versus beating yourself with avoidable mistakes. Both agree that sports teach powerful life skills—accountability, resilience, and learning to analyze what went wrong instead of getting emotional about it.A major theme is discipline vs. comfort. Parfait shares his personal mission to “do something hard every day,” whether it’s CrossFit at 4 a.m., road biking, learning new hobbies, or pushing past the desire to coast. Ray reflects on his own struggles with discipline, especially around fitness and self-accountability. They call out how easily adults make excuses—especially hiding behind “I don’t have time”—when in reality, discipline is a choice.Parenting also enters the conversation with a powerful framework: Parfait’s new journaling practice with his son. Each day, his son writes down something hard, something easy, something he wants to improve, and something kind he did for someone else. The goal? Teach kids to identify challenges, build self-awareness, and develop emotional discipline.Faith plays a role as well. Ray opens up about making Scripture reading his “hard thing,” highlighting how spiritual discipline is often more difficult than physical discipline because it requires patience, humility, and sustained focus.The episode closes with a discussion around youth sports culture and the controversial idea of “playing to get better, not to win.” Ray and Parfait push back—believing you practice to get better and play to win, because winning requires effort, teamwork, and high standards. They end with the reminder that practice makes progress, not perfection, and the key to improvement is consistently choosing the hard thing over the easy one.✦ About Ernie Burns & Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsPresident & CEO: Ernie M. Burns, Jr.Master Certified Estate Planner (MCEP®)Forbes Top Financial Security Professional in Louisiana – 2022 & 2023Author: Total Retirement: A Step-By-Step Educational GuideHost: Total Retirement with Ernie Burns – airing weekly across Louisiana, Florida & Alabama✦ Contact InformationToll-Free: 800-308-4416Louisiana: 985-345-7114Florida: 850-855-4890Alabama: 251-378-9822Fax: 985-345-7124Email: marketing@burnsestateplanning.comWebsite: burnsestateplanning.comOffice Locations: Hammond (HQ), Mandeville, Metairie, Baton Rouge (LA); Destin, Panama City Beach, Pensacola, Tallahassee, West Palm Beach, Jacksonville (FL); Spanish Fort (AL).Social Media:Facebook: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsLinkedIn: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsYouTube: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth Advisors#NewDadOrder #Podcast 📩 Reach Out:Jerrard:📧 Email: jmparfait@gmail.com📱 Instagram: @itsparfaitRay:📧 Email: rbelvin91@gmail.com💤 Sleep & Recovery:Melatonin-Free Sleep & Recovery for Peak Fitness👉 Hit this link and use promo code: NDOZZZ🔗 https://thirdzy.com/⚡ Energy Boost:Need a new energy drink? Try Dubby Energy!👉 Use this link and discount code automatically applies🔗 https://www.dubby.gg/discount/NEWDADORDER?ref=fhfcqotb🌐 Find Us Online:Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/newdadorderpodcast1Spotify:🎧 https://open.spotify.com/show/4Zi2b2lmVbAr1m8mhHhjOK?si=l6HluKZ8Rs2Fxt6WJAVy9QTikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@newdadorderApple broadcast:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/new-dad-order/id1849310124