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Summoning up the courage to leave a narcissistic is a feat in itself. You may have made several attempts to leave, nervous of being subjected to narcissistic rage and anxious about what the future may hold. Deciding to actually take the step to separate can feel like you have painstakingly reached the summit of a mountain. You may feel an inexplicable sense of relief.

But the decision to separate is just the first step. If you have children you need to look at how the arrangements for them will work moving forwards. In all cases you need to deal with resolution of financial matters between you.

In this episode I look at how best to approach dealing with financial matters. It is important to remember that a narcissist will never change - the only thing that you can change is your reaction to their behaviour. It is vitally important that you 'pick your battles'. There is sometime a vast difference between what is 'fair' and what is 'achievable'. It is essential that you take legal advice. Resolution of financial matters is an economic exercise. You need to be emotionally in the right place to deal with what may be 'life' choices and be sure that you have proper support (which may be both legal and therapeutic) to deal with what lies ahead of you.

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So far in this podcast series we have focussed predominantly on narcissism in the context of personal relationships. But of course you will encounter narcissists in every area of life - and in particular in the workplace. We all spend a significant proportion of our lives at work. If you find yourself the recipient of narcissistic abuse your position may become completely untenable - yet your options may be limited as you are dependent upon your income and it may not be convenient or even possible to change job. And what is the position of the employer in this context?

Clare Chappell is an independent employment solicitor and Partner at Carbon Law Partners. With 25 years experience in employment law, Clare guides employers and employees through tricky employment situations to help them get to a better place for themselves or their business.

Over the years Clare has developed an interest in how narcissism and narcissistic traits impact on the workplace and has learned to recognise the signs that employees are being treated unfairly due to particular actions by a narcissistic manager or business owner. Clare works in a holistic way, alongside coaches and other professionals, to help people remove themselves from toxic situations which are detrimental to their long term self esteem and well being.

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Leaving a relationship with a Narcissist can be one of the most difficult and frightening experiences you might endure. Everyone will tell you to 'run away and never look back'. But what happens if you have children? Are they entitled to have a relationship with both their parents? How might that work? Can 'co-parenting' ever be achieved? Or is 'parallel parenting' the only option. Must you necessarily close your mind to what happens to the children when they are with their other parent and focus on the time they spend with you - ensuring that they feel safe and secure, and that 'love' is given unconditionally.

Nicholas Anderson of 1 KBW is described by Chambers and Partners 2025 as 'a master tactician, whose experience is undeniable. He has a practice covering all aspects of financial and private law children proceedings, including child abduction. he regularly represents clients in both the financial and children aspects of their cases. Nick has been involved in leading cases in the Court of Appeal and the Supreme Court and regularly appears in High Court financial and children proceedings.

Nick specialises in applications to relocate children (within the UK or abroad) and deals with financial proceedings at all levels. He is a qualified arbitrator and mediator, and accepts instructions on a direct access basis, often following a referral from solicitors.