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Every week in therapy rooms across the country, couples walk in thinking their dynamic is unique.

It’s not.

In this VIP episode of In Session, we’re pulling back the curtain on the relationship patterns therapists see over and over again — the pursuer/withdrawer cycle, the silent scorekeeper marriage, trauma bonds disguised as chemistry, and the conversations couples avoid at all costs.

This is not surface-level advice. This is what actually shows up in the room.

To hear the full conversation — including the patterns most couples don’t realize they’re repeating — subscribe to our VIP access.

Trust us… you may hear yourself in this one.

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Is it love… or just the spark?

In this episode of In Session, we’re unpacking one of the most confusing dynamics in modern relationships: the tension between emotional safety and chemistry. Many people feel torn between relationships that feel exciting but unstable, and ones that feel secure but unfamiliar—or even boring.

We explore how chemistry often activates the nervous system, why emotional safety can feel flat if you’re used to chaos, and how attachment patterns shape what we interpret as attraction. Most importantly, we talk about whether you really have to choose between safety and passion or if healthy relationships allow space for both to grow.

If you’ve ever wondered:

• “Why do I miss relationships that weren’t good for me?”
• “Why doesn’t this healthy connection feel exciting?”
• “Am I settling or healing?”

This episode is for you.

Insightful, grounding, and deeply validating. This conversation will help you rethink what love actually feels like when it’s healthy.

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Attachment styles are everywhere online — anxious, avoidant, secure — but what do they actually look like in real life, beyond a 30-second clip?

In this episode, we slow the conversation down and unpack attachment theory the way it shows up in real relationships, workspaces, families, and friendships — not just on social media. We talk about why attachment styles aren’t personalities or diagnoses, how they’re formed in relationship, and why they tend to show up most when we feel emotionally unsafe, unseen, or uncertain.

We also gently challenge some common TikTok myths:
– Why avoidant people do care (even if it doesn’t always look that way)
– Why anxious attachment isn’t about being “too much”
– Why secure attachment doesn’t mean you never struggle
– And why most people don’t fit neatly into one box

This episode is for anyone who’s ever thought, “Why do I keep showing up like this in relationships?” — and wants understanding without shame, labels without rigidity, and hope without oversimplification.

Because attachment isn’t about what’s wrong with you — it’s about what you learned, and what can still be healed.

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One month into the year, many of us feel behind, overwhelmed, or quietly disappointed—especially when life doesn’t look the way we imagined on January 1st.

In this episode, we talk about how to take inventory without self-criticism. Not a resolution reset. Not a productivity audit. Just an honest, compassionate check-in with yourself.

We explore how to notice your energy, emotions, relationships, and pace without spiraling into shame or pressure to “fix” everything. This conversation is for anyone who feels like motivation has worn off, self-judgment is creeping in, or the year already feels heavier than expected.

Awareness is not failure. Sometimes, it’s the beginning of gentler change.

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This episode is a short preview of today’s VIP-exclusive episode of In Session.
You’re hearing the intro and a brief clip only — the full conversation is locked for VIP subscribers.

In the complete episode, we explore the unspoken agreements that quietly shape romantic relationships, friendships, and family dynamics. These invisible expectations—often formed through family systems, faith, culture, and past experiences—can lead to resentment, burnout, or emotional distance when they go unmet.

To hear the full episode and access all VIP content, subscribe today!

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Most people don’t come to therapy saying, “I want to talk about sex.”

They say, “I feel disconnected,” “Something’s wrong with me,” or “I don’t have the words.”

In this episode, we break the silence around sexual health and unpack what therapy actually addresses beneath the surface—shame, emotional safety, trauma, faith, culture, stress, and connection. This isn’t explicit, but it is honest.

We talk about:

• Why sex is so saturated with shame
• Common myths about discussing sexual concerns in therapy
• The emotional and nervous-system roots of intimacy struggles
• Why silence often does more damage than the issue itself
• What healing really looks like (and what it doesn’t)

If you’ve ever wondered “Am I normal?”, felt behind, disconnected, or unsure how to name what you’re experiencing, this episode is for you.

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We’re kicking off Season 7 by talking about the thing clients circle for weeks — the topic that never quite gets said. In this episode, we break down how avoidance shows up in therapy, why it’s often protection (not resistance), and what it’s guarding underneath. From over-explaining and joking to staying “productive” in session, we unpack the clinical and human reasons people steer away from certain truths.

We also explore what happens when the avoided conversation finally enters the room — how clarity increases, the therapeutic alliance deepens, and real movement begins. If you’ve ever felt stuck in therapy (or noticed yourself dodging a topic), this episode is a reminder: avoidance is information.

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Because the conversation you’re avoiding might be the one that finally lets you exhale.

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The new year often comes with pressure — to fix everything, push harder, and finally become a “better” version of yourself. But what if that approach is exactly why resolutions keep failing?

In this episode, we break down why traditional New Year’s resolutions lead to burnout, guilt, and all-or-nothing thinking — and how to replace them with intentions that are realistic, supportive, and aligned with your actual capacity. From a therapist’s perspective, we explore how to set goals that work with your nervous system, not against it.

This episode is only part of the conversation.

In the VIP portion, the conversation deepens with behind-the-scenes therapy reflections from 2025 — including meaningful moments involving EMDR work, fertility-related decisions, couples work and engagement planning, what it looks like when clients graduate from therapy, and important conversations around Black men in therapy.

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