This week Jason and Nate recap their favorite guest (Steven) and a powerful Netflix short featuring Matthew Shepard’s dad, dig into the difference between being an ally and a co-conspirator, and unpack how their parenting philosophy has evolved—from strict rules to positive, connection-first parenting for their daughter Lizzy. They compare parenting styles, share practical wins (and fails), and reveal the tiny rituals that bring joy to their household.

They also tackle aging with dignity (and the cultural weirdness of “Mar‑a‑Lago face”), then shift to an urgent news alert: a Heritage Foundation–backed campaign and hundreds of anti‑LGBTQ bills moving in state legislatures that threaten families like theirs. Candid, outraged, and hopeful, they explain why visibility and organizing matter now more than ever.

Light, loving, and unflinchingly real—tune in for honest parenting talk, culture critique, and a reminder that a child’s laugh can fix almost any day. Subscribe, leave a review, and join the community. Onward

ACLU Resource: https://www.aclu.org/legislative-attacks-on-lgbtq-rights-2026?state=

This week on Two Gay Dads we sit down with Stephen Chukumba, co‑founder and advocacy/outreach coordinator of Rainbow in Black. Stephen shares his powerful origin story as an accidental advocate, frontline strategies for supporting Black trans and gender‑expansive youth, and how families — especially fathers and single parents — can show up as true co‑conspirators. We discuss community building, resources (including a dating/disclosure guide co‑authored with HRC), racial dimensions of anti‑trans attacks, the fight over trans athletes in the courts, and a moving family story about patience, boundaries, and eventual acceptance. Plus: This Week in Gay News — adoptions stalled, dangerous deportations to Iran, Iowa’s expanded “don’t say” push, and joyful trans mutual‑aid in Florida.

Takeaways:

• How to support Black trans youth and their families in culturally specific ways
• Practical advocacy steps: local organizing, telling stories, contacting officials
• Why patience, firm boundaries, and community outreach matter
• Joyful resistance as a form of survival and organizing

Actions:
Subscribe, rate, and share — and if you’re moved by Stephen’s work, learn more about Rainbow in Black and ways to support local trans organizations and legal defenders (ACLU, Lambda Legal, local clinics).

Hosts: Jason & Nathan
Guest: Stephen Chukumba — Rainbow in Black

Resources:

www.rainbowinblack.org

www.stephenchukumba.com

Trigger warning: discussion of violence, immigration enforcement, trauma, and political repression.

In this urgent, off-format episode of Two Gay Dads, Jason and Nate step outside their usual adoption and family topics to respond to the escalating crises they’ve witnessed — from Minneapolis where ICE actions coincided with the murder of Renee (Becca) Good, to nationwide targeting of educators and communities of color. A former law‑enforcement officer, Jason recounts what he saw on the ground, and Nate shares practical steps their family is taking to prepare (wills, apostilles, emergency funds, researching immigration options). They unpack signs of authoritarianism, why civil resistance matters, and concrete tactics and networks (including Freedom Trainers) that build collective power. They also recommend podcasts and resources listeners can use to stay informed and take action.

This episode is a call to speak up, document injustice, protect your loved ones, and build the 3.5% movement of civic resistance. Listen, act, and share.

Resources Mentioned:

Freedom Trainers: https://freedomtrainers.net/

Podcasts:

Pod Save America

Pod Save the World

Strict Scrutiny

The Ezra Klein Show

Autocracy in America (The Atlantic)

New year, same dads — but this time we’re keeping it short, sweet, and only moderately caffeinated.

In this episode, we’re ringing in 2026 the way all responsible parents do:
by pretending we can stay up until midnight while our kids demand snacks, sparkly hats, and that we replay the same Frozen song 19 times “because it’s New Year, Daddy.”

Jason kicks us off by declaring his longstanding war on New Year’s resolutions (he hasn’t made one since 2010 and is very proud of this streak). Nate, meanwhile, tries to convince the world — and apparently every business owner — that changing tables belong in men’s restrooms too. Justice for dads with diaper bags!

Then we get a little reflective as we talk about what 2026 means to us as a two‑dad family:
✨ The hopes
😬 The worries
😂 The joys that make us laugh even when we’re covered in slime or stepping on LEGOs barefoot
And the big dream for the year: more date nights than dentist appointments. Please.

We also chat about what’s ahead for the show — more guests, more parenting stories, more voices from families like ours, and maybe one or two surprises if we figure out how to record without someone’s child demanding a yogurt pouch.

And of course, it wouldn’t be Two Gay Dads without This Week in the Gay Agenda, where we dive into everything from the mass exodus from anti‑LGBTQ religious spaces to how 2026 might (finally!) bring relief and progress for trans people — plus a wild but true fact about who’s actually getting breast‑reduction surgery.

Finally, we wrap up with our favorite tradition:
What We Learned From Lizzy This Week, followed by a little holiday‑card wisdom to carry us into the year ahead.

Grab your confetti, your sparkling juice of choice, and your most reasonable resolution (like “survive January”) — and join us for Episode 7!

We survived the flu and came back chatty. We gush over Heated Rivalries (no spoilers), salute Hallmark’s unexpected queer crown jewel, and sit down with our friends Chad and Erin Oban for a hilarious, honest, heart-forward look at their adoption journey—grief, cost, open adoption, the heroism of birth parents, and raising their Native son with everyday pride over performative checkbox culture. Then: the Gay Agenda brings legal whiplash from Texas to Massachusetts to Arkansas. We end with kid lessons: cuddles, catch, and a future wine-opener (when legal!).

What’s inside:

• Hallmark hot takes and Heated Rivalries hype
• Adoption real talk: money, control (or lack thereof), and language that honors birth parents
• Keeping Native heritage central in daily life, not just at powwows
• Gay Agenda: attacks on marriage equality, rollback of protections, and… policing hairstyles?
• Parent wins: remembering to slow down, play catch, and accept unsolicited cuddles

We will be back on January 5th with a new episode including interviews with our friends Chad and Erin about their adoptions story.

This last week we have all been battling Influenza A and we will take all the positive vibes you want to send.

Episode 5: Holiday Chaos, Ugly Sweaters & The Gay Agenda 🎄
It’s the holiday edition of Two Gay Dads, and Jason is rocking a Golfing Santa sweater that’s so tacky it might be a hate crime against fashion. Nate is not impressed. In this festive episode, we spill all the holiday tea:

• Our family traditions (yes, we decorate on Election Day—don’t judge).
• How we handle Santa without traumatizing Lizzy.
• The ultimate toy wish list (spoiler: still no puppy).
• Holiday movies we love, hate, and heckle—plus why watching Hallmark alone should come with a Surgeon General’s warning.

And in the Big Bad Gay Agenda: deadnaming in government, HIV discrimination in the military, and why love—not fear—should define the season.

We wrap it all up with what Lizzy taught us this week (kids are wise, y’all). Grab your cocoa, your wine, or your ugly sweater, and join us for laughs, love, and a little activism under the mistletoe.

Listen now wherever you get your podcasts—and subscribe on YouTube, or where you listen to your Podcasts for the full festive chaos!

What does it mean to build a family on your own terms? In this episode, Jason and Nate explore the growing movement of single parenting by choice—a bold, intentional path that’s rewriting the rules of what family looks like.

We sit down with our friend Kelly Healy, who made the life-changing decision to become a single mom by choice. From the spark that started her journey to the challenges, triumphs, and unexpected joys along the way, Kelly shares what it really takes to go solo on the parenting adventure. We’ll talk about adoption, donor conception, and surrogacy—and why these stories prove that family is built on love and intention, not tradition.

But that’s not all—stick around for This Week in the Gay Agenda, where we unpack the headlines shaping LGBTQ+ life:

• Human Rights Reporting Overhauled: The Trump administration directs embassies to frame gender-affirming care for minors as “chemical or surgical mutilation,” signaling a dangerous precedent that erases LGBTQ+ protections and threatens trans lives worldwide.
• Radical Love in Action: Parents of Black trans kids create a groundbreaking space for affirmation and empowerment, proving that when systems fail, families rise to rewrite the rules. Learn more at rainbowinblack.org.
• National Security Memo: The Attorney General prioritizes investigations into violent extremist groups, citing “radical gender ideology” and “hostility toward traditional family values” as ideological drivers. Welcome to the resistance, folks.
• FIFA’s Controversial Pride Match: Egypt vs. Iran during Pride Month and the Stonewall anniversary—set in Seattle. A bold move or a global eyebrow-raiser? We break it down.

If you’ve ever wondered what it’s like to choose this path—or you just love hearing stories of courage and community—this episode will inspire you to rethink what family means and why advocacy matters.

🎧 Listen now and join the conversation about families built on love, not templates.