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Three Times A Victim – Living Under the Shadow of Toxic Shame

Three Times A Victim – Living Under the Shadow of Toxic Shame

Von: Bruce Whealton
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A therapist devoted to healing others becomes the victim of a brutal assault—and then is arrested.

Three Times A Victim – Living Under the Shadow of Toxic Shame is a memoir podcast by Bruce Whealton, a writer, mental health professional, and trauma survivor.

This is the true story of how the system failed the victim, mistook compassion for guilt, and reversed the roles of perpetrator and survivor.

Through love, loss, and betrayal, Bruce explores the lifelong scars of trauma, the burden of false conviction, and the long road toward reclaiming identity.

Yet, my own family, my sister Carrie Whealton, my mother Kathy (Kathleen) Whealton, and Bruce Martin Whealton Sr. my father, couldn't or react despite knowing I was the innocent victim. And unlike my brother John Whealton, I made a vow not to be like my parents, especially not like #KathyWhealton my mother who most often assaulted me - more often than my father Bruce Martin Whealton Sr. assaulted me. No, these were not the "spankings of Stephen Whealton and Inez Whealton who used corporeal punishment.


My vow as a child was not to lose my temper and NEVER to cause anyone to fear me. Indeed, I had to wait until I was 17 to fully embody that vow. I had partially understood that the actions of my parents Bruce Sr. and Kathy were wrong but look of “fear” by Carrie was infinitely beyond words could convey. This infinitely expanded my vow not to be like my parents.

I even embarrassed a therapist wo disclosed that he husband lost his temper and rose his hand as if to strike her. I only said that I can’t begin to imagine doing that to someone I loved like Lynn or Celta. No matter how persistent, provocative, or challenging the words and actions of Lynn were, the ultimate truth, prime motivator and instinctual drive was instinctual drive was to do no harm to no one – not just people you love, people you create like children but no one.

🎧 Please start with Episode 1—this is a serialized memoir meant to be heard in order.

🔗 Learn more and support the justice campaign: linktr.ee/brucewhealton

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#ThreeTimesAVictim #WrongfulConviction #TraumaHealing #MemoirPodcast #NarrativeTherapy #VictimNotPerpetrator #ToxicShame #CPTSDRecovery #carriewhealton #johnwhealton #brucewhealtonsr #kathleenwhealton #kathywhealton #stephenwhealton #emilywhealton

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  • Ep 16 – The Case for Justice: When the System Believes the Wrong Person

    Ep 16 – The Case for Justice: When the System Believes the Wrong Person
    May 11 2025

    🩸 “I was the victim. I called 911. They believed her.”

    On October 1, 2004, Bruce Whealton was violently assaulted in his own home. He called 911, bleeding, terrified, and disoriented. First responders treated his injuries, documented the scene, and began interviewing witnesses. While officers were still investigating, the woman who attacked him—Ana—walked into the police station and claimed to be the victim.


    The system believed her.


    Despite Bruce’s visible injuries, corroborating witnesses, and evidence at the scene, detectives sided with the attacker. Bruce was arrested, charged, and coerced into a guilty plea two years later. Diagnosed with PTSD, Major Depression, and Generalized Anxiety Disorder prior to the plea, Bruce was in no psychological state to withstand the legal pressure. His court-appointed attorney—who had once said, “No jury would believe you did this”—pressured him to plead guilty to a crime he didn’t commit.


    This episode is a turning point in the podcast series—a transition from memoir to legal reckoning. Bruce presents his case for post-conviction relief through North Carolina’s Motion for Appropriate Relief (MAR), drawing from newly organized evidence, legal research, and a detailed briefing document.


    🔍 In This Episode:

    The disappearance of the original 911 police report, raising serious questions about a cover-up


    Ana's premeditated crime to obstruct justice and misdirect the police away from her as the actual perpetrator.


    A timeline of events on October 1, 2004, including Ana’s husband's earlier complaint—suggesting premeditation


    Ana’s criminal record for prior assaults, likely pleaded down to “simple assault”


    Bruce’s federally recognized disability status, which invalidates the plea


    His lawyer’s failure to protect him—and the moment Bruce muttered in court: “That’s what he told me to say.”


    This episode is not just about one man's trauma—it’s about the trauma inflicted by a justice system that gets it wrong, punishes the innocent, and then refuses to listen.


    🎙️ “I don’t need a second chance. I never broke trust. I am not who they said I was—and I won’t carry their shame anymore.”


    📘 Read the memoir:

    bit.ly/ThreeTimesAVictimMemoir


    🌐 Author’s website and legal background:

    bit.ly/ThreeTimesAVictimBook


    🎧 Full podcast series and YouTube episodes:

    bit.ly/ThreeTimesPodcast


    📣 Support the campaign for justice:

    https://gofund.me/0d81efe0


    Tags (for Spotify/RedCircle/YouTube):

    #ThreeTimesAVictim #FalseAccusation #WrongfulConviction #TraumaSurvivor #MotionForRelief #NarrativeTherapy #MentalHealthAdvocacy #JusticeFailed #CPTSDRecovery #BruceWhealton #YouAreNotAlone #VictimNotPerpetrator #TruthMatters #SystemicInjustice
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    10 Min.
  • Ep 15 – I Never Broke Trust: Reclaiming My Life After Retraumatization

    Ep 15 – I Never Broke Trust: Reclaiming My Life After Retraumatization
    May 10 2025

    🗣️ “I don’t have to win back trust. I never broke it.”


    In this powerful final chapter of Three Times A Victim, Bruce finds purpose again—working in mental health, helping others heal. But even as he steps into a role of compassion and advocacy, the past claws back.


    A background check dredges up the false narrative. Internal suspicion replaces support. Once again, Bruce is retraumatized—not by guilt, but by a system unable—or unwilling—to see the truth.


    💔 This episode is not about redemption. It’s about injustice repeating itself.

    It’s about being punished again for surviving. It’s about how shame sticks, even when it doesn’t belong to you.


    🧭 In This Episode:

    ✔️ The cost of being re-labeled by old lies

    ✔️ How retraumatization unfolds inside systems meant to heal

    ✔️ Reaffirming identity, dignity, and truth—not for approval, but for liberation

    ✔️ A closing statement of self: “I am not who they said I was.”


    🎧 Listen to the truth—unfiltered, unbroken, and final.

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    📘 Read the full memoir on Amazon:

    bit.ly/ThreeTimesAVictimMemoir


    🌐 Author’s Website: bit.ly/ThreeTimesAVictimBook


    🎧 YouTube Playlist: bit.ly/ThreeTimesPodcast


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    #ThreeTimesAVictim #FalseAccusation #Retraumatization #IAmNotWhoTheySaidIWas #SystemicInjustice #VictimNotPerpetrator #CPTSDRecovery #MentalHealthAdvocacy #ToxicShame #VoiceMatters #HealingJourney #JusticeFailed #BruceWhealton #SurvivorVoices #YouAreNotAlone #NarrativeTherapy
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    11 Min.
  • Ep 14 – Reclaiming My Voice: A Life After Silence

    Ep 14 – Reclaiming My Voice: A Life After Silence
    May 10 2025

    🎙️ “All that silence had done was bury me deeper in shame—shame that wasn’t mine to carry.”


    In this redemptive chapter of Three Times A Victim, Bruce begins the slow, courageous journey of reclaiming his voice after years of silence, toxic shame, and systemic betrayal.


    Emerging from the suicidal breaking point of Episode 13, Bruce’s healing begins in the unlikeliest of places: a hospital, where a fellow patient offers something that had long been missing—compassion and belief. From there, a quiet transformation unfolds.


    🕊️ What You’ll Hear in This Episode:

    ✔️ A life-changing moment of connection in a psychiatric hospital

    ✔️ The power of peer support and art therapy in trauma recovery

    ✔️ Rebuilding self-worth through group healing and gentle affirmation

    ✔️ Discovering voice not by erasing the past, but by finally telling it

    ✔️ Learning to live—not just survive


    💡 With each small step—“I believe you,” “You’re not invisible”—Bruce begins to rise. This is a story of voice reclaimed, pain repurposed, and purpose rediscovered.

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    📘 Read the full memoir on Amazon:

    bit.ly/ThreeTimesAVictimMemoir


    🌐 Author’s Website:

    bit.ly/ThreeTimesAVictimBook


    🎧 YouTube Playlist:

    bit.ly/ThreeTimesPodcast

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    #ThreeTimesAVictim #ReclaimingMyVoice #YouAreNotInvisible #FalseAccusation #PeerSupport #NarrativeTherapy #ToxicShame #ComplexPTSD #TraumaHealing #VoiceMatters #SurvivorStory #MentalHealthRecovery #JusticeForSurvivors #BruceWhealton #HealingJourney #SuicidePrevention #PodcastSeries #SystemicInjustice #PodcastLife
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    17 Min.

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