Good sex is not an accident: it happens deliberately. In this dual-hosted episode of How to Be an Adult with Luke and Kate, we strip away the cultural noise to look at the reality of physical intimacy. We break down what it actually means to be present with another person and how to engage in the unapologetic, shameless exchange of mutual pleasure:

• We define good sex as a mutually pleasurable, safe, and relaxing activity that aligns physical, emotional and mental wellness, characterized by mutual validation rather than performance.
• We emphasize that sex should be fun, not stressful, and that adults have the moral authority to move past shame or guilt that is rooted in one’s upbringing or societal expectations.
• Communication is the cornerstone of healthy sexual experiences; partners should explicitly discuss their desires, boundaries, and preferences to ensure mutual enjoyment.
• The ultimate authority in the bedroom belongs solely to the partners involved, overriding outside influences like religious figures, parents, or generalized media advice.
• We advise approaching sex as a five-sense experience, similar to a gourmet meal, to stay present in the moment and avoid disembodied, anxious thoughts.
• Consent must be ongoing and should be enthusiastic; the hosts advocate for a risk-aware approach to kink, noting that activities like bondage or impact play require higher levels of communication and safety planning.
• The podcast warns against relying on pornographic depictions, which are often inauthentic and performative, instead encouraging individuals to cultivate self-love and self-respect to engage in genuine, reciprocal intimacy.
• The hosts encourage listeners to treat themselves with unconditional acceptance, similar to how infants are cared for, to break generational cycles of shame and fully embrace their natural, primal desires.

Table of Contents:

00:00 – Beginning
02:37 – What is Good Sex?
04:43 – Approaching Sex as an Adult
07:04 – Your Self-Authority
14:38 – Love Yourself First
22:04 – A Place to Be in Your Nature
23:43 – A Five Sense Experience
28:38 – How to Make Consent Sexy
34:35 – “Performance”
39:30 – Setting Boundaries
40:57 – Kink
45:23 – Outro

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In the second of this two-part episode about how to dress like an adult, pour homme, Luke shares what he has learned about outerwear, accessories and how to put together an outfit:

• For cold weather, invest in a quality wool overcoat such as a Chesterfield, polo coat, or balmacaan to wear over suits, and consider a trench coat or barbour coat for shoulder seasons.
• While often criticized, a high-quality fedora made of fur felt is considered appropriate headgear for suits, provided it is not paired with casual clothing.
• Practicality takes precedence in extreme winter, but for general accessories, leather gloves, scarves, and pocket squares add personality and color to a wardrobe.
• Transition from backpacks to leather satchels or briefcases to elevate professional appearance.
• When selecting a watch, opt for a ‘go anywhere, do anything’ (GADA) style, such as a metal-braceleted sports watch, which is versatile enough for both formal and casual settings.
• To coordinate outfits, stick to a neutral color palette, avoid mixing more than two patterns unless they differ in size, and match leather items like belts and watch straps when possible.
• It isn’t cheating to use AI chatbots as a tool to help curate and coordinate clothing items while developing a personal sense of style.
• Dressing intentionally and well-fitted is encouraged as a way to increase self-esteem, garner respect from others, and improve attractiveness.

Table of Contents:

0:00 – Introduction
0:43 – How to Look Good in the Cold
2:26 – The Importance of Hats
8:14 – Finishing Touches
15:20 – Putting Together an Outfit
16:43 – Colour Continued
19:40 – Formality and Propriety
26:35 – The Mindset of Dressing Well

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If you’ve been following our social media, you might have noticed that Luke has been dressing better in recent months. In the first of this two-part episode about how to dress like an adult, pour homme, he shares what he has learned about how to dress like a white-collar office professional in 2026 and beyond:

• Luke discusses how to curate a professional, intentional, and classic male work wardrobe, emphasizing that clothing is a form of self-expression.
• We recommend prioritizing quality over quantity, focusing on natural fabrics like wool, linen, and cotton while avoiding polyester and visible branding.
• For a versatile starter wardrobe, invest in a navy and a charcoal suit, both single-breasted with notched lapels and flap pockets, which are appropriate for interviews, weddings, and funerals.
• Proper fit is essential. We recommend knowing your specific body measurements and utilize a tailor to ensure garments fit well, particularly in the shoulders, and to hem trousers correctly.
• We suggest a neutral color palette for easier mixing and matching, including white, charcoal, gray, navy, olive, forest green, beige, burgundy, and dark brown.
• When dressing for the office, avoid sneakers and athletic wear; opt for leather shoes or boots, with brown or burgundy being more versatile than black for daily wear.
• A button-down collar shirt is recommended when wearing a jacket without a tie to keep the collar in place, while point and spread collars are better suited for outfits with ties.
• We advise against wearing suit trousers separately from the jacket to prevent uneven wear and suggests investing in ‘odd’ trousers like wool flannel or corduroy for casual but professional looks.

Our next episode will cover outerwear, accessories and how to put an outfit together. In a future episode, Kate Voss will host the feminine-coded version of this topic.

Table of Contents:

0:00 – Introduction
3:01 – Fashion is self-expression
12:44 – Elements of style
13:45 – Fit
15:17 – Material/texture
17:58 – Colour
18:52 – Suits and sport coats
26:52 – Shirts
32:21 – Pants
41:30 – Knitwear
43:41 – Footwear

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When current events are so constantly upsetting, how do we remain informed without descending into despondency? In this timely episode, Luke shares how he consumes the news while remaining hopeful:

• It’s possible to be well-informed without succumbing to stress or doomscrolling, which means you don’t have to choose between being informed or being comfortable.
• To avoid filter bubbles created by social media algorithms, use RSS readers to curate news from multiple credible sources across the political spectrum and different countries.
• Be aware that news media is often curated, focusing on negative events (“if it bleeds, it leads”) due to commercial interests. Media consolidation can further influence narratives.
• Remember the purpose of consuming news is to be an informed citizen and extract actionable information, not for passive entertainment or to induce suffering in yourself.
• Focus on your personal sphere of influence where you can make a tangible difference, rather than solely dwelling on global events for which you have no direct culpability.
• Personal well-being and happiness do not detract from global efforts; instead, by being at peace, you add to the world’s overall peace and happiness.
• Maintain moral clarity by distinguishing between others’ wrongdoings and your own actions. Then, you can sleep well at night and help the world in the future.
• Defining specific times and places for news consumption, develop interests outside of news and smartphones, and engage with your local community.

Table of Contents:

0:00 – Intro
5:56 – #1: Consume the news selectively
11:40 – #2: Be aware of ideological bias in the media
18:42 – #3: Keep in mind how few events are reported
22:25 – #4: Have a clear purpose for news consumption
26:56 – #5: Have interests other than the news
30:39 – #6: Remember your personal sphere of influence
32:31 – #7: Your personal suffering does not reduce global suffering
36:33 – Outro

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At some point, we must all take our first jobs. In this solo episode, Luke speaks about how to get the most from yours, from the perspective of a small business owner:

• To excel in your first job, view it as a resume building project, focusing on the value you create which should exceed your salary.
• Understand that jobs are created when there’s enough work and revenue to hire someone. Your compensation is based on the value you bring, not just the hours worked.
• Avoid an entitled attitude; employers take a chance on new hires. Focus on making your employer’s and colleagues’ lives easier.
• Manage up by communicating effectively with your boss, asking clarifying questions, and anticipating needs before they are explicitly stated.
• Be professional by being punctual, reliable, trustworthy, and making it easy for others to work with you. This includes adhering to dress codes, communication etiquette, and avoiding distractions.
• Adopt a ‘can-do’ attitude, be willing to go above and beyond your job description, and solve problems even if they aren’t directly assigned to you.
• Recognize hidden hierarchies based on knowledge and experience, not just official organizational charts. Respect those with soft power.
• Understand that in most workplaces, going above and beyond is expected. Simply doing the minimum can be perceived negatively.
• Remember that work is a compensated activity where you often need to subsume some individuality to be part of the collective. Meet social and self-expression needs outside of work.
• While you are an employee, you are a worthy and dignified person working with others who are also worthy and dignified. Row alongside your team, including your boss.

Table of Contents:

00:00 – Intro
01:49 – Provide disproportionate value
10:20 – View early jobs as resume-building projects
16:16 – Work is a mercenary game you play for money
19:12 – How to “be professional”
28:39 – Be aware of hidden hierarchies
35:00 – Outro

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In this conversational episode, Kate and Luke discuss how to overcome procrastination, based on their personal experience, as well as professional work with hypnotherapy clients.

• Procrastination originates from the Latin word procrastinus, meaning ‘of tomorrow,’ highlighting the tendency to defer actions to a future time.
• Living with the knowledge of future consequences (e.g., dirty dishes, laundry) can motivate present action and set up a better tomorrow.
• Self-motivated and productive individuals maximize their available waking hours by prioritizing important tasks and letting go of non-essential ones.
• Completing tasks quickly, rather than carrying them as burdens, leads to a lighter and easier life, as avoiding tasks often requires more energy than doing them.
• Tasks are frequently perceived as more difficult than they actually are; engaging with them reveals they are often feasible and manageable.
• The belief that one can accomplish a task is crucial, echoing Henry Ford’s sentiment that ‘whether you believe you can or whether you believe you can’t, you’re right.’
• We frame procrastination as a ‘software problem’ (thought processes) rather than a ‘hardware problem’ (fixed wiring), suggesting it can be overcome by upgrading thinking patterns.
• Breaking down large tasks into smaller, manageable steps (chunking) is essential for completing them, similar to running a marathon one step at a time.
• The principle ‘done is better than perfect’ encourages action and progress over striving for unattainable perfection.
• Audacity is the key differentiator between those who ‘dare to disturb the universe’ and take action, and those who do not.

Table of Contents:

0:00 – Intro
0:49 – What is procrastination?
2:23 – How to make the most out of each day
6:32 – Luke’s experience with procrastination
8:47 – Is procrastination a fixed mindset, or can it change?
10:58 – Best practices for procrastination
15:20 – How perfectionism fuels procrastination
19:38 – Learn to be your own greatest ally
23:06 – Turn best practices into action
25:34 – Becoming a doer, not a dreamer
27:29 – Dare to disturb the universe

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If you’ve accomplished enough with your life, and you’re very self-critical at the same time, you will probably feel at some point that you’re an impostor or a fraud. This is a pretty good sign that you aren’t. In today’s episode, we’ll explore why, and what to do about that awful feeling:

• Imposter syndrome is common among intelligent, high-achieving individuals who feel like frauds despite their accomplishments.
• This feeling often arises because our self-concept, formed in childhood, may not be updated to reflect our current adult selves and capabilities.
• Adult life involves operating at the “edge of knowledge,” where problems lack definitive answers and require judgment, unlike the “known problems” of earlier education.
• Perfection is achievable in simple tasks but not in complex adult endeavors; striving for “good enough” and conforming to best practices is often more appropriate.
• Comparing oneself to others, especially based on curated online personas, is misleading, as everyone has inner complexities and limitations.
• Developing self-validation is crucial, meaning trusting one’s own educated mind and experienced judgment rather than solely seeking external approval.
• Recognizing the entire journey of learning and development up to the present moment builds confidence and validates current accomplishments.
• Mistakes are a natural part of operating at the edge of knowledge and expanding capabilities, not an indication of being a fraud.
• Peers operating at the same “edge of knowledge” often possess intellectual humility and are unlikely to judge others for not knowing everything.
• Addressing impostor syndrome involves understanding its origins, recognizing peers are in similar situations, acknowledging one’s journey, and practicing self-validation and realistic standards.

Table of Contents:

0:00 – Intro
1:01 – Who gets impostor syndrome?
3:49 – “Edge of knowledge” problems
9:33 – You are the real deal
10:58 – Complex situations do not have neat answers
13:53 – Update your self-concept
16:30 – #1: Understand the situation
19:34 – #2: Recognize the journey that got you here
22:33 – #3: Stop comparing yourself to others
24:48 – #4: Become self-validating
26:38 – #5: Stop being a perfectionist
29:48 – #6: Making a mistake doesn’t make you a fraud
31:49 – Summary

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On November 5, 2025, the tranquility of our hypnosis office was broken by a clash between two student groups, Students Supporting Israel and Students for Justice in Palestine, from Toronto Metropolitan University. After a window was broken and the protesters were forced out, five arrests were made, and the police chief says that more charges are coming.

If you’ve seen the videos posted on social media, you might have seen our founder Luke Chao surveying the damage and making efforts to deescalate the situation. In this special episode of How to Be an Adult, Luke reflects on what we can learn about civil disobedience and how to protest effectively. This is not legal advice: it’s practical advice for what to think inside your head.

00:00 – The protest on November 5
01:39 – The purpose of civil disobedience
04:35 – #1: Remember the human
05:42 – #2: When fighting monsters, do not become one yourself
07:15 – #3: Do not reverse victim and perpetrator
08:04 – #4: Narrative is not everything
08:51 – #5: Avoid getting swept up in mobs
09:37 – #6: Be Socratic
10:23 – #7: Pick your battles
11:19 – Closing remarks

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