Are you constantly saying “sorry”—even when you haven’t done anything wrong?

Do you apologize for needing time, asking questions, or simply taking up space?

In this episode, licensed therapist Kanu Jacobsen gently unpacks the hidden emotional weight of chronic apologizing. With warmth, cultural wisdom, and clinical insight, she explores why so many of us—especially women—feel the need to cushion our presence with constant disclaimers.

Whether your habit of over-apologizing comes from people-pleasing, childhood conditioning, cultural norms, or trauma responses like fawning, this conversation offers both clarity and compassion. You’ll learn where the behavior comes from, what it’s costing you, and how to begin shifting toward confident, unapologetic communication—without losing your empathy.

This is not about blame. It’s about reclaiming your voice.

Have you ever felt like you’re doing everything you can to be kind, approachable, and positive—yet people still misread you? You’re just sitting in a meeting, arms crossed for comfort, and suddenly someone thinks you’re upset or angry. Sound familiar?

In this honest episode of Help Me, I’m Tired, Kanu opens up about a moment that sparked her journey into self-awareness and emotional intelligence. From a panic attack on a Seattle highway to developing her Blindspot Blueprint, she shares how being misperceived pushed her to dig deeper.

Using the Johari Window framework, she breaks down why we’re sometimes misunderstood—and how culture, body language, people-pleasing, and even our upbringing can shape how we show up versus how we’re seen.

This episode is for the self-reflective listener who’s ready to stop being frustrated by mixed signals and start building better connections. It’s not for the person who believes they’ve got it all figured out—it’s for those of us who know there’s always room to grow.

Kanu encourages you to explore your own blindspots, not for approval from others, but for the sake of deeper authenticity and stronger relationships.

🔍 Topics Covered:

• Why people misread you (even when you’re just being yourself)
• Cultural influence on body language
• Panic attacks and the journey to emotional clarity
• What the Johari Window teaches us about perception
• How to gather healthy feedback and see your blindspots
• Why being seen clearly matters for real connection

Ever felt like you’re one mistake away from being “found out”? Like your success is a fluke, your voice doesn’t carry weight, or you somehow slipped into rooms you don’t deserve to be in? That, my friend, is imposter syndrome—and it’s exhausting.

In this heartfelt and honest episode, Kanu unpacks the quiet storm of imposter syndrome and why so many high-achieving, purpose-driven people struggle with feeling like a fraud. She shares a real story from her days as a change agent in healthcare and explores how those subtle moments of silence—going on “mute” when power enters the room—are signs of something deeper.

You’ll reflect on where these feelings come from, how they rob you of peace and presence, and how to start challenging the lies with truth. Whether you’re a leader, a healer, a professional, or someone quietly questioning your worth, this episode will leave you feeling seen, strengthened, and gently reminded that you belong.

Topics covered:

• Childhood roots of imposter syndrome
• Real-world example from healthcare team dynamics
• The emotional and professional cost of silence
• Three practical ways to shift the internal weather
• A soul-soothing reminder for those who are tired of pretending

📖 Mentioned in this episode:

Patient-centered care, workplace dynamics, faith, purpose, and the quiet courage of speaking up.

🌀 Internal weather forecast:

Clouds of doubt—breaking. Winds of truth—picking up. Belonging—moving in.