Infidelity can feel like one of the most devastating experiences a person can go through, and in this encore episode, I talk about why it cuts so deeply — and how healing is truly possible. I explore how betrayal impacts us not only emotionally, but at a primal level, threatening our sense of safety, belonging, and self-worth. I also share parts of my own story and explain how infidelity can reopen old, unhealed wounds that have nothing to do with our partner's choices.

One of the most powerful frameworks I discuss is the Buddhist concept of the two arrows. The first arrow is the betrayal itself. The second arrow is the meaning we attach to it—the self-blame, shame, and stories that often create even more pain. While we cannot control the first arrow, we always have a choice about the second.

Whether you are considering staying or leaving, this episode will help you understand how to reduce the impact of infidelity, reclaim your power, and stop hurting yourself with stories that are not true. Healing does not require perfection. It requires compassion, honesty, and courage.

In this episode, I cover:

• Infidelity hurts deeply because of both biology and meaning
• The second arrow of self-blame is optional
• Your partner's choices are not a reflection of your worth
• Healing is possible, whether you stay or leave

If you're ready to move forward with strength instead of shame, I invite you to reach out and take the next step in your healing journey. Schedule a call with me so we can talk about you joining the small cohort of my January group. https://calendly.com/andreagilescoaching/get-your-life-back

EXPAND: Who You Came Here to Be - An immersive, in-person retreat experience. February 5th to 8th, 2026 at the Estancia La Jolla Hotel & Spa in San Diego, California. Join us here! https://portal.andreagiles.com/expand-retreat-who-you-came-here-to-be-v2

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• Get Your Life Back After Infidelity Special: https://portal.andreagiles.com/offers/p5MWTwrk/checkout
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• Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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© 2020 - 2026 Andrea Giles

In this encore episode, I'm teaching you one of the most powerful tools I use in my coaching: the thought model. This framework helps you see, with clarity and compassion, how your thoughts create your feelings, actions, and ultimately the results you're living with right now. This isn't about positive thinking or forcing yourself to feel better. It's about awareness — learning how your brain works so you can decide, on purpose, whether the thoughts you're believing are helping you or holding you back.

I walk you through real-life examples to show how the same circumstance can lead to very different outcomes depending on the thoughts driving it. When you understand this, you stop living at the effect of other people or situations and start reclaiming your power. You learn how to interrupt old thought patterns, create intentional results, and build a life that feels expansive instead of constricting.

In this episode, I cover:

• Why circumstances don't create results — thoughts do
• How to identify the thoughts running your life
• What a daily thought download is and how to use it
• How to create intentional results instead of repeating old patterns

If you're ready to feel more grounded, confident, and in control of your healing, I invite you to reach out and work with me. You don't have to do this alone. Schedule a call with me so we can talk about you joining the small cohort of my January group. https://calendly.com/andreagilescoaching/get-your-life-back

EXPAND: Who You Came Here to Be - An immersive, in-person retreat experience. February 5th to 8th, 2026 at the Estancia La Jolla Hotel & Spa in San Diego, California. Join us here! https://portal.andreagiles.com/expand-retreat-who-you-came-here-to-be-v2

More from me:

• Get Your Life Back After Infidelity Special: https://portal.andreagiles.com/offers/p5MWTwrk/checkout
• Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity
• Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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© 2020 - 2026 Andrea Giles

In this encore episode, I'm teaching you how to make decisions with clarity, confidence, and self-trust — especially when the stakes feel high and the fear of "getting it wrong" feels paralyzing. If you've ever second-guessed yourself, stayed stuck in indecision, or looked outside yourself for answers you already have, this conversation is for you.

I walk you through a simple three-step decision-making process: exploring your options, deciding deliberately, and then committing — again and again — even when your brain wants to panic or pull you backward. I explain why indecision often feels safer to our brains, how to recognize when fear is driving your choices, and how to reconnect with your wise, grounded self so you can move forward with intention.

I also share personal examples, including one of the hardest decisions of my life, and how learning to trust myself changed everything. You don't need perfect certainty to decide — you just need self-honesty and the willingness to follow through.

Key takeaways:

• Indecision keeps you stuck, even when it feels safer
• You can learn to trust your own judgment again
• Commitment builds confidence over time
• Cast Not Away Therefore Your Confidence by Jeffrey R. Holland: https://youtu.be/pCSs4f9DlVM?si=OihbR5qlp-5c1Nky

If you're facing a decision right now and feel overwhelmed or unsure, reach out. Schedule a call with me so we can talk about you joining the small cohort of my January group. https://calendly.com/andreagilescoaching/get-your-life-back

EXPAND: Who You Came Here to Be - An immersive, in-person retreat experience. February 5th to 8th, 2026 at the Estancia La Jolla Hotel & Spa in San Diego, California. Join us here! https://portal.andreagiles.com/expand-retreat-who-you-came-here-to-be-v2

More from me:

• Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity
• Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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© 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

Feeling stuck after infidelity doesn't mean there's something wrong with you. In this episode, I explain why feeling frozen, conflicted, or unable to move forward is actually a normal response to emotional trauma—and how your brain is trying to protect you, even when it's keeping you trapped.

I walk through three common scenarios I see again and again: staying when you're afraid to leave, being left and drowning in self-doubt, or choosing to stay but feeling unable to trust or feel peace. If any of these sound familiar, you're not broken. Your brain is wired to seek ease, avoid pain, and cling to what feels familiar—even when that familiarity hurts.

I also share how real change begins by reconnecting with your future self—the version of you who already knows what's possible. When you get clear on what you want and why you want it, you can start creating movement, even in small ways, and reclaim your power.

Key takeaways:

• Feeling stuck is a protective brain response, not a personal failure
• Avoiding pain often keeps us locked in familiar suffering
• Clarity about what you want is the way out of stagnation

If you're ready to stop feeling trapped and start moving forward, reach out. You don't have to do this alone. I invite you to schedule a call with me so we can talk about you joining my January group. https://calendly.com/andreagilescoaching/get-your-life-back?month=2025-12

More from me:

• Get Your Life Back After Infidelity Special: https://portal.andreagiles.com/offers/p5MWTwrk/checkout
• Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity
• Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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In this episode, I talk about the patterns so many of us find ourselves repeating after infidelity — the emotional loops, the unspoken agreements, and the old roles we unconsciously keep stepping back into. I explore why these patterns return even when we believe we've healed them, and I share how breaking these loops requires something deeper than waiting for someone else to change. It requires choosing differently for ourselves.

I walk you through how relational contracts form, how they expire, and why trying to rebuild inside an outdated contract keeps you stuck in pain. I share what it means to create a new contract — one based on truth, self-responsibility, and clarity — whether with the same partner or within a new chapter of your life entirely.

My intention is to help you see your patterns with honesty and compassion so you can step into a more empowered way of relating to yourself and others.

Takeaways:

• Old relational contracts can expire long before the relationship ends.
• Loops break when I stop abandoning myself.
• A new relationship contract requires truth, clarity, and personal power.
• Growth begins the moment I choose differently.

If this resonates and you're ready to break your own patterns, I invite you to schedule a call with me so we can talk about you joining my January group. https://calendly.com/andreagilescoaching/get-your-life-back?month=2025-12

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• Get Your Life Back After Infidelity Special: https://portal.andreagiles.com/offers/p5MWTwrk/checkout
• Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity
• Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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© 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

In this very first episode of my podcast, I share my personal story and the experiences that shaped the work I do today. When this show originally launched, I opened with my journey because I wanted listeners to understand not only what I teach, but why I teach it.

Today, I'm presenting this episode again as an encore because so many new listeners have joined us, and this story continues to be the foundation for everything we talk about on the podcast. My hope is that hearing where I came from will help you feel more grounded, more supported, and less alone in your own healing.

In this encore replay, I walk through the early years of my marriage, the painful moments that led to my awakening, and the decision to rebuild my life from the inside out. I also share the fears, doubts, and turning points that taught me how to trust myself again and ultimately led me to coaching.

Takeaways:

• Why my personal story is the foundation of this podcast
• How fear and indecision kept me stuck for years
• What finally empowered me to rebuild my life
• Why I'm sharing this as an encore for new listeners

If this episode resonates with you, I invite you to reach out. I'd love to help you get your clarity and your life back. https://andreagiles.com/

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• Get Your Life Back After Infidelity Special: https://portal.andreagiles.com/offers/p5MWTwrk/checkout
• Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity
• Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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In this episode, I'm diving into a topic that sits quietly underneath so many of the patterns that show up after infidelity: codependency. This isn't about weakness or being "too much." It's about the survival strategies many of us learned long before betrayal ever entered our lives. For me, this past year has been one of shedding—shedding identities, patterns, and ways of disappearing inside relationships. I'm inviting you into that same gentle, honest exploration so you can begin reclaiming your own energy, boundaries, and clarity.

I share the real signs of codependency, why it intensifies after infidelity, and how to begin unhooking from patterns that pull you away from yourself. You'll learn how to shift from survival mode into a grounded, independent place where your choices come from truth, not fear.

Takeaways:

• How codependent patterns form (and why they're not your fault)
• Seven signs you're losing yourself in the relationship
• How to begin reclaiming your energy and boundaries
• Why independence is a necessary step before rebuilding trust

If something in this episode stirs something in you, that is not a problem. It means you're waking up. If you're ready to untangle these patterns and rebuild trust in yourself, I'm here to support you. Reach out — I'd love to help you get your clarity and your life back. https://andreagiles.com/

More from me:

• Get Your Life Back After Infidelity Special: https://portal.andreagiles.com/offers/p5MWTwrk/checkout
• Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity
• Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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© 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

In this episode, I dive deeper into a topic that has the power to change the way we move through our lives: our energetic yes and our energetic no. After betrayal or years of people-pleasing, it's common to lose touch with the truth your body is trying to communicate. Today, I explore how to recognize the physical signatures of alignment — the openness of a yes, the contraction of a no — long before the logical mind tries to negotiate, justify, or override them.

I share examples from my own life, moments when choosing alignment meant disappointing others, and why honoring my energetic truth has become a key part of rebuilding self-trust. I also offer practical guidance for how to pause, listen, and make decisions in real time, even when fear or doubt follow closely behind.

If you're trying to navigate life after infidelity or simply want to reconnect with your inner guidance, this episode will help you listen more closely and lead yourself with integrity.

Takeaways:

• How your body signals yes and no in real time
• Why your first sensation is more honest than your thoughts
• How honoring your truth rebuilds self-trust
• Practical steps for tuning into your energetic signals

If you want support applying this work to your own healing, reach out. I would love to help. https://andreagiles.com/.

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• Protect Your Peace Through the Holidays - Free Live Class: Tuesday, November 25, 2025: 10 am MT /12 pm ET Register at: https://portal.andreagiles.com/november-25-live-class
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• Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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© 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles