• 455: Why Your Best Coaching Strategies Fail When Betrayal Is at the Root
    Jan 5 2026
    In this episode, Dr. Debi shares why unhealed betrayal is the hidden barrier preventing your clients from achieving breakthrough results—and how the PBT® (Post Betrayal Transformation®) Certification equips coaches, healers, and practitioners to create deeper, more predictable transformations. What You'll Learn: Why time doesn't heal betrayal (and what actually does) The shocking statistics: How unhealed betrayal impacts health, work, and relationships Why your best coaching strategies fall short when betrayal is at the root The research-backed framework that moves clients through the 5 predictable stages from betrayal to breakthrough How PBT® certification complements (not replaces) your existing coaching tools Simple diagnostic questions to identify unhealed betrayal in your clients Key Statistics Revealed: 84% of those who've experienced betrayal struggle to trust (impacting team collaboration and leadership) 81% feel a loss of personal power (leading to self-sabotage) 68% can't focus or concentrate (reducing workplace productivity) 47% experience weight and digestive issues (that no diet can fix) 80% are hypervigilant (preventing intimate connections) Who This Certification Is For: Life, health, business, and leadership coaches Relationship and mindset coaches Healers, therapists, counselors, psychologists HR leaders working with impacted employees Practitioners using modalities like yoga, reiki, EMDR, or EFT Benefits of PBT® Certification: Specialize in a massive, underserved niche Increase income (specialist vs. generalist positioning) Gain 4 ICF CEUs Join our certified coaches directory for client referrals Access retreat opportunities, podcast features, and ongoing mentorship Bring research-backed credibility to your practice Current Enrollment Bonuses: $500 discount with code GIFT500 Listing in the PBT® Certified Coaches Directory First 10 enrollees: Guest feature on the top 1.5% ranked "From Betrayal to Breakthrough" podcast PBT Pro Program Add-On Includes: Featured spotlight in the directory Podcast guest feature Discounted retreat pass ($1,800 value) PBT® Assessment Toolkit with 5 ready-to-use client assessments Learn More: Visit thepbtinstitute.com/get-certified Dr. Debi Silber is the Founder and CEO of The PBT Institute, a PhD researcher who discovered Post Betrayal Syndrome®, and creator of the 5 Stages from Betrayal to Breakthrough™ framework. With 34+ years of experience, she's helped thousands transform their most painful experiences into unprecedented growth.
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    59 Min.
  • 454: From Ghosted to Empowered: How to Heal When Someone Disappears
    Dec 29 2025
    Join host Dr. Debi as she sits down with Gretta Perlmutter, a certified PBT® coach who specializes in helping people heal from ghosting. Gretta shares her personal journey from being ghosted multiple times to becoming an expert in understanding this painful form of betrayal and helping others move forward with confidence. Key Topics Covered Gretta's Personal Story Being ghosted multiple times in business, friendships, and dating The shocking experience of being ghosted after a multi-day trip invitation The mental health toll and unhealthy coping mechanisms The journey from self-blame to self-empowerment Turning pain into purpose through coaching and content creation Understanding Ghosting Why People Ghost: Avoidance - Unwilling to experience the emotional labor of difficult conversations Malicious Intent - Using silence to hurt and control others Accidental - Truly unable to reach out (medical emergencies, lost contact info, tech glitches) Warning Signs Someone Might Ghost You: History of ghosting others Regular use of the silent treatment Consistent avoidance of conflict and emotional conversations The "slow ghost" - gradually fading from your life Actions that don't align with their words The Emotional Impact Feelings of unworthiness and invisibility Grief over the loss of the relationship and imagined future Anxiety, sadness, and confusion Physical symptoms like inability to eat or sleep The shock of going from feeling seen and heard to feeling deleted The Healing Journey Key Realizations: Ghosting says nothing about you and everything about the ghost You're not responsible for other people's behaviors Your worth doesn't depend on anyone else's approval or actions Not everyone shows up in the world with the same level of kindness and respect Practical Steps to Heal: Take care of your mind, body, and heart Honor your emotions without judgment Focus on people who are actively choosing you Reach out to understanding friends, family, or specialized coaches Stop analyzing the ghost and focus on your own healing Give yourself what you wanted from them If You Think You're Being Ghosted: Reach out casually 2-3 times maximum Give them the benefit of the doubt initially Don't keep messaging into an echo chamber End the relationship on your terms with a clear, dignified message Example: "I haven't heard from you in a while, and I'm not sure why. I'm disappointed that you haven't communicated with me. This dynamic isn't working for me, so I'm ending this relationship. Take care of yourself." If the Ghost Returns: Take your time deciding how to proceed Remember: You don't owe them anything People can change, but they often don't If you choose to reconnect, do it slowly after investing in your recovery They need to show they've changed and are trustworthy Build an entirely new relationship with clear boundaries The Power of PBT® Coaching How the five stages of betrayal recovery framework applies to ghosting The importance of not ghosting yourself during the healing process Moving from analyzing the betrayer to focusing on personal healing
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    30 Min.
  • 453: From Betrayal's Breaking Point to Breakthrough: The Untold Story Behind The PBT® Certification Program
    Dec 22 2025
    After 450 episodes, the podcast takes a new direction as host Dr. Debi shares the deeply personal story behind the Post Betrayal Transformation® (PBT®) Certification Program—the only research-based program for healing from betrayal using the Five Stages from Betrayal to Breakthrough. What You'll Learn The Personal Journey How childhood betrayal and later spousal betrayal led to a transformative healing journey The decision to pursue a PhD in Transpersonal Psychology while barely functioning Discovering the Five Stages of Betrayal Recovery through rigorous research and personal implementation The vulnerable choice to share this private story to help others heal The Research Behind PBT Why there was no deep-dive study on the lived experience of betrayal How the "Fab 14" women contributed to groundbreaking research The moment a study chair recognized a documented process in the findings Moving from theory to proven methodology through personal experience Physical and Emotional Healing Understanding Post Betrayal Syndrome® symptoms and their impact How healing affects sleep, immune system, weight, and overall wellbeing Why traditional therapy often keeps people stuck in the same patterns The difference between staying in Stage 3 (quicksand) versus moving to Stages 4 and 5 The Certification Program Why teaching coaches and practitioners creates exponential healing How the certification includes personal healing work before teaching others Real transformations: new businesses, restored health, rebuilt relationships The vision of reaching thousands through trained practitioners rather than one-on-one work Impact on Different Professions Life Coaches: Helping clients who can't focus or move forward Business Coaches: Supporting entrepreneurs who can't sell or promote themselves Health Coaches: Understanding why clients sabotage healthy protocols Leadership Coaches: Addressing trust issues that lead to micromanaging Parents: Becoming role models of resilience for their children Key Takeaways Betrayal is uniquely traumatic—it shatters trust and creates physical symptoms Healing is possible through a structured, research-based approach The Five Stages can shorten decades of pain into a manageable healing journey Transformation creates access to a version of yourself you didn't have before Sharing your story, despite vulnerability, can create mass healing Memorable Quotes "Get out of the way. Your ego and pride are preventing people from healing." "This work can shorten someone's pain by decades." "Stage 3 is quicksand—it's where most people get stuck." "Nothing was as painful for me as betrayal, and nothing feels better than transforming from it." Resources Mentioned PBT® (Post Betrayal Transformation®) Certification Program The PBT® Institute Previous TEDx talks: "Stop Sabotaging Yourself" and "Do You Have Post Betrayal Syndrome?" Book: Trust Again About Post Betrayal Syndrome® Post Betrayal Syndrome includes symptoms such as: Sleep disruption and fatigue Weakened immune system Weight gain (especially around midsection) Inability to focus or concentrate Emotional overwhelm and triggers Who This Episode Is For
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    35 Min.
  • 452: Letting Go and Moving Into Your Next Best Chapter
    Dec 15 2025
    Guest Dr. Rosenna Bakari - Psychologist, Entrepreneur, and Transformational Guide Episode Overview In this powerful conversation, Dr. Rosina BaKari shares her wisdom on letting go of what no longer serves us and stepping into our next best chapters. As a psychologist and entrepreneur, Dr. BaKari brings both professional expertise and personal experience to guide listeners through the challenging but essential process of transformation after betrayal and life's hardest moments. Key Topics Discussed The Journey to Entrepreneurship How becoming an entrepreneur forced Dr. BaKari to stop hiding The challenge of working alone and the fear that kept her isolated Recognizing when "personality traits" are actually fear-based responses Understanding and Navigating Fear Why action is the only way through fear How fear gnaws at us when we avoid what needs to be done Taking baby steps instead of giant leaps The Art of Letting Go Why "just let it go" doesn't work The 7X Framework: Seven areas that prevent us from moving forward Betrayal and silence Emotional dependency Stagnant relationships Complacency Indoctrination Loss of passion and purpose Ego and identity Forgiveness vs. Acceptance Why you shouldn't rush to forgive Letting forgiveness arise naturally from healing Striving for acceptance before forgiveness Meeting yourself where you are instead of where you think you should be Radical Self-Centeredness What it really means to be radically self-centered Why serving from an empty cup doesn't work Centering yourself in your own healing journey The importance of self-preservation over people-pleasing Seeds of Disempowerment How childhood conditioning shapes our adult responses The concept of "disempowerment by 1,000 cuts" Recognizing subtle experiences of emotional disempowerment Why we acquiesce in adulthood based on childhood patterns The Morning Practice Starting your day with five minutes of intentional self-reflection Deciding who you want to be before your day begins Creating self-awareness throughout the day Noticing when you drift from your intentions Rebuilding After the Crash Why betrayal can be a catalyst for transformation The opportunity to create something radically different Not wasting trauma by just trying to get back to "normal" Building a life that's bigger and more beautiful than before Key Quotes & Insights "If it were that easy, we'd all do it right? It's the processes that matter." "Don't rush forgiveness. Let forgiveness arise from the healing." "Be where you are. So often we don't allow ourselves to just be in the present moment." "You can't pour from an empty cup. The more full you are, the better for everybody." "Why would you rebuild what you had? Give it everything the old house didn't have." "There's a gap between what we want and what we really want. Spend time digging into what really brings you joy." Actionable Takeaways Practice the Morning Five Minutes: Before getting out of bed, spend five minutes deciding who you want to be that day Identify Your X Factor: Determine which of the seven areas is blocking your progress Take Baby Steps: Don't try to transform overnight; take the next closest step in the right direction
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    29 Min.
  • 451: Helping Clients Through Betrayal During the Holidays
    Dec 8 2025
    The holiday season can be especially challenging for those who've experienced betrayal. This episode explores how coaches and practitioners can help clients navigate the pain that surfaces during this time and introduces the strategic framework of the five stages from betrayal to breakthrough. Key Topics Covered The Holiday Challenge The holidays bring up complex emotions for those who've been betrayed: Memories of past celebrations become painful Questions arise about what the betrayer was thinking during previous happy moments The season amplifies unresolved trauma How Unhealed Betrayal Shows Up Betrayal affects clients across all coaching specialties: Health Coaches: Clients may struggle with emotional eating, binging, or sabotaging healthy protocols due to underlying betrayal trauma. Digestive Health Practitioners: 45% of betrayed individuals develop gut issues (Crohn's, IBS, diverticulitis, constipation, diarrhea). Even excellent protocols may fail without addressing the root betrayal. Business Coaches: Clients may sabotage success, struggle with confidence, avoid promoting themselves, or have difficulty delegating due to shattered trust. Life Coaches: Clients appear stuck, unable to find clarity or purpose because they're trapped in betrayal trauma. The Five Stages Framework Understanding where clients are stuck is crucial: Stage 2: Nervous system dysregulation prevents clients from hearing suggestions Stage 3: The most common stuck point where clients settle for "solid ground" rather than pursuing growth Stages 4 & 5: Where transformation happens—new health levels, passion projects, businesses, and relationships become possible Signs Your Protocols Aren't Working Client demonstrates patterns of self-sabotage Excellent strategies fail to produce results Client seems unable to move forward despite wanting to Symptoms persist despite proper treatment The Transformation Process When betrayal is addressed: Health protocols begin working effectively Confidence returns for business pursuits Trust rebuilds systematically Physical symptoms of Post Betrayal Syndrome disappear Clients look years younger as chronic stress reduces Common Pitfalls to Avoid Therapy Without Betrayal Expertise: Well-meaning therapists may keep clients feeling heard but stuck in Stage 3 Couples Counseling Issues: Often minimizes betrayal, lacks accountability, and frustrates the betrayed partner Support Groups: Can inadvertently encourage people to sabotage healing to maintain their community Numbing Behaviors: Medication, substances, work, or scrolling prevent actual healing Why People Stay Stuck Fear of outgrowing their support system Fear of outgrowing their betrayer Settling seems safer than risking more pain Not knowing there's a roadmap forward The Power of PBT Coaching Certified coaches use the five-stage roadmap while bringing their unique strengths: Some work with couples, others with individuals Specializations include military families, faith-based approaches, empaths, men, women All share the strategic framework while applying personal gifts Results of Moving Through the Stages New levels of physical health and vitality Transformed or new relationships Passion projects and new businesses Access to opportunities not visible while stuck Deep sense of fulfillment and purpose Upcoming Opportunity Free Masterclass: Becoming a Certified PBT Coach or Practitioner Date: December 11 at 11am Pacific For: Coaches, practitioners, HR professionals, therapists, doctors, counselors Special Offer: Holiday bonus gifts available (details revealed in masterclass) Register: ThePBTinstitute.com/certification-masterclass Note: Replay available to all registrants Key Takeaway Whether you're struggling with betrayal during the holidays or you're a professional who wants to help others heal, there's a proven roadmap that shortens years of pain. The goal isn't just to return to the old life—it's to create something richer, healthier, and more fulfilling. "The more coaches certified with their own spin, talents, and strengths, the more people get the help they need to move through something they never saw coming."
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    30 Min.
  • 450: Your Betrayal Story Is Affecting Your Immune System
    Dec 1 2025
    In this transformative episode, I sit down with my own teacher and mentor, Dr. Karen Parker, to explore the fascinating world of Quantum Human Design and how our stories literally shape our biology. Dr. Parker is a pioneer who studied with the founder of traditional Human Design and has taken the system to its next evolution—helping people not just understand who they're not, but consciously create who they want to become. What You'll Discover Understanding Quantum Human Design The difference between traditional Human Design and Quantum Human Design How Human Design synthesizes Eastern and Western astrology, the Chinese I Ching, Hindu chakra system, and Judaic Kabbalah Why getting back into your body is essential for authentic decision-making The evolution from learning "who you're not" to consciously creating "who you choose to become" The Biology of Our Stories How victim-based narratives actually lower immune response (IgA levels) The physiological changes that occur when you reframe your story Why optimists live longer and have longer telomeres The connection between storytelling and post-traumatic growth Moving Beyond Survival Why defining ourselves as "survivors" keeps us stuck at a minimal baseline The danger of stopping your story at the cliffhanger How to move from surviving to thriving through the redemption arc The Stage 3 trap: how repeating our betrayal story keeps us stuck The Story Lab Process A creative, fun approach to rewriting your narrative (yes, it can be enjoyable!) Using creative writing to bypass logic and reasoning patterns Why taking your story "out of time" creates powerful shifts Real-life example: How one woman transformed from victim to empowered protector Key Takeaways Your story creates your identity, and your identity calls in experiences that validate it. Breaking this cycle requires conscious narrative reframing. Healing doesn't have to be a crisis. The Story Lab process proves that transformation can actually be creative, playful, and fun. Check in with your body. After sharing your betrayal story, does your body feel light, open, and expansive? Or heavy and contracted? Your body knows the truth. The power of the redemption arc. Your story doesn't end at the betrayal—that's just the catalyst. The real story is what happens next and who you become. Powerful Exercise to Try Draw a horizontal line across a piece of paper. The left represents your birth, the right represents where you are now. Mark all the significant experiences in your life along this timeline. Then ask yourself: "Did I stop my story at the cliffhanger, or have I defined myself by what happened next?" If you're still hanging at the cliffhanger, you deserve better than that. About Dr. Karen Parker Dr. Karen Parker holds a PhD in transpersonal psychology and is the creator of Quantum Human Design. She studied directly with the founder of traditional Human Design and spent three years in a Sound Lab testing the frequency of vocabulary to create an entirely new system that helps people consciously write their sovereign story. She's also the author of multiple books, including Quantum Wellness, which walks readers through the Story Lab process. Connect with Dr. Karen Parker Website: QuantumHumanDesign.com Instagram & Facebook: @DrKarenParker22 Book: Quantum Wellness (available at major online retailers) Stay in Touch The PBT Institute: https://thepbtinstitute.com My Personal Connection As a 4/6 Manifesting Generator (Time Bender) myself, studying with Dr. Karen was life-changing. Learning about the triphasic life cycle of the 4/6 profile helped me understand why my life crashed and burned at exactly age 50—and why that was actually the beginning of my true purpose work. The concept of "finding shortcuts" as a Manifesting Generator perfectly explains why the five stages of Post Betrayal Transformation showed up in my research—it was THE shortcut to healing!
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    31 Min.
  • 449: Why 68% of Your Clients Can't Focus (The Betrayal Connection No One's Talking About)
    Nov 24 2025
    Dr. Debi Silber, founder of the PBT® Institute, shares groundbreaking research on betrayal recovery and introduces the #1 betrayal recovery certification program specifically designed to help coaches, practitioners, and healthcare professionals guide clients through healing from betrayal. Key Topics Covered The Hidden Impact of Unhealed Betrayal How unhealed betrayal shows up in relationships through repeat patterns or emotional walls The connection between betrayal and stress-related health conditions Impact on workplace performance, confidence, and decision-making Three Groundbreaking Discoveries Discovery #1: Betrayal is Different Unlike other traumas, betrayal shatters the sense of self Affects trust, confidence, worthiness, and belonging in unique ways Requires a specialized healing approach Discovery #2: PBS® Post Betrayal Syndrome® A documented collection of physical, mental, and emotional symptoms Based on over 100,000 data points Time alone doesn't heal these symptoms Discovery #3: Five Proven Stages from Betrayal to Breakthrough Predictable pathway from pain to transformation Clear markers at each stage Specific strategies to progress through healing Statistics on How Betrayal Affects Work Performance 84% struggle with trust (impacts collaboration and teamwork) 88% experience extreme sadness (reduces motivation and creativity) 68% cannot focus or concentrate (decreases productivity) 78% feel overwhelmed (increases mistakes and burnout risk) 83% carry significant anger (creates workplace conflict) 47% develop weight and digestive issues These symptoms persist regardless of when the betrayal occurred The Transformation Model Using the house metaphor: betrayal isn't about restoring what was (resilience), it's about rebuilding something entirely new (transformation) Who This Certification Serves Life, health, business, and leadership coaches Therapists, counselors, and psychologists HR professionals and organizational leaders Healers and practitioners Anyone working with clients affected by broken trust The Certification Program Self-paced training on the Five Stages Includes the signature "Betrayal to Breakthrough" program Case study work and practical coaching tools Provides coach or practitioner designation ICF continuing education credits available Additional Growth Opportunity: PBT Pro Monthly membership offering: Live business-building sessions with Dr. Debi Legal support and protections Marketing and scaling strategies Client scenario coaching Guidance on podcasting, speaking, publishing, and more Resources Mentioned PBT® Institute Certification: thepbtinstitute.com/get-certified From Betrayal to Breakthrough Podcast (top 1.5% globally) National Forgiveness Day (September 1st annually) Key Takeaways Betrayal creates unique symptoms that persist until deliberately healed Most people stay stuck in Stage 3 without proper guidance Healing is predictable and achievable with the right framework Specializing in betrayal recovery creates opportunities to serve an underserved population This work complements existing coaching practices rather than replacing them Special Bonuses Mentioned
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    52 Min.
  • 448: Redefining Success: A Conversation with Panache Desai
    Nov 17 2025
    In this transformative episode, host Dr. Debi Silber sits down with spiritual guide Panache Desai to challenge everything we've been taught about success, fulfillment, and self-worth. If you've achieved success by traditional standards but still feel unfulfilled, this conversation will completely shift your perspective. Key Topics Covered: Redefining Success Why material success often leads to depression, addiction, and unfulfillment The true meaning of success: being at peace with yourself How we've been sold a false bill of goods about where fulfillment comes from The Inside-Out Approach Why looking outside ourselves for love, security, and happiness never works The illusion of external authority and how it betrays us from birth Why you are already the source of everything you're seeking The Betrayal Experience How betrayal serves as a catalyst for redirecting attention back to ourselves Why we've only ever betrayed ourselves by making others the source of our fulfillment Understanding that betrayal is the ultimate initiation into self-discovery Acceptance as the Key Why "working on yourself" keeps you distanced from your truth The revolutionary practice of accepting your emotions, thoughts, and humanity How acceptance is the entry point into genuine self-love The Conditioning Crisis How women are especially programmed to sacrifice themselves for others Why the framework of living for everyone else is the ultimate betrayal Breaking free from the martyrdom archetype Parenting and Authenticity Teaching children that their uniqueness is their superpower Why conformity in education dulls our natural gifts The parenting-as-gardening approach: nurturing without controlling outcomes Moving Beyond Victim Consciousness Accepting powerlessness over the past as the path to infinite power in the present Why everything that happened was actually perfect for your evolution The importance of commitment, consistency, and repetition in transformation The Golden Buddha Within Removing the layers of others' projections and interpretations Recognizing you're not broken, flawed, or in need of fixing Living from the truth of who you really are Powerful Quotes: "Success means to be at peace. If you're at peace with yourself, then you're successful." "We've only ever betrayed ourselves, and that betrayal began in the moment that we made someone else the source of the love, the source of the security, the source of the safety." "You're adorable, you're loved. There's nothing wrong with you. You're not broken. You don't have to be fixed or changed or improved." "The only way to be done with the trauma of the past is to accept it, to embrace the fact that it happened—it's not good, it's not bad, it's not right, it's not wrong, it just happened." Resources: Visit panachedesai.com to join Panache's free daily meditation "Call to Calm" - now 1570+ days running since the pandemic began. The PBT Institute — programs, coaches, community: https://thepbtinstitute.com/ Corporate/HR offerings & talks: https://thepbtinstitute.com/corporate Work with Dr. Debi and her amazing PBT Coaches: https://thepbtinstitute.com/transform/
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    29 Min.