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Finding community is something we discuss often on Dem Bois Podcast. Why? Because it is important! And in this episode, we emphasize the significance of community, confidence, and visibility, as well as the challenges and triumphs faced during transition. We also discuss fitness, exploring the harmful stereotypes and gatekeeping present in gyms and sharing our personal journeys of self-acceptance and expression.

We talk:

03:52 - Exploring identity and gender journey

13:00 - Family support and relationships

25:47 - Navigating visibility and transition

34:02 - Challenging fitness norms and gatekeeping

46:55 - The importance of visibility in healthcare

55:18 - Fluidity in gender identity and self-expression

Episode References:

Coming to America

Single All the Way

Ep. 96 Episode of Empowerment with Alexander Rey Simon-Perez

The Sultan Room

The Bush

Cubbyhole Bar NYC

Henrietta Hudson

Read more about Miles in their bio below:

I’m a transmasc creative working across nightlife, modeling, and wrestling. Known for my confident energy, I’ve hit stages with Butch Hooters, Dykes & Dolls, The Bush, Gingers, Mascarade, and Masc House, walked TGS NYFW with Dapper Q, been featured in BINADW, and thrown down in Lesbian Oil Wrestling and Tboy Wrestling. I’ve also co-produced shoots recently! I love blending seduction, strength, and storytelling, exploring masculinity through many lenses. I’m driven by a vision where trans men and transmascs are celebrated and adored — never treated as an afterthought.

• Instagram: @amillymiles
• Tiktok: @amillymiles
• Twitter: @amillymiles

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I say it all the time and I will continue to say it: “Children are a blessing!” They are innocent beings that deserve love and care, and that is the basis of my conversation with Keo Ruiz-O’Neal on this episode of Dem Bois Podcast. Keo is our first guest who is actively pregnant and we talk all about it. We also discuss the importance of community care, the journey of identity, and the challenges faced by trans individuals, particularly in family dynamics and societal acceptance. Keo shares his experiences of being unapologetically Black and Trans, navigating family acceptance, and the beauty of pregnancy as a trans man.

We talk:

05:29 - The power of being unapologetically Black and Trans

13:40 - Navigating family dynamics and acceptance

24:13 - Keo’s experience with Pregnancy as a Trans man

38:16 - Navigating parenthood in this complex world

51:11 - Family dynamics and support systems

01:00:42 - Embracing identity and open conversations

Read more about Keo in his bio below:

Keo Ruiz-O’Neal is a married Black transman carrying his own baby. He is unapologetically Black and trans. Keo has been medically transitioned for 9 years before deciding to carry his baby and grow his family. Keo fiercely believes in equity and serving the most vulnerable and marginalized of the population. He lives up to that through his work and life by advocating for those populations as he is among them as a multiply marginalized individual. He currently lives in Colorado with his husband, dog, and 3 cats.

• IG - keos_kingdom

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What would society look like if we could all be ourselves with no repercussions? I can’t be sure, but we touch on it in this episode of Dem Bois Podcast. Today’s guest is Gabe Tha Babe, a multidisciplinary artist and community organizer, and we discuss the importance of family support, the challenges of navigating masculinity and mental health, and our vision for a supportive community space that encourages authenticity and visibility as pathways to empowerment. The episode also delves into the topic of sex positivity, emphasizing the need to break free from societal shame and embrace one's identity and desires.

We talk:

03:50 - Gabe's journey to self-discovery

14:19 - The role of family in identity

21:17 - Navigating masculinity and mental health

35:55 - Combatting negativity and gatekeeping

46:54 - The impact of houselessness on youth

51:24 - A vision for community support

Episode References:

History of Downtown Los Angeles “Skid Row”

Containment and Community: The History of Skid Row…

Read more about Gabe in his bio below:

Gabe Tha Babe is a Brown Latino TransMasc multidisciplinary artist, public figure, night life personality, event producer, sex worker and community organizer and leader. Originally from rural South Texas, he understands the importance of Trans PoC visibility and strives to represent and center that in all the work that he does. He’s been living in Los Angeles almost 10 years and has been organizing and advocating for the queer, trans and houseless communities since 2018.

• IG - gabe_thababe

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One thing we don’t get to talk about often is the role that fashion can play in gender awakening and identity. But in this episode of Dem Bois Podcast, our guest Taj Taylor brings it to the forefront of the conversation. Today we discuss family dynamics, self-acceptance, and the importance of community support. Taj emphasizes the significance of self-love and acceptance as foundational elements for finding love and building meaningful relationships. And, together we encourage listeners to embrace your true selves and recognize the power of love and authenticity in your lives.

Episode References:

The Village (2004)

Twin Fools YouTube

We talk:

07:22 - Understanding self: the journey of gender identity

15:20 - Navigating acceptance: the struggle with identity

27:10 - Navigating family dynamics and acceptance

39:46 - Cultural challenges and personal growth in Taiwan

45:51 - Reaffirming identity and building relationships

58:09 - The power of visibility and self-expression

01:10:22 - Finding love through self-discovery

Read more about Taj in their bio below:

Taj is a 29-year-old nonbinary content creator, tattoo artist and spiritual medium. They’re an advocate for love, authenticity, and trusting in the divine, and their work blends intuition, storytelling, and art to help their community feel safer and more rooted in who they are. Taj also creates tools for healing, including their queer love manifestation journal, designed to help people attract deeper love, connection, and emotional safety. Taj’s mission is to hold space for transformation and remind others that they are always worthy of a life that feels aligned and deeply loving.

• tajinbloom Links
• IG - tajinbloom
• Queer Love Manifestation Journal

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Why is it so important to express your feelings? Because people aren’t mind readers and if you don’t express yourself, they may never know how you feel. And, I had to learn this the hard way. This episode of Dem Bois Podcast is a solo episode where I discuss extracting closure from past relationships. I share a story about a lost love and the impact of my unexpressed feelings, and I emphasize the need to communicate love and care to those people in our lives.

I talk:

07:33 - The impact of isolation and suicide

09:19 - Extracting closure from past relationships

11:44 - Navigating love and loss

27:07 - The importance of expressing love

Episode References:

Ep. 3 - Surviving Homelessness

Ep. 103 - Building Brotherhood Using Unconditional Love with Kalvin Byrd

Read more about Shawn in his bio below:

Shawn Aaron (he/him) is a Black queer trans man, nonprofit leader, and host of Dem Bois Podcast. He is the Founder + Executive Director of Dem Bois Inc., an organization dedicated to affirming and supporting trans men of color through access to gender-affirming care, health equity, and visibility. Drawing from his lived experience with homelessness, Shawn’s mission is rooted in community care and systemic change. Whether through storytelling or advocacy, his work amplifies the voices of those too often unheard. His signature belief: Visibility = Possibility™

• https://www.instagram.com/demboisinc/
• https://www.instagram.com/shawnaaron81/

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A recurring theme on Dem Bois Podcast is the importance of friendship and chosen family. And in this episode, I sit down with two friends who have become family. Today I talk to Jota and Calvin, and we discuss the impact of community, the intersections of race and gender, and the importance of representation and self-acceptance in the trans community. Jota and Calvin also share their personal journeys and experiences, including the creation of workdatcxnt.

We talk:

11:58 - Visibility and self-identity

23:44 - Reflections on masculinity and gender experiences

36:34 - Building community and chosen family

40:02 - Personal journeys into Ballroom

51:11 - Work Dat Cunt

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Read more about Jota in his bio below:

Jota Kayodê Ramos is a Brazilian transmasculine multidisciplinary artist and activist based in Berlin. Holding a master's degree in Applied Social Sciences, his practice in performance, installation video and poetry is deeply informed by academic research. An active member of the Ballroom scene since 2019, he walks in AA Runway and TM Realness categories and has walked internationally in cities such as New York, Paris, Brussels, and across Brazil and Germany. Ramos is also one of the heads of Workdatcxnt and a member of the Brazilian Institute of Transmasculinity (IBRAT).

• IG - jotakayode

Read more about Calvin in his bio below:

My name is Calvin - I'm 31 y/o and based in Berlin. I entered ballroom in spring 2023, walking TM Realness so far. By the end of 2023 I joined workdatcxnt and found this to be the perfect place for me to discover different categories in a masculine space. I started my transition in 2014 in an area with little to no queer BIPOC representation, so the workshops are also an amazing opportunity to just connect with fellow TM's and watch the transmasc community grow.

• IG - cal.crm

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Welcome to Dem Bois Podcast! This podcast aims to serve as a platform to highlight and amplify the voices of trans men of color as we share our transition stories, discuss mental health, fitness, parenthood, and many other issues that are relatable to trans men of color and our existence. The goal behind the podcast is not only to amplify our voices, but to raise awareness and discourse around our lived experiences.

Celebrate 10 years of Dem Bois Inc.!

2026 marks ten years of Dem Bois Inc. To honor this milestone, we invite you to join our 10 for 10 campaign by giving $10 a month to help sustain the care, leadership, and visibility that trans men of color deserve.

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In this episode of Dem Bois Podcast I have an amazing conversation with Devon Ojeda, about the importance of community, identity, and resilience in the face of adversity. Devon shares their personal journey, including their experiences with trauma, spirituality, and the significance of their name change. They emphasize the radical act of living authentically and the importance of supporting trans rights through community and unionization. And, we touch on the potential for change and hope for the future of trans rights, highlighting the importance of visibility and collective action.

We talk:

05:53 - Finding home in Baltimore

12:10 - Devon’s journey of name change and identity

20:51 - Survival, healing, and spirituality

30:08 - Parenting and acceptance of identity

40:55 - Intersectionality in the Trans Movement

52:08 - The importance of community and solidarity

Episode References:

Dem Bois Podcast Ep. 3 - Surviving Homelessness

Read more about Devon in their bio below:

Devon Ojeda (they/he) is the Senior National Organizer at Advocates for Trans Equality (A4TE), where they build coalitions and work with government partners to advance policies supporting trans communities, including healthcare and housing. Devon describes their hormone journey as a meaningful source of healing as a trans person and survivor. Previously, he served as the 2018–2019 James Marshall Public Policy Fellow with the Society for the Psychological Study of Social Issues, working for the Senate HELP Subcommittee. Devon holds a Ph.D. in Community Psychology from Wichita State University.

• IG: @devojeda & @transequalitynow
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2026 marks ten years of Dem Bois Inc. To honor this milestone, we invite you to join our 10 for 10 campaign by giving $10 a month to help sustain the care, leadership, and visibility that trans men of color deserve.

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Dem Bois Community Voices Facebook Group is a safe, moderated sanctuary where trans men of color can connect authentically, discuss podcast episodes, share powerful experiences, and build support networks.

Dem Bois YouTube Channel! - @demboisinc - Exclusive content you won't find anywhere else!