In this deeply nourishing episode, I’m joined by Ann Weiser Cornell, PhD—author, teacher, and a pioneer in emotional healing through the practice of Focusing and radical acceptance. Ann has spent decades helping people transform the parts of themselves they’ve been trying to fix, hide, or silence. Together, we explore what it means to turn toward the most painful emotions—shame, fear, self-doubt—not with resistance, but with compassion and presence.

Ann shares how the nervous system and emotional patterns can become “stuck” when we reject or disown parts of our inner experience. We dive into the powerful concept of self-in-presence, and how relating to your inner world without merging or identifying with it can become a path to deep, lasting healing.

If you've ever felt broken, overwhelmed by inner criticism, or caught in cycles of emotional pain you can’t “logic” your way out of, this conversation is here to remind you: you are not your trauma, your coping mechanisms, or your pain. You’re the one who can learn to turn toward it—with gentleness, curiosity, and radical acceptance.

Connect with Anne:

https://focusingresources.com/

https://focusingresources.com/

https://focusingresources.com/learning/untangling/

https://focusingresources.com/learning/get-bigger-than-whats-bugging-you

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TRIGGERED TO ROOTED: A ROADMAP TO CREATE TREASURES FROM YOUR TRIGGERS

This powerful step by step process will walk you through how to somatically move through a trigger, ground yourself, allow the emotions to come up and experience massive growth in your life

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Top Episode Quotes:

“You are not your shame. You’re the one who can turn toward it with love.” — Ann Weiser Cornell

“When you stop trying to fix yourself and start listening to yourself, healing begins.” — Ann Weiser Cornell

“Presence is not detachment—it’s the warm, loving awareness that says, ‘I’m here with you.’”

Ann Weiser Cornell, radical acceptance, emotional healing, somatic healing, trauma recovery, focusing therapy, nervous system regulation, self-compassion, inner child healing, shame healing, healing from trauma, parts work, embodiment, personal growth podcast, deep healing conversations

In this deeply personal and vulnerable episode, Marina shares the most transformative relationship experience of her life—the one that finally broke the cycle of being the fixer in love. With raw honesty, she opens up about falling for someone with immense potential, a soulful connection, and an incredibly difficult past. But more importantly, she shares how she finally walked away—not just physically, but emotionally and somatically—from the belief that her love could save someone who didn’t want to be saved.

This is not just a story of heartbreak; it’s a story of nervous system healing, boundary reclamation, and rewriting the blueprint of what love feels like. If you've ever stayed in a relationship hoping the other person would change, if you've ever been hooked by potential instead of reality, or if you’ve lost yourself trying to fix someone else—this episode will speak to the deepest parts of you.

Marina invites you into her process of grieving not only a romantic relationship but also her relationship with her father, and how all of it ties back to her childhood pattern of trying to earn love through healing others. She reflects on her own addiction—not to substances, but to hope, to the fixer fantasy, and to the deep desire for emotional safety. Through this heartbreak, she found a sense of freedom she never knew was possible.

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❥❥❥Stay or Go Course: ⁠https://marinayt.com/stay-or-go⁠

❥❥❥❥ FREE RESOURCE: a step-by-step process of working with your triggers

TRIGGERED TO ROOTED: A ROADMAP TO CREATE TREASURES FROM YOUR TRIGGERS

This powerful step by step process will walk you through how to somatically move through a trigger, ground yourself, allow the emotions to come up and experience massive growth in your life

Download here:⁠ ⁠https://marinayt.com/trigger-2-rooted⁠⁠

Follow me on Instagram:⁠ ⁠www.instagram.com/marina.y.t⁠⁠

Subscribe to YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/@marinatriner

Top Episode Quotes:

"I was addicted—not to him—but to his recovery. That was my drug."

"I used to fall in love with who people could be. Now I fall in love with how they treat me."

"Healing isn’t just knowing better. It’s feeling differently. It's your nervous system learning what safety actually is."

"The fixer in me always saw souls. But now, I’m learning to love what’s real."

"I grieved the love story that never happened—because potential isn’t love, and fantasy isn’t reality."

trauma healing, somatic healing, relationship patterns, fixer mentality, codependency, emotional healing, nervous system regulation, heartbreak recovery, boundaries, breaking trauma bonds, Marina Yanay-Triner, Deep Within podcast

What if the real reason you're exhausted isn’t your job, but the invisible emotional labor you’ve been carrying for everyone else? In this raw and vulnerable solo episode, Marina opens up about her own burnout—not from overworking, but from being the fixer, the emotional container, and the one who always says “yes.”

This is a conversation for the silent supporters. The ones who grew up too soon, who manage everyone else’s stress while ignoring their own. Marina shares the painful yet liberating truth about the toll this emotional responsibility takes on your nervous system—and what happens when you finally stop.

She talks about grief, guilt, shame, and the unexpected discomfort of being supported after years of self-sacrifice. Whether you've been the emotional anchor in your family, your relationships, or your community, this episode will help you reclaim your energy, redefine responsibility, and begin the journey toward rest, reciprocity, and nervous system safety.

You are not selfish for choosing ease. You are not wrong for wanting to be held too. You’re just finally learning to be free.

❥Join The Unburdened Heart Program: https://marinayt.com/the-unburdened-heart

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❥❥❥Stay or Go Course: ⁠https://marinayt.com/stay-or-go⁠

❥❥❥❥ FREE RESOURCE: a step-by-step process of working with your triggers

TRIGGERED TO ROOTED: A ROADMAP TO CREATE TREASURES FROM YOUR TRIGGERS

This powerful step by step process will walk you through how to somatically move through a trigger, ground yourself, allow the emotions to come up and experience massive growth in your life

Download here:⁠ ⁠https://marinayt.com/trigger-2-rooted⁠⁠

Follow me on Instagram:⁠ ⁠www.instagram.com/marina.y.t⁠⁠

Subscribe to YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/@marinatriner

Top Episode Quotes:

“There is very real burnout that comes from carrying the nervous systems of other people.”

“Fixing doesn’t feel like work—until your nervous system breaks down.”

“Letting go of emotional responsibility isn’t easy. It’s grief, growth, and radical rest.”

“Your life doesn’t have to feel hard to be valid. Ease is not a betrayal—it’s a birthright.”

“The transition from fixer to free is messy, heartbreaking, and completely worth it.”

emotional burnout, somatic healing, fixer in relationships, nervous system healing, emotional labor, boundaries, rest and recovery, personal growth, healing childhood trauma, over-responsibility, somatic coaching, Marina Yanai Trainer, deep within podcast