In this episode of 'Dating in Your 20s', therapists Lilly Wehman and Amelia Abernathy share their personal experiences and insights on the emotional challenges of dating in their twenties. They discuss the vulnerability of early dating stages, the extremes of emotional responses, and the importance of community and shared experiences. The conversation emphasizes the need for coping mechanisms and small steps to regain control amidst the chaos of dating, while also promoting an upcoming community event for listeners.

Takeaways

• Clients are experiencing heightened anxiety over dating responses.
• Vulnerability is a common theme in early dating stages.
• Jumping to conclusions can lead to unnecessary anxiety.
• Communication is key to avoiding ghosting.
• Finding balance between extremes is essential for emotional health.
• The middle ground in dating can be a safe space.
• Coping mechanisms can be small but effective.
• Community support is vital during dating struggles.
• It's okay to seek help and share experiences with others.

Link to the event we’ll be at: https://www.thebeautyboost.net/events/sip-social-spook

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• Looking Back, Moving Forward: How Our Podcast Changed Our Relationships With Oren Matteson
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Dating In Your 20s Anonymous Corner

We'd love to hear from you! Check out the anonymous DIY20s Form. It's a safe, judgment-free space to share what’s going on in your love life.

Connect:

Lilly Wehman: Millennium | LinkedIn
Amelia Abernathy: Millennium | LinkedIn

This podcast is powered by Millennium Counseling Center in Chicago, IL. To learn more visit: millenniumhope.com

In this episode, Oren Matteson sits down with Dating in Your 20s hosts Amelia Abernathy and Lilly Wehman to reflect on their podcast journey so far. Together, they explore how their conversations about dating, growth, and self-awareness have shaped their own relationships and perspectives. The trio dives into topics like communication, setting intentions, evolving expectations in modern dating, and what commitment really looks like in your twenties. They also share what’s next for the podcast and how it continues to evolve alongside their personal lives.

Takeaways

• The podcast started as a resource for clients.
• Lilly and Amelia's relationship has deepened through their discussions.
• The podcast has helped them connect with friends and clients.
• Amelia feels less different in her dating experiences.
• Conversations on the podcast have made them more confident.
• Dating is seen as fun and exciting, not embarrassing.
• Expectations in dating are influenced by media and societal norms.
• Communication is key to understanding intentions in dating.
• Commitment is a signal to begin the hard work in relationships.
• They aspire to create more interactive content for their audience.

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• The Narcissism Conversation: What’s Real, What’s Overused, and How to Heal With DeVona Alleyne
• Dating in Your 20s Series: Male Perspectives on Dating with Oren Matteson

Dating In Your 20s Anonymous Corner

We'd love to hear from you! Check out the anonymous DIY20s Form. It's a safe, judgment-free space to share what’s going on in your love life.

Connect:

Lilly Wehman: Millennium | LinkedIn
Amelia Abernathy: Millennium | LinkedIn
Oren Matteson: Millennium | LinkedIn

This podcast is powered by Millennium Counseling Center in Chicago, IL. To learn more visit: millenniumhope.com

In this episode of Dating in Your 20s, Amelia and Lilly sit down with Rev. DeVona Alleyne, LCPC, Clinical Director at Millennium Counseling Center, for a candid conversation about the complexities of narcissism in relationships.

Together, they break down:

• The traits of narcissistic tendencies and how they can show up in dating
• The phenomenon of love bombing and its emotional aftermath
• The role of gaslighting and why it can be so disorienting
• How to recognize red flags and set boundaries
• The importance of self-awareness and compassion—for both yourself and others

DeVona shares wisdom from her clinical perspective and pastoral lens, offering guidance on how to protect your mental and emotional health while navigating the highs and lows of dating in your 20s.

This episode is an honest and empowering look at how to prioritize your needs, trust your instincts, and approach relationships with clarity and confidence.

Takeaways

Narcissistic tendencies can manifest as a lack of empathy.
Love bombing often covers up underlying shame.
Recognizing red flags early can prevent emotional turmoil.
Gaslighting is a common tactic used by narcissists.
Setting boundaries is crucial in any relationship.
Compassion for those with narcissistic tendencies is important.
Attachment styles can influence relationship dynamics.
Dating in your 20s requires self-awareness and reflection.
It's essential to prioritize your own needs in relationships.
Healthy relationships should allow for personal boundaries.

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• The DMs Are Open: Listener Q&A
• Why You Ghost, Cling, or Chase: Attachment Styles with Hilary Rosenberg

Dating In Your 20s Anonymous Corner

We'd love to hear from you! Check out the anonymous DIY20s Form. It's a safe, judgment-free space to share what’s going on in your love life.

Connect:

Lilly Wehman: Millennium | LinkedIn
Amelia Abernathy: Millennium | LinkedIn
Rev. DeVona Alleyne: Millennium | LinkedIn

This podcast is powered by Millennium Counseling Center in Chicago, IL. To learn more visit: millenniumhope.com