I just got back from the ISSWSH (International Society for the Study of Women's Sexual Health) annual meeting in Long Beach, California - and I couldn't wait to bring everything I heard straight to you. This solo episode is part conference recap, part deep dive into the research I think matters most for anyone living with vulvovaginal pain, pelvic pain, or sexual pain of any kind.

In this episode I cover:

• What sexual medicine actually is - and why a whole field exists around it
• Vulvodynia subtypes and treatment matching - new data showing that hormonally-driven vulvodynia has a 70% response rate to estrogen/testosterone therapy, and why getting the wrong treatment for the wrong subtype may be why nothing has worked for you
• Endometriosis and neuroproliferative dyspareunia - a newly validated subtype of deep endo pain that is nerve-driven and needs an entirely different treatment approach
• Pelvic venous disorder (PEVD) - essentially varicose veins inside the pelvis, and why almost no one is being checked for it despite its links to chronic pelvic pain and conditions like POTS, MCAS and hypermobility
• The vaginal estrogen update - why the removal of the black box warning on low-dose vaginal estrogen is such a big deal, and why these symptoms aren't just a menopause issue
• Why women's pain is still being dismissed - a powerful presentation on the clinical gaze, pain measurement, gendered bias in medicine, and the feedback loop between underfunding and misdiagnosis. Plus: the dismissal of women's pain is not evenly distributed, and we need to talk about that.
• Access and equity - new data showing Manhattan has 60x more pelvic floor physios per capita than the Bronx, with only 21% of practices accepting Medicaid

I also share something personal about privilege, what it means to be in a room like this, and who I'm really doing this for.

Resources & links mentioned:

• 🔗 ISSWSH — International Society for the Study of Women's Sexual Health
• 🔗 @painsdownthere / @ThrushSupport - follow her on Instagram for important work on the link between recurrent thrush and vulvar nerve damage
• 📖 When Sex Hurts: Understanding and Healing Pelvic Pain by Goldstein, Pukall, Goldstein & Krapf - the book on vulvodynia subtypes I recommend bringing to your doctor
• 🔗 My Instagram: @meet.baubo

If anything in this episode resonated, please reach out - I read every message. And if you're finding this podcast helpful, sharing it with someone who needs it is the biggest thing you can do.

For decades, vulvodynia was considered a mystery condition with few answers and limited treatment options. That's no longer the case.

In this episode, Dr. Andrew Goldstein - Clinical Professor at George Washington University and one of the world's leading experts on vulvar and pelvic pain - explains how 25 years of dedicated research has transformed our understanding of vulvodynia from a "black box" into a condition with identifiable causes and effective treatments.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why vulvodynia wasn't part of standard medical training (and what's changing)
• The real causes behind vulvar pain - from mast cell inflammation to hormonal triggers
• How birth control pills can cause vulvodynia in some women (and the genetic reasons why)
• Why the majority of pelvic pain patients have been gaslit - and the JAMA study that proves it
• The truth about vestibulectomy surgery: who needs it (only 7% of patients) and the 97% success rate
• Exciting new treatments on the horizon, including ketotifen for mast cell stabilization

Dr. Goldstein, past president of the International Society for the Study of Women's Sexual Health, has published over 170 peer-reviewed articles and co-authored 8 books on female sexual pain. He shares the revolutionary research from the 2023 Vulvodynia Therapeutics Summit and explains why vulvodynia is no longer a mystery condition - it's a solvable problem with tailored treatments.

Whether you're living with vulvodynia, vestibulodynia, vaginismus, or other forms of pelvic pain, this episode offers validation, answers, and hope for your healing journey.

🎧 Topics covered: vulvodynia causes, hormonally mediated vulvodynia, provoked vestibulodynia, vestibulectomy surgery, pelvic floor dysfunction, mast cell activation, birth control and vulvar pain, gaslighting in healthcare, new vulvodynia treatments

🔬 WANT TO HELP ADVANCE VULVODYNIA RESEARCH?

Dr. Goldstein emphasizes that clinical trials are crucial for developing new treatments. If you're interested in participating in vulvodynia research studies, including trials for ketotifen (mast cell stabilizer), resiniferatoxin (nerve desensitization),and Xeomin (for vulvodynia due to secondary hypertonic pelvic floor muscle dysfunction), reach out to research.cvvd@gmail.com.

Your participation could help create the breakthrough treatments of tomorrow.

RESOURCES & LINKS:

Dr. Andrew Goldstein:

• Centers for Vulvovaginal Disorders: www.vulvodynia.com

Organizations mentioned:

• International Society for the Study of Women's Sexual Health (ISSWSH): www.isswsh.org
• National Vulvodynia Association: www.nva.org
• Tight Lipped (Patient Advocacy): https://www.tightlipped.org/

Dr. Goldstein's Books:

• When Sex Hurts (2nd edition, 2022)
• Female Sexual Pain Disorders: Evaluation & Management (2nd edition, 2020)

• Reclaiming Desire (2nd edition, 2009)

Connect with the podcast: @meet.baubo or mathilde@baubo.org

If you're dealing with vaginismus or vulvodynia, you know how limited treatment options can feel - and how rarely we see real innovation in this space. That's why I was so intrigued when I discovered light therapy as a potential tool for pelvic pain relief.

In this episode, I sit down with Liz Frey, a pelvic health physiotherapist and Women's Health Medical Director at Fringe, to explore how light therapy is being used to treat vaginismus, vulvodynia, and pelvic floor hypertonicity.

Liz breaks down the science of photobiomodulation and explains how different wavelengths of light - red, near-infrared, and blue - work at the cellular level to promote tissue healing, reduce inflammation, and support pelvic floor recovery.

In this episode, we discuss:

• What light therapy actually is and how it differs from sunlight exposure
• The science behind red light and near-infrared therapy for tissue healing
• How light therapy can help with vaginismus, vulvodynia, and pelvic floor hypertonicity
• Blue light therapy for vaginal microbiome health and bacterial vaginosis
• The Fringe Pelvic Wand: combining light therapy with gentle vibration
• Use cases for postpartum recovery, menopause, and pelvic atrophy
• Contraindications and safety considerations
• How to integrate light therapy into your pelvic pain treatment plan

Resources mentioned:

• Fringe website: FringeHeals.com
• Instagram: @FringeHeals
• Use discount code BAUBO10 for exclusive savings

Connect with the podcast: @Meet.Baubo or mathilde@baubo.org

After experiencing vaginismus for over 15 years, Lauren found a treatment approach that finally worked - and it looked very different from the clinical, physical therapy-style dilation she'd tried before.

In this conversation, Lauren opens up about her journey from her first painful gynecologist visit at age 12 through years of inadequate medical advice ("just relax" and "have a glass of wine"), to discovering what actually helped: an arousal-first approach to dilating that prioritized pleasure over protocol.

Lauren shares the practical details of her routine - how she started so slowly she didn't even use dilators at first, why she incorporated audio porn and a magic wand into every session, and how she worked with her husband to build arousal skills before ever attempting penetrative sex together. She also discusses the role that going off birth control played in reconnecting with her libido and menstrual cycle, and how understanding her body's natural rhythms helped her succeed.

This episode offers concrete, actionable insights for anyone struggling with vaginismus, while also exploring the emotional and relational impact of living with pain. Lauren's story is a reminder that healing doesn't have to follow a rigid formula - and that sometimes the key is making the process feel less like physical therapy and more like something you actually want to do.

Connect with Lauren on instagram @tcsbooks

Connect with Mathilde on instagram @meet.baubo or mathilde@baubo.org

This episode isn't just about dating and relationships - though we definitely talk about that. It's about how vaginismus can impact every corner of your life: your confidence at work, whether you feel like an imposter in your career, how you express yourself creatively through movement or dance, your ability to assert yourself in everyday situations, and the mental space it occupies in your mind.

Are you postponing not just dating, but living fully until your vaginismus is "fixed"? Do you feel broken, unworthy, or like you're somehow less than because of sexual pain?

This episode is your permission slip to stop waiting and start reclaiming your worth NOW.

I'm joined by Dr. Janelle Frederick (@vaginarehabdoctor), pelvic floor physical therapist and vaginismus specialist, for what might be the most important conversation you hear this year about self-worth, living fully with vaginismus, and why the narrative of being "broken" needs to end.

This isn't just another clinical discussion about pelvic floor dysfunction - this is a raw, honest pep talk about why you're worthy of love RIGHT NOW, how to show up confidently in all areas of your life despite vaginismus, and how healing goes far beyond just being able to have pain-free sex.

Dr. Janelle brings her signature bold, refreshing approach - she's unfiltered, empowering, and refuses to let you stay stuck in shame. She shares powerful client transformations, including a dancer who couldn't access her sensual expression because of vaginismus, and medical professionals who felt like imposters despite their expertise.

About Dr. Janelle Howell: Dr. Janelle Howell is a Doctor of Physical Therapy who specializes in helping women overcome vaginismus, vulvodynia, and chronic sexual pain through her virtual practice. She combines physical therapy expertise with mindset work, addressing both the body and beliefs that keep women stuck.

Resources mentioned:

• Vaginismus to Vagilicious Challenge (yearly January challenge)
• Dr. Janelle's Podcast: “The Vagina Rehab Doctor Podcast”
• Follow Dr. Janelle on IG: @vaginarehabdoctor

• MELT Challenge for softening your pelvic floor

Connect with us on IG: @meet.baubo

As the year closes, I wanted to take a moment to say thank you - to everyone who's listened, shared, and reached out.

In this episode, I reflect on the journey so far, share a personal update on my own journey, and talk about about why fact-checking and accountability matter so much when it comes to information about women's bodies.

Your feedback shapes this podcast. If you ever want to talk, suggest a topic, or question something you've heard here - I'm listening!

Follow along on @meet.baubo or reach out to me mathilde@baubo.org

What happens in sex therapy for vaginismus and vulvodynia? In this conversation with certified holistic sexuality educator and embodied intimacy coach Lauren Elise Rogers, we explore how sex and relationship coaching addresses the root causes of sexual pain - beyond just the physical symptoms.

Lauren shares her journey from purity culture to becoming a specialist in treating vaginismus, vulvodynia, and painful sex. We discuss:

• The "garden metaphor" – three levels of sexual beliefs living in your body (explicit, latent, and body-based)
• Why your body's "no" to sex might be wisdom, not dysfunction
• How arousal actually dampens pain perception (and why this isn't talked about more)
• The three-minute game for rebuilding trust and creating new neural pathways
• Why dilators alone aren't enough without addressing trauma, arousal, and context
• Practical timeline exercises you can try at home to uncover hidden sexual beliefs

If you've been told to "just push through" the pain, or feel broken because treatment isn't working, this episode offers a different perspective: your body isn't broken - it's communicating. Lauren explains how sex therapy works alongside pelvic floor physio and medical care to treat the psychological, emotional, and educational gaps that often underlie conditions like vaginismus and vulvodynia.

Resources mentioned:

• The three-minute touch game
• Sexual timeline exercise (ages 7, 14, 21)
• Fill-in-the-blank prompts: "Sex is___", "My body belongs to___", "It's a girl's job to__”, "It's a boy’s job to__”, “To stay safe, I___"

Connect with Lauren:

• IG: https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/
• https://sexedforyou.com/

Connect with us:

• mathilde@baubo.org
• IG: https://www.instagram.com/meet.baubo/

This is not medical advice. Always work with qualified healthcare providers for diagnosis and treatment of sexual pain conditions.