AI can answer your questions, offer reassurance, even write the perfect breakup text. But can it really help you heal after betrayal?

In this episode, Luke explores the growing use of AI tools in emotional recovery, from journaling and reflection to replacing genuine connection, and asks an important question: What happens when your search for healing turns into another form of avoidance?

Luke unpacks:

• Why we turn to AI when we’re hurting
• The difference between reflection and relationship
• How AI can support clarity, but not replace connection
• The subtle danger of outsourcing your inner voice
• How to use AI consciously, without losing your sense of self

Because real healing still begins where it always has, within you.

Key Takeaways:

• AI can help you process thoughts, but it can’t meet emotional needs.
• Healing requires human connection, not just understanding.
• Be mindful of using AI to avoid feeling rather than explore feeling.
• Technology is a tool, not a therapist.
• Awareness is what keeps reflection from turning into dependency.

Connect with Luke:

• Website: www.lifecoachluke.com
• Instagram: @mylifecoachluke
• Email: luke@lifecoachluke.com

Join the After the Affair community at www.facebook.com/groups/aftertheaffaircommunity

After infidelity, “safety” becomes the word we chase; - Emotional safety - Relational safety - Internal safety

But what does that actually mean? And how do you build it when trust has been broken?

In this episode, Luke explores the delicate balance between finding safety within yourself and rebuilding safety with your partner.

Because healing isn’t about becoming immune to pain or pretending you don’t need anyone, it’s about knowing how to meet yourself when the pain comes, and recognising who’s capable of meeting you there too.

In this episode, we’ll explore:

• What “inner safety” really means (and what it doesn’t)
• Why self-trust and relational trust are two sides of the same bridge
• How to stop gaslighting yourself into accepting unsafe behaviour
• The difference between chaos and connection
• Why craving reassurance isn’t weakness, it’s wiring

If you’ve ever wondered whether it’s possible to feel safe again, both within yourself and in a relationship that’s been shaken by betrayal, this episode is for you.

Connect with Luke:

• Website: www.lifecoachluke.com
• Instagram: @mylifecoachluke
• Email: luke@lifecoachluke.com

Join the After the Affair community at www.facebook.com/groups/aftertheaffaircommunity

Fight, Apologise, Repeat: Breaking the Cycle of False Hope

If you’ve ever felt stuck in the cycle of conflict and reconciliation, the fights that leave you questioning everything, followed by apologies that flood you with hope, this episode is for you.

Because while those moments of reconnection can feel powerful, they don’t always mean real change is happening. Sometimes, they just keep you hooked in a painful loop of false hope.

In this episode, I’ll explore:

• Why the fight–make up cycle feels so addictive (hint: it’s not just emotional, it’s chemical).
• How these constant highs and lows erode trust and clarity.
• The difference between hope with evidence and hope based on words alone.
• Practical ways to spot the cycle and start breaking free.
• Why compassion is essential, both for the betrayed partner and the unfaithful one.

If you’re tired of riding this emotional rollercoaster, this conversation will give you the clarity to see the cycle for what it is, and the courage to choose something different.

Connect with Luke:

• Website: www.lifecoachluke.com
• Instagram: @mylifecoachluke
• Email: luke@lifecoachluke.com

Join the After the Affair community at www.facebook.com/groups/aftertheaffaircommunity