Porn, performative sex, consent, and empathy shape modern intimacy—one college man challenges harmful sexual myths.

Pornography, performative sex, and cultural myths are reshaping how young people understand intimacy, often in damaging and confusing ways. In this powerful follow-up to Part 1, hosts Dr. Chez Leeby and Stephanie Boye welcome back Garrett, a college junior from Texas, for a vulnerable and eye-opening conversation about consent, empathy, and authentic sexual connection.

Garrett courageously shares a personal story that reveals the emotional toll of performative sex, including the normalization of sexual pressure and porn-driven expectations. Together, they unpack how modern cultural scripts—ranging from BDSM trends to "trad wife" aesthetics—distort healthy intimacy, blur consent, and discourage emotional honesty.

This episode challenges myths around orgasm, hookup culture, and sexual performance, emphasizing the importance of empathy, communication, and ongoing consent in relationships. For young adults, parents, educators, and anyone navigating intimacy in a porn-saturated culture, Garrett's honesty offers clarity, accountability, and hope.

Listeners will gain insight into:

• The real meaning of performative sex and how porn normalizes harmful behavior.

• Why empathy and ongoing, enthusiastic consent are non-negotiable in intimacy.

• Cultural double standards and their impact on sexual expectations.

• Debunking orgasm myths and promoting honest conversations.

• How authentic connection leads to healthier, more fulfilling relationships.

This episode is an essential listen for students, parents, educators, and anyone seeking to better understand the realities of modern sexual culture.

Timestamps

00:00 Trigger Warning

00:15 Sneak Peek

00:41 Recap of Previous Episode

01:42 Diving into Performative Sex

02:27 Understanding Forced Fellatio

04:55 Garrett's Personal Experience

08:22 The Importance of Empathy in Sexual Relationships

11:10 Aligning Actions with Values

14:04 The Impact of Porn on Real-Life Relationships

16:49 The Importance of Communication and Consent

19:40 Navigating Mixed Signals in Intimacy

20:46 The Importance of Communication in Relationships

22:20 Debunking Myths About Sexual Satisfaction

24:29 Expressing Gratitude and Empathy

27:30 Wrap Up: The Impact of Performative Sex

29:51 Encouraging Authenticity in Intimate Relationships

36:32 The Pendulum of Authenticity

38:35 Closing Thoughts and Resources

Resources Mentioned:

● Urban Dictionary: For understanding slang terms like "forced fellatio"

● 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: Free and confidential mental health support

● 7 on Sundays Website (https://7onsundays.com): More episodes, resources, and support

Porn, hookup culture, consent, and masculinity shape how young men experience sex—one college man shares his story.

Pornography, performative sex, and toxic masculinity deeply influence how young men approach relationships, intimacy, and identity, yet few men speak openly about their impact. In this raw and powerful episode of 7 on Sundays, hosts Dr. Chez Leeby and Stephanie Boye sit down with Garrett, a college junior from Texas, to explore the hidden realities of modern hookup culture, consent, and masculinity from a male perspective.

Garrett candidly shares how early porn exposure, media messages, and cultural double standards shaped his views on sex, relationships, and self-worth. He opens up about the pressure of performative sex, experiences with coercion and consent, and how stereotypes around masculinity made emotional vulnerability and honest communication difficult.

This is part one of a two-part series examining the intersection of sex, porn addiction, culture, and identity. Garrett's story offers rare insight into the male experience and invites parents, educators, and young adults to rethink how we talk about consent, masculinity, emotional needs, and healthy relationships.

Listeners will gain insight into:

• What "performative sex" is and how porn and pop culture fuel it.

• The impact of pornography addiction and early sexual exposure.

• Why parent-child conversations about sex and mental health matter.

• Coercion, consent, and cultural double standards.

• How masculinity stereotypes prevent vulnerability and healthy intimacy.

• The role of therapy, self-awareness, and emotional growth.

This candid episode will resonate with anyone seeking to better understand the complexities of modern masculinity, consent, and intimacy.

00:00 Trigger Warning

00:15 Sneak Peek At What's To Come

00:59 Introduction to Performative Sex

02:41 Impact of Pornography on Relationships

03:43 Parental Influence and Early Exposure

07:21 Cultural Messaging and Its Effects

18:25 Double Standards and Sexual Assault on Men

29:38 Navigating Relationships and Sexual Expectations

32:13 Navigating Relationship Dynamics

33:11 Parental Influence and Personal Realizations

34:25 The Importance of Emotional and Physical Connection

35:21 Addressing Insecurities in Relationships

48:34 The Need for Relationship Education

50:20 Therapy and Mental Health Stigma

55:10 Concluding Thoughts and Future Insights

● Kinsey Institute
https://kinseyinstitute.org
Research organization exploring sex, gender, and reproduction

● National Sexual Assault Hotline (RAINN)
https://www.rainn.org
Free, confidential support for sexual assault survivors: 1-800-656-HOPE (4673)

● Suicide & Crisis Lifeline
https://988lifeline.org
Call or text 988 for 24/7 mental health support in the U.S.

Lily shares her story of post-college struggles, binge drinking, toxic friendships, and how faith and self-discovery transformed her life.

Life after college isn't always glamorous. For many young adults, post-grad life comes with loneliness, binge drinking, and unhealthy friendships that leave them feeling lost and unfulfilled. In this powerful episode of 7 on Sundays, hosts Dr. Chez Leeby and Stephanie Boye sit down with Lily, who bravely shares her story of reckless nights, toxic relationships, and the hard lessons that led her to transformation.

Lily opens up about the dangers of binge drinking, the wake-up call that changed her life, and the painful process of leaving behind a toxic social scene. She reveals how faith, self-reflection, and authentic community gave her purpose and hope. Through vulnerability and wisdom, Lily's story highlights how post-college struggles can become the catalyst for growth and resilience.

Listeners will gain insights into:

• The challenges of transitioning from college to post-grad life.

• The emotional and physical risks of binge drinking.

• The loneliness that follows walking away from unhealthy friendships.

• How faith and self-discovery can rebuild confidence and purpose.

• Tips for building a supportive, like-minded community.

• Embracing authenticity online and offline to attract real connections.

This episode is for anyone navigating post-college uncertainty, struggling with toxic friendships, or searching for hope and meaning.

Timestamps

00:00 Introduction and Trigger Warning

00:17 Personal Story: Reckless Behavior and Consequences

01:22 Podcast Hosts Introduction and Topic Overview

02:50 Lily's Post-College Struggles

04:27 Turning Point: Finding a New Path

06:01 Building a New Community

08:03 Reflections on Loneliness and Isolation

16:57 Parental Perspective and Support

26:52 Navigating Rejection and Finding Your Tribe

27:54 The Wisdom of Friends and Family

29:47 Building Authentic Communities

33:03 Embracing Nature and Hobbies

34:25 The Power of Authenticity on Social Media

48:46 Final Thoughts and Farewell

Online safety expert Jo Robertson returns to 7 on Sundays to break down the explosive rise of sextortion, grooming, and digital exploitation — including an 1800% increase among 7–10-year-olds. She explains how predators operate, which kids are most targeted, why grooming can happen in just 45 minutes, and how parents can protect their children without creating shame or secondary trauma. This is essential listening for any caregiver navigating the modern online landscape.

1. What sextortion is and how it differs from sexual exploitation

2. Why boys and LGBTQ+ youth are disproportionately targeted

3. The shocking rise in self-generated imagery among 7–10-year-olds

4. How grooming works — and why it can happen in under an hour

5. The role of gaming platforms, social media, and dating apps

6. Example: a Roblox group with 100,000+ groomers trading tactics

7. Why encrypted messaging has made kids more vulnerable

8. The early warning signs of coercion, secrecy, and manipulation

9. How trauma from sextortion mirrors complex PTSD

10. The long-term effects on identity, intimacy, and trust

11. How parental reactions can cause secondary trauma

12. Why no child is "too young" for conversations about online safety

13. The protective power of extracurriculars and after-school activities

14. Why pornography has normalized coercion in youth culture

15. Concrete steps parents can take right now to reduce risk

• Jo Robertson website

• Tricky Chats: Jo's parenting/online safety course

• TikTok Online Safety Partnership (referenced in episode)

In this powerful episode, sex educator, trauma therapist, and porn researcher Jo Robertson breaks down the alarming rise in online grooming, sextortion, and exposure to sexual content among today's youth. With clear data, real-world examples, and insight from years of clinical and educational work, Jo explains how digital spaces are shaping young people's relationships, sexual development, and vulnerability to harm. This conversation is essential listening for teens, parents, and anyone invested in online safety.

• Why exposure to sexual content is now almost universal among young people

• The disturbing number of teens who encounter illegal sexual content daily

• How predators groom young people and why grooming and sextortion are not the same

• The sharp rise in self-generated child sexual abuse material among kids as young as 7

• How porn normalizes behaviors that show up in peer-to-peer interactions

• Why sexual "scripts" online are shaping consent, pleasure, and expectations

• The impact of animated porn and incest-themed content on developing sexual beliefs

• Why boys are more frequently sextorted, while girls are more often groomed

• The role of AI, deepfakes, gaming platforms, and social apps in facilitating harm

• The decline in teen sexual activity—and why sex has become riskier

• The four C's of healthy sexual encounters: communication, care, comfort, contraception/safety

• How shows like Normal People, Forever, and Dawson's Creek model healthy communication

• What young adults ask sex therapists, from "Is this normal?" to navigating coercive dynamics

• Jo Robertson's TEDx talk

• Jo Robertson website

• Internet Watch Foundation research

• Stop It Now (prevention and early-intervention organization)

• Media referenced: Normal People, Forever, Dawson's Creek, Sex Education

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Toxic relationships, gaslighting & love bombing—Natasha shares her story of red flags, narcissism, and healing in modern dating.

Toxic relationships, gaslighting, and love bombing are more common than we think—and Natasha knows this firsthand. In this powerful episode of 7 On Sundays, hosts Dr. Chez Leeby and Stephanie Boye sit down with Natasha to unpack her journey through toxic relationships, narcissistic behaviors, and the emotional toll of manipulation.

From recognizing red flags like love bombing to understanding the impact of gaslighting, Natasha shares her candid story of self-discovery and healing. This episode explores how toxic dating culture, social media, and unrealistic expectations can trap people in harmful relationships—and what it takes to rebuild self-worth and confidence.

Whether you've struggled with toxic love, know someone who has, or want to understand modern relationship dynamics, this conversation provides raw insight, encouragement, and practical steps toward healing.

Resources Mentioned

Book: *It Ends With Us* by Colleen Hoover – A novel depicting the cycle of abuse and toxic relationships.

Timestamps

00:00 Introduction and Trigger Warning

00:15 Natasha's Story Begins

00:57 Welcome and Topic Overview

02:03 Natasha's Dating Experience

09:12 Understanding Narcissism

11:37 Therapy and Narcissistic Traits

22:50 Natasha's Realization and Breakup

25:24 Moving Forward and Advice

37:04 Recognizing Narcissistic Behaviors

38:44 The Aftermath of a Toxic Relationship

39:17 The Importance of Self-Healing

40:49 Red Flags in Relationships

45:41 The Impact of Love Bombing

47:58 Cultural Expectations and Reality

51:21 Learning from Past Relationships

56:45 The Value of Authenticity

58:53 Final Thoughts and Advice

Thomas shares a rare male perspective on porn, trauma, violent sex, and the struggle for boundaries, consent, and healing in modern relationships.

What happens when love collides with extreme sexual expectations, past trauma, and pornography's influence? In this raw and courageous episode of 7 On Sundays, hosts Stephanie Boye and Dr. Chez Leeby sit down with Thomas, who bravely shares his story of navigating a relationship shaped by violent sexual behaviors, unspoken boundaries, and emotional conflict.

From the normalization of rough and extreme sex to the generational shift fueled by porn and peer culture, Thomas offers a rare male perspective on how these dynamics affect mental health, intimacy, and self-worth. Together, they explore the psychological toll of violent sexual expectations, the struggle to balance love with discomfort, and the importance of open conversations about boundaries, consent, and healing past trauma.

Listeners will gain insight into:

• How pornography rewires sexual expectations and behaviors.

• The emotional consequences of violent sexual practices.

• The pressure men face to "perform" in dominant roles.

• Why trauma often resurfaces in intimate relationships.

• Tools for communication, boundary setting, and self-awareness.

This is an essential episode for anyone questioning cultural sexual norms, struggling with intimacy, or seeking healing after difficult experiences.

Resources Mentioned

- The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk – Link: https://www.besselvanderkolk.com – A deep dive into how trauma is stored in the body and impacts relationships.

- 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline – Call 988 for free, confidential mental health support.

- 7 on Sundays Website: https://www.7onsundays.com – Additional resources, past episodes, and community discussions.

Timestamps

00:00 Introduction and Trigger Warning

00:17 Thomas's Story Begins

01:14 Introducing the Hosts and Guest

01:34 Discussion on Sexual Strangulation

02:20 Age Gap and Pornography's Impact

03:10 Thomas's Relationship Dynamics

06:26 Emotional and Sexual Discord

13:24 Thomas's Struggle with Strangulation

17:10 Impact of Pornography on Preferences

25:39 Therapy and Unresolved Issues

30:56 The Prevalence of Abuse

31:13 Normalization of Sexual Assault

31:37 Impact of Pornography on Perception

32:34 Peer Influence and Sexual Behavior

32:55 Communication and Misunderstanding in Relationships

35:11 Male Perspective on Sexual Expectations

37:48 The Trauma of Sexual Strangulation

41:32 Healing and Moving Forward

44:59 The Need for Open Discussions

56:05 Final Thoughts and Resources

Resources Mentioned

- The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk – Link: https://www.besselvanderkolk.com – A deep dive into how trauma is stored in the body and impacts relationships.

- 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline – Call 988 for free, confidential mental health support.

- 7 On Sundays Website: https://www.7onsundays.com – Additional resources, past episodes, and community discussions.