Reproductive coercion isn’t a misunderstanding — it’s abuse. In this episode of 1 in 3, Lynn joins Ingrid to break down how pregnancy pressure, sabotaged birth control, stealthing, and financial control strip away autonomy long before survivors recognize what’s happening.

We move beyond headlines to define reproductive coercion in real life:

• Stealthing and condom removal without consent
• Birth control sabotage
• Withholding money for abortion or prenatal care
• Guilt disguised as romance
• Pregnancy used as a control tactic

But coercion rarely ends there. Lynn explains how abuse escalates into financial abuse, post-separation abuse, and custody retaliation. We discuss how family court systems sometimes mislabel protective parents as “alienators,” how mandated reporters fail to act, and why children’s disclosures are too often minimized.

Lynn serves on the National Domestic Violence Hotline’s Southern Regional Advisory Committee and leads a Knowledge Exchange focused on legal literacy for survivors. Her policy goal: codify reproductive coercion in Texas and treat stealthing as sexual assault under the law.

This conversation offers:
✔ Clear definitions of reproductive abuse
✔ Practical steps for documentation
✔ Legal literacy tools for survivors
✔ How to find trauma-informed support
✔ How to teach teens about coercive control

If you’ve ever wondered whether pregnancy pressure “counts,” this episode gives language to what many families endure in silence.

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Lynn’s Links:

https://www.1in3podcast.com/guests/lynn-stroud/

https://www.instagram.com/knowledge_exch_abuse_survivors

https://www.linkedin.com/in/lynn-s-16878b6/

1 in 3 is intended for mature audiences. Episodes contain explicit content and may be triggering to some.

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If you are in the United States and need help right now, call the national domestic violence hotline at 800-799-7233 or text the word “start” to 88788.

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Music by Tim Crowe

A life can begin in chaos and still choose compassion.

In this powerful episode of 1 in 3, Ingrid sits down with Malisa to explore healing complex trauma shaped by childhood neglect, addiction, and domestic violence. Together, they unpack trauma not as a single event, but as years without safety—and why healing often begins with who showed up when it hurt.

Malisa shares how perfectionism, achievement, and “being the golden child” became survival strategies for many Gen X and elder millennials, and how unspoken expectations can create lifelong patterns of shame and betrayal. Using the Finding Peace method, archetypes, and clear language for emotional wounds—loss, neglect, betrayal—Malisa shows how naming pain helps triggers finally make sense.

This conversation also dives into nervous system regulation after burnout. Instead of labeling every low cycle as depression, Malisa reframes it as depletion—learning to anticipate emotional highs and lows, meet exhaustion with rest and warmth, and build a repeatable self-care toolkit without judgment.

We talk about:

• Healing complex trauma without self-blame
• Nervous system regulation and burnout recovery
• Shame, self-forgiveness, and emotional neglect
• Somatic tools to return to the body
• Breaking generational cycles and changing family scripts
• Why your worth was never up for debate

This episode is for anyone healing from childhood trauma, emotional neglect, or chronic burnout—and learning how to love themselves with more ease.

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Malisa’s Links:

https://www.1in3podcast.com/guests/malisa-hepner/

https://empoweredwithmalisahepner.org/

https://open.spotify.com/show/09lCA0fq3845NGMDwMvMRt?si=1fc6867ab8cc41d8&nd=1&dlsi=02a37d9fb8fc455e

https://www.instagram.com/malisa.hepner/?hl=en

https://linktr.ee/Mdhepner

1 in 3 is intended for mature audiences. Episodes contain explicit content and may be triggering to some.

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If you are in the United States and need help right now, call the national domestic violence hotline at 800-799-7233 or text the word “start” to 88788.

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Music by Tim Crowe

What if confronting masculinity required stepping inside it?

In this episode of 1 in 3, Ingrid sits down with artist Christopher Quigley, whose immersive traveling installation asks men and boys to physically experience how power, consent, and violence are learned—and how quickly harm can unfold.

Across eight sound-sealed bathroom stalls, participants are immersed in scenarios shaped by locker room culture, coercive language, and exhaustion that blurs consent. From a stall where misogyny is passed through jokes and laughter, to the “71 No's” consent experience that challenges the idea of a pressured yes, to the chilling “21-Second” stall that reveals how fast violence can escalate, this work forces reflection not just in the mind—but in the body.

The conversation expands beyond art into prevention, economics, and policy. We unpack the real financial cost of domestic violence, why prevention outperforms awareness campaigns, and how education—especially for legal and community gatekeepers—can interrupt coercive control before it becomes physical harm.

This is art as public health. Art as accountability. And art as a catalyst for cultural change.

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Christopher’s Links:

https://www.alchemiaartworkshop.org/

https://www.tiktok.com/@alchemiaart

1 in 3 is intended for mature audiences. Episodes contain explicit content and may be triggering to some.

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If you are in the United States and need help right now, call the national domestic violence hotline at 800-799-7233 or text the word “start” to 88788.

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Music by Tim Crowe

What role do men play in ending domestic violence—and why does their silence matter?

In this episode of 1 in 3 Podcast, attorney and former prosecutor Anthony Pasquini joins Ingrid for a candid conversation about male accountability, allyship, and the power of everyday intervention. Anthony shares the moment that shifted his work from the courtroom to community advocacy, after noticing how quickly men disengaged from conversations about abuse.

Together, the discussion explores how abuse escalates from subtle control to coercion and violence when harmful behaviors go unchallenged. Anthony offers practical, realistic ways men can interrupt that cycle—without grandstanding—by setting boundaries, shutting down objectifying language, checking in when something feels off, and choosing empathy over silence.

The episode also highlights WINGS, a Chicago-area organization providing safe housing for survivors, children, and pets, along with education on domestic violence, strangulation, and traumatic brain injuries. Anthony explains why memory gaps in survivors may reflect injury rather than inconsistency—and why this understanding is critical for law enforcement, prosecutors, and healthcare providers.

If you’ve ever wondered how to help someone experiencing abuse, this episode offers a grounded framework: be safe, be clear, be steady. You don’t need to be a survivor to stand with survivors—and you don’t need a platform to make a difference.

Anthony’s Links:

https://www.1in3podcast.com/guests/anthony-pasquini/

https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61584143305857

https://www.linkedin.com/in/anthony-pasquini-1a7924238/

1 in 3 is intended for mature audiences. Episodes contain explicit content and may be triggering to some.

Support the show

If you are in the United States and need help right now, call the national domestic violence hotline at 800-799-7233 or text the word “start” to 88788.

Contact 1 in 3:

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Music by Tim Crowe

One in three women will experience domestic violence. But what happens when the survivor wears a badge?

In this episode of 1 in 3, Ingrid speaks with Mia, a law enforcement officer who entered policing at 21 and was groomed, isolated, and assaulted by a senior officer who framed abuse as “consent” and control as “lifestyle.” Her story exposes how coercive control works behind closed doors and inside institutions meant to protect.

We break down the dangerous overlap between domestic violence, sexual assault, and human trafficking, and why survivors are so often failed when systems treat these crimes as separate issues. Mia explains how compliance is rewarded, resistance is punished, and identity is slowly erased until survival is mistaken for choice.

This conversation explores:

• Coercive control and grooming in intimate partner violence
• Why “she could have left” is a myth rooted in misunderstanding trauma
• How trafficking doesn’t always involve money—status, access, and dominance are “things of value”
• Evidence beyond DNA: strangulation markers, threats to career, financial abuse, digital trails, and witness grooming
• Probable cause vs. proof beyond a reasonable doubt and why totality of circumstances matters

Mia also introduces the Valkyrie Warrior Movement, a training initiative focused on trauma-informed investigations, lethality assessments, and survivor-centered practices for law enforcement, healthcare providers, and allied professionals.

For survivors inside and outside the system, this episode delivers a powerful reminder: shame belongs to abusers, not survivors—and help is worth pursuing until you find it.

If this episode resonates, please subscribe, share, and leave a review. Your voice helps others find safety—and accountability.

Mia’s Links:

https://www.1in3podcast.com/guests/mia-shagena/

https://www.valkyriemovement.org/

https://www.instagram.com/valkyriewarriormovement/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/mia-shagena-116ab4233/

1 in 3 is intended for mature audiences. Episodes contain explicit content and may be triggering to some.

Support the show

If you are in the United States and need help right now, call the national domestic violence hotline at 800-799-7233 or text the word “start” to 88788.

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• Send your emails to 1in3podcast@gmail.com
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Cover art by Laura Swift Dahlke
Music by Tim Crowe

When headlines fade, survivors are often left with the aftermath. In this episode of 1 in 3, Ingrid speaks with Norma Peterson, Executive Director of Document the Abuse, about what really happens behind high-profile domestic violence cases—and how abuse often escalates when someone tries to leave.

Using lessons learned from the disappearance of Stacy Peterson, Norma explains how control, isolation, and intimidation evolve quietly, long before the public ever notices. We explore the legal concept of forfeiture by wrongdoing, which allows a victim’s documented words to be used when they can no longer speak for themselves.

Norma introduces the Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit (EAA)—a secure, off-device digital documentation tool that allows survivors to safely store photos, texts, emails, and timelines without alerting an abuser. We discuss safety features like quick exits, save-in-progress options, and why notarization can strengthen legal credibility—while emphasizing that documentation alone is a powerful act of protection.

We also honor the legacy of advocate Susan Murphy Milano, whose foresight shaped survivor-centered documentation used today by law enforcement, prosecutors, and medical teams. From QR-code access points to youth-focused protections, this conversation highlights how early documentation can save lives.

If your instincts tell you something isn’t right, documenting the pattern may be the safest next step.

Resources mentioned:
• Document the Abuse
• loveisrespect.org

If this episode resonates, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who may need it today.

Norma’s links:

https://www.1in3podcast.com/guests/norma-peterson/

https://documenttheabuse.org/

https://www.instagram.com/documenttheabuse

https://www.youtube.com/@documenttheabuse

https://www.linkedin.com/company/documenttheabuse/

https://www.facebook.com/DocumentTheAbuse

1 in 3 is intended for mature audiences. Episodes contain explicit content and may be triggering to some.

Support the show

If you are in the United States and need help right now, call the national domestic violence hotline at 800-799-7233 or text the word “start” to 88788.

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Music by Tim Crowe

In this episode of 1 in 3, Ingrid sits down with Becca to unpack how reconnecting with someone from her past quickly escalated into coercive control, domestic violence, and physical abuse—and ultimately led to the devastating discovery of grooming and sexual assault against her child.

Becca walks us through the timeline in clear, unflinching detail: intense love-bombing and a rushed marriage, early red flags during pregnancy, isolation and alcohol-fueled conflict during COVID, and the shift from gaslighting to physical violence. Everything changes when her child discloses the abuse—forcing Becca to make urgent decisions to protect her children and involve law enforcement.

From there, we go inside the criminal justice process, breaking down what survivors rarely hear explained: investigation barriers like hospital privacy laws and unstable housing, how missed leads can stall cases, and how a single Facebook message helped police locate the suspect. Becca explains the long months of court delays, mental health evaluations, a public defender change, and what a tier three sex offender designation and no-contact orders mean for long-term safety.

Beyond the courtroom, this conversation focuses on healing and prevention—how to recognize coercive control early, why abuse often escalates during pregnancy, and what grooming can look like when it hides behind “friendship.” Becca also shares why she’s working to terminate parental rights, how therapy is helping her children regain confidence, and the truth every survivor needs to hear:

It’s not your fault.

If any part of this story mirrors your own, you are not alone.
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1 in 3 is intended for mature audiences. Episodes contain explicit content and may be triggering to some.

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If you are in the United States and need help right now, call the national domestic violence hotline at 800-799-7233 or text the word “start” to 88788.

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Music by Tim Crowe

What if the most dangerous abuse leaves no bruises?

In this episode of 1 in 3, Ingrid is joined by Dr. Lisa to unpack coercive control—a form of abuse that often hides behind charm, faith language, and “helpful” or respected personas. We explore how relationships that begin with love bombing, future faking, and devotion slowly shift into gaslighting, DARVO, isolation, and financial dependence, causing even the most capable people to doubt their own reality.

This conversation breaks down why focusing on labels like narcissist or sociopath can distract from what truly matters: patterns of behavior over time. Dr. Lisa explains why couples counseling is often unsafe in abusive relationships, how therapeutic language can be weaponized, and how spiritual gaslighting keeps survivors over-functioning, compliant, and silent.

Grounded in lived experience, we name the tactics of coercive abuse—including isolation disguised as romance, submission framed as faith, and love bombing used as data mining. Most importantly, we map a way forward. You’ll learn how to recognize coercive control, document behavioral patterns, rebuild financial clarity, and measure real change through sustained actions—not apologies.

Whether you’re staying, questioning, or planning an exit, you deserve informed choices, safety, and a life aligned with your values.

If this episode resonates, share it with someone who needs language for what they’re experiencing. Subscribe, leave a review, and help others find these life-saving conversations.

Dr. Lisa’s links:

https://www.1in3podcast.com/guests/dr-lisa-dawn-fox/

https://www.shadowandsoul.com/

https://www.instagram.com/shadowandsoul_

https://www.linkedin.com/in/drlisadawnfox/

1 in 3 is intended for mature audiences. Episodes contain explicit content and may be triggering to some.

Support the show

If you are in the United States and need help right now, call the national domestic violence hotline at 800-799-7233 or text the word “start” to 88788.

Contact 1 in 3:

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Cover art by Laura Swift Dahlke
Music by Tim Crowe