What if the most dangerous abuse leaves no bruises?

In this episode of 1 in 3, Ingrid is joined by Dr. Lisa to unpack coercive control—a form of abuse that often hides behind charm, faith language, and “helpful” or respected personas. We explore how relationships that begin with love bombing, future faking, and devotion slowly shift into gaslighting, DARVO, isolation, and financial dependence, causing even the most capable people to doubt their own reality.

This conversation breaks down why focusing on labels like narcissist or sociopath can distract from what truly matters: patterns of behavior over time. Dr. Lisa explains why couples counseling is often unsafe in abusive relationships, how therapeutic language can be weaponized, and how spiritual gaslighting keeps survivors over-functioning, compliant, and silent.

Grounded in lived experience, we name the tactics of coercive abuse—including isolation disguised as romance, submission framed as faith, and love bombing used as data mining. Most importantly, we map a way forward. You’ll learn how to recognize coercive control, document behavioral patterns, rebuild financial clarity, and measure real change through sustained actions—not apologies.

Whether you’re staying, questioning, or planning an exit, you deserve informed choices, safety, and a life aligned with your values.

If this episode resonates, share it with someone who needs language for what they’re experiencing. Subscribe, leave a review, and help others find these life-saving conversations.

Dr. Lisa’s links:

https://www.1in3podcast.com/guests/dr-lisa-dawn-fox/

https://www.shadowandsoul.com/

https://www.instagram.com/shadowandsoul_

https://www.linkedin.com/in/drlisadawnfox/

1 in 3 is intended for mature audiences. Episodes contain explicit content and may be triggering to some.

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Cover art by Laura Swift Dahlke
Music by Tim Crowe

The most dangerous abusers aren’t always loud. Sometimes they appear kind, generous, and adored—until the door closes. In this episode, Ingrid sits down with Mia Hanks, author and survivor of covert narcissistic abuse, to unpack life with a narcissist: from the dizzying highs of love bombing to the slow drain of gaslighting, blame-shifting, and identity erasure.

Mia shares practical tools for recognizing abuse, why couples therapy can backfire, and how to safely plan a low-contact exit. She also explores the messy, hopeful work of rebuilding: reclaiming your voice, making independent choices, and finding freedom after abuse.

If you or someone you love is navigating narcissistic abuse, this episode offers validation, guidance, and red flags to watch.

Mia’s links:

https://www.1in3podcast.com/guests/mia-hanks/

https://miajhanks.com/

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hHp52nlNorg

https://www.instagram.com/npd.andme/

https://www.amazon.com/Bride-Made-Memoir-Mia-J-Hanks/dp/B0CVC322MF/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&dib_tag=se&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.loREoGm50wrUS4v546Y8eKVjM5nQbYpFDitnLmtuIHwXuuS0AATtGKvUqvzg-oalCZuLRigPdqPUkta4OiWzSg.nsfFC9-W7XAl_LEEZgPdfcZMv8SlXPmXvNVFVtshnkc&qid=1752202383&sr=8-1

https://www.tiktok.com/@npdandme

1 in 3 is intended for mature audiences. Episodes contain explicit content and may be triggering to some.

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If you are in the United States and need help right now, call the national domestic violence hotline at 800-799-7233 or text the word “start” to 88788.

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Cover art by Laura Swift Dahlke
Music by Tim Crowe

What if justice isn’t a courtroom verdict, but the peace that comes from telling the truth?

On this episode of the 1 in 3 Podcast, Ingrid sits down with Kath Essing, author of The Courage to Speak Your Truth: Shifting the Narrative on Childhood Sexual Abuse, for a powerful conversation about healing when the legal system cannot deliver a conviction.

Kath shares how suppressed memories of childhood sexual abuse resurfaced in adulthood, why survivors often shift their language from “abuse” to “rape,” and how reclaiming accurate words can be a critical step in trauma recovery. She walks us through an 18-month police investigation, the emotional precision required during a four-hour official statement, and a facilitated call with her abuser—a moment that allowed her to reclaim her voice and return misplaced shame.

Together, Ingrid and Kath unpack the myths that keep survivors silent, including the “stranger danger” narrative, misconceptions about what perpetrators look like, and the unrealistic expectation that survivors must present as a “perfect witness.” Kath also explains how poetry and writing became a lifeline—capturing moments of crisis with clarity and helping loved ones fully understand her experience.

This episode explores the layered path to healing from sexual trauma, including talk therapy, somatic work, meditation, medication when needed, and daily practices that support mind, body, and spirit. Kath shares how she transformed resentment into connection through storytelling—and how naming the truth created space for peace.

As a mother, Kath discusses how to break cycles of abuse without fear-mongering: trusting intuition, maintaining open communication with children, and teaching that speaking up is an act of strength. The conversation also covers historical sexual abuse reporting, emerging technology that links survivor reports, and the importance of setting personal goals for reporting to make the process empowering rather than retraumatizing.

If you or someone you love is navigating childhood sexual abuse, suppressed memory, trauma recovery, or reporting historical abuse, this episode offers practical insight, hard-won wisdom, and a grounded reminder: you deserve peace.

If this episode resonates, subscribe to the 1 in 3 Podcast, share it with someone who needs support, and leave a review to help more survivors find this resource.

Kath’s links:

https://www.bespeak.au/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/kathessing/

https://www.instagram.com/kath_essing

https://www.facebook.com/bespeakconsultancy

https://www.amazon.com.au/Courage-Speak-Your-Truth-Narrative/dp/0648758060

1 in 3 is intended for mature audiences. Episodes contain explicit content and may be triggering to some.

Support the show

If you are in the United States and need help right now, call the national domestic violence hotline at 800-799-7233 or text the word “start” to 88788.

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Thank you for listening!

Cover art by Laura Swift Dahlke
Music by Tim Crowe