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Many people don’t struggle to find love: they struggle to recognise what healthy love actually feels like.

In this episode, I talk about a pattern I see again and again:
people confusing peace with boredom, and calm with lack of attraction.

If your nervous system is used to intensity, emotional highs, or unpredictability, calm can feel unfamiliar, even uncomfortable. And when that happens, many people unknowingly walk away from healthy, stable partners and chase relationships that recreate familiar chaos.

In this episode, I break down:

• Why calm often feels “wrong” after toxic or emotionally intense relationships
• The physical signs of peace vs boredom in the body
• How nervous system dysregulation shows up as “chemistry”
• Why boredom feels heavy and restless, while peace feels open and grounded
• How misreading your body keeps you stuck in unhealthy relationship cycles

I also explain why your body already knows the difference between peace and boredom, you just haven’t been taught how to listen to it yet.

Healthy love doesn’t come with constant intensity.
It comes with safety, steadiness, and ease.

And once you learn that language, your dating choices change.

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If you’re ready to stop chasing anxiety and start choosing healthy love, take the Love Loop Quiz it gives you tailored guidance based on your patterns and nervous system.

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Just because someone is family doesn’t mean they get to treat you badly.

With recent headlines about famous families falling out — including Brooklyn Beckham many people are quietly asking the same question:

When to know if your family are getting in the way of your happiness?

What do you do when your own family keeps triggering you, but going no-contact isn’t realistic?

In this episode, I explore how to set boundaries with family without cutting everyone off, especially when family dynamics are dysregulating your nervous system and impacting your confidence, relationships, and dating life.

This is a topic that comes up again and again with my clients and it’s deeply personal for me too.

I share my own story of setting boundaries from a young age, not to seek sympathy, but to remind you of something important:

👉 If an 11-year-old can recognise mistreatment, you as an adult are allowed to protect yourself too.

In this episode, we cover:

• The 3 key signs your family dynamics are dysregulating your nervous system
• Why families often avoid accountability and how that affects you
• How your personal growth can threaten others
• Why familiar family pain can influence who you’re attracted to romantically
• How to reduce contact safely without going no contact
• Practical ways to keep conversations neutral and protect your energy
• How setting boundaries in family relationships helps you build healthier romantic relationships

This episode is for you if:

• You feel anxious, guilty, or emotionally drained after family interactions
• You’ve been told to tolerate behaviour “because they’re family”
• You’re healing, going to therapy, or working on yourself and getting mocked or dismissed
• You want healthy love but keep repeating familiar emotional patterns

Healthy relationships don’t start with dating.
They start with the relationships already shaping your nervous system.

Want support?

If you’d like help navigating boundaries, healing family patterns, and building healthy, aligned relationships, there’s a free call link here - where I’ll walk you through the exact process I use with my clients.

You have everything to gain and nothing to lose.

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If you’ve ever set goals at the start of the year only to feel deflated, stuck, or frustrated by mid-January: this episode is for you.

In this solo episode, I (Sam Morris) walk you through a clear, practical process for setting goals that don’t rely on motivation or willpower, but instead work with your nervous system, your beliefs, and your real life.

This is the exact framework I use with my one-to-one clients, especially those who want to heal, build confidence, and finally experience healthy love.

In this episode, we cover:

• Why most New Year’s resolutions don’t work
• How to set one powerful goal without overwhelm
• Identifying the beliefs, fears, and patterns that block progress
• The skills and support you actually need to succeed
• How to schedule change so it becomes inevitable
• Why self-discipline matters more than motivation
• A guided visualisation to help your nervous system lock in the outcome

We also talk about why success leaves clues: from authors like J.K. Rowling to athletes like David Beckham and how consistency, not perfection, is what changes lives.

💗 Your Next Step

If you notice that you:

• Keep repeating the same relationship patterns
• Feel stuck choosing the “wrong” people
• Want healthy love but don’t know what you’re doing wrong

I’ve created a free Love Loop Quiz that shows you exactly what’s happening beneath the surface and how to change it.

👉 Use the link below to get instant access.

Love Loop quiz

This process works.
You don’t need more pressure.
You need the right steps, in the right order.

Your year isn’t just hopeful.
It’s already in motion.

Find out how to change those patterns with the love loop quiz