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Many people don’t struggle to find love: they struggle to recognise what healthy love actually feels like.

In this episode, I talk about a pattern I see again and again:
people confusing peace with boredom, and calm with lack of attraction.

If your nervous system is used to intensity, emotional highs, or unpredictability, calm can feel unfamiliar, even uncomfortable. And when that happens, many people unknowingly walk away from healthy, stable partners and chase relationships that recreate familiar chaos.

In this episode, I break down:

• Why calm often feels “wrong” after toxic or emotionally intense relationships
• The physical signs of peace vs boredom in the body
• How nervous system dysregulation shows up as “chemistry”
• Why boredom feels heavy and restless, while peace feels open and grounded
• How misreading your body keeps you stuck in unhealthy relationship cycles

I also explain why your body already knows the difference between peace and boredom, you just haven’t been taught how to listen to it yet.

Healthy love doesn’t come with constant intensity.
It comes with safety, steadiness, and ease.

And once you learn that language, your dating choices change.

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