In this episode Rabbis Jeffrey, Matt, and Josh reflect together on how grief actually works: unevenly, unpredictably, and often shaped less by moral logic than by story, familiarity, and perceived relationship. Prompted by recent acts of violence and loss, they talk through why certain deaths—especially of public figures who have quietly accompanied us through decades of culture and art—can feel more piercing than other tragedies that are no less horrific. Drawing on Jewish tradition and lived experience, they explore the idea that mourning comes in layers, and that not all losses land on the heart in the same way.

As the conversation unfolds, they turn to harder questions about obligation and identity. Is there a responsibility to feelmore when Jews are targeted, or is mourning primarily a communal and ethical act rather than an emotional one? From there, the discussion broadens to Jewish peoplehood, rising antisemitism, and the exhaustion many rabbis feel when public Jewish life becomes dominated by defense and crisis, often at the expense of Torah, teaching, and spiritual depth. They end by naming the tension between particularism and universalism—not as a problem to solve, but as a defining, often uncomfortable feature of Jewish life, and part of what makes being Jewish so complicated, and so weird.

The episode opens with the perennial prompt, "What the hell is going on?" and uses a small, concrete moment—an eighth-grader's intense anti-cheating check at a standardized test—to probe larger cultural drift. Are we lowering the baseline of civility and trust, or simply confronting old human problems in new packaging? The hosts toggle between the granular and the global: fraying norms in U.S. and Israeli politics, the difference between safety theater and integrity, and the unsettling feeling that structures once thought stable are wobbling.

From there, the conversation tests three stances. One voice argues for historical moderation—by many measures the world is safer and fairer than in the past—while another insists that unprecedented anxieties are real, at least in our lifetimes. A third position says it may be stasis: humanity cycles through brutality and beauty. Jewish frames help hold these tensions—Kohelet's "nothing new," the dual memory of Sinai and the Golden Calf, "yeridat hadorot" versus the possibility of ascent, daily blessings that sanctify the mundane—alongside secular touchstones (evolution's cruelty, Viktor Frankl's meaning-making, and a Robert Hass passage on small consolations).

The three Rabbis landson agency as the Jewish answer to metaphysical fog. Even without messianic guarantees, a "1% hope" that suffering can be reduced obligates effort: ask better questions, act in one's community, and keep resetting the moral bar. The podcast's purpose, they conclude, is exactly this: to take big, destabilizing questions, run them through Jewish texts and practice, and emerge not with neat solutions but with clearer bearings—and a renewed charge to get to work.

What's the difference between happiness and joy—and does Judaism care? In this episode of Weird Being Jewish, Rabbis Matt Reimer, and Jeffrey Weill and Josh Rose discuss whether Jewish practice actually generates joy or just names it. Along the way, they question the American, individualist chase for "happiness" and weigh it against a communal, ethical frame.

You'll hear a sukkah open-house story, a meteor-shower moment that turns into a lesson about craving, and a spirited back-and-forth over aligning with "the Ultimate" versus focusing on doing the mitzvot right now—inviting guests, visiting the sick, making time for people. No neat answers, but sharp debate and practical takeaways: joy tends to show up where there's community, rhythm, and responsibility. If you've ever wondered whether the calendar can make you happier—or just more human—this one's for you.

Just before this past the High Holidays, Rabbis Matt, Jeff Weill, and Josh Rose wrestled with a blunt dilemma: when the world feels bleak, what belongs on the bimah—unvarnished realism, performative uplift, or a hard-won mix of both? They talk about shielding kids from despair, writing sermons that don't lie, and whether prayers for captives can honestly say "speedily" years in. Along the way they parse the difference between timeless petitions (peace, redemption) and policy-laden hopes, and ask what prayer means if God isn't a vending machine.

From machzor-as-cycle to Judaism-as-forward-motion, from teshuva as "return" to hope as an act of agency, they argue that perspective is one of the few things we truly control. Even in bad times, people still make music, love each other, and build meaning. The episode lands on a clear thesis: if you believe there's hope, you'll act like it—and that behavior is the point. Plus: Ned Flanders, Devo, and why ending in honesty might be the most Jewish move of all.

Rabbi Josh Rose and Rabbi Jeffrey Weill open with quick banter about The Clash—correcting a claim that Allen Ginsberg wrote broadly for Combat Rock (it was a spoken-word feature on "Ghetto Defendant")—then pivot to their real topic: Jewish peoplehood. They trade personal moments that made peoplehood feel tangible: a wild wedding hora, a teenage son's ecstatic trip to Israel, and the fantasy of a synchronized, worldwide Shema. Both admit strong, visceral bonds to other Jews, yet note how personality, humor, music, and shared culture can sometimes trump tribal ties in day-to-day affinity.

They then interrogate whether "peoplehood" exists or is better treated as an aspirational story worth preserving despite deep political and theological fractures. Weill recalls an Israeli guide who felt more kinship with an Arab Israeli bus driver than with U.S. Jews, raising questions about nationhood vs. Jewishness. He references Eric Alterman's We Are Not One to underscore disunity, while Rose argues the dream still has value even if the facts don't add up neatly. They close by distinguishing love for the Jewish collective from friction with particular Jews, debating "myth" vs. "dream," invoking (and nitpicking) Herzl's "If you will it…" line, and, fittingly, ending where they began—on music.

A freewheeling conversation about the weirdness of Jewish life: why Jewishness can feel both beautiful and isolating, how contemporary politics (especially around Israel) strain communal leadership and personal identity, and what the future might hold for Jewish knowledge and belonging. Honest, funny, and sometimes painful — friends trying to think out loud together.

The sound is a little uneven today - Rabbi Josh was calling in from a remote undisclosed location in Southern Oregon. We've done our best to make things sound ok.

The three (rabbinic) musketeers talk about music, religion and whether and which music should be part of Jewish prayer. Metal? Hip Hop? Traditional? Tune in to find out

It might surprise you to know that many Rabbis struggle with some of the Big Questions about the very fundamentals of Jewish religion. One of those - maybe the Biggest - is, "Is Judaism true?" The three rabbis take the question head-on, and gives their perspective. This is Part I of a to-be-continued exploration of The Truth. Enjoy.