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Two work besties thriving in their late 20s, (or attempting to). Relationships, work, family, society expectations... And the return of Lindsay Lohan. You know what they say: ”3rd time’s the charm!” Our goal is to make ”Fetch” happen.Copyright 2025 All rights reserved. Sozialwissenschaften
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  • 61. Should I start a Podcast? Hobbies in your late 20s

    61. Should I start a Podcast? Hobbies in your late 20s
    Oct 28 2026
    🎙️ Get a Hobby, Girl! — Your Late 20s Need a Little More Play 🎨🧶💅 Quick question: What do you do for fun? And no, scrolling TikTok, online shopping, going to brunch and having a minor existential crisis every Sunday evening don't all count as hobbies. 👀 Remember when we were kids and we'd randomly decide to become dancers, painters, singers or professional friendship bracelet makers? No qualifications. No five-year plans. Just ✨ vibes and questionable talent ✨. Fast-forward to our late twenties, and suddenly everything needs to be productive, profitable or worthy of a LinkedIn update. WHEN DID HAVING FUN BECOME SO COMPLICATED?! 😭 This week, we're entering our ✨ hobby era ✨ and discussing why having something you love outside of work, relationships and responsibilities might just be the secret to surviving adulthood. We're talking about the rise of grandma hobbies (crochet is hot, apparently 🧶), the psychology behind why hobbies make us happier, why we're obsessed with turning everything into a side hustle, and how to find a hobby that fits your budget, lifestyle and already overcrowded Google Calendar. And because we love a little self-reflection, we're using our very own podcast as a case study. What started as two work besties thinking "Should we start a podcast?" somehow turned into microphones, editing, research, questionable jokes and an actual audience. Who gave us permission?! 🎙️😂 ✨ Key Takeaways 🧠 Hobbies are good for your brain (and your sanity). Research links leisure activities with greater happiness, life satisfaction and overall wellbeing. 🧶 Grandma was onto something. Crochet, pottery, gardening, book clubs and other cosy hobbies are making a comeback. Apparently, being 28 is the new 78. 👯‍♀️ Hobbies can help you find your people. From run clubs to crafting circles, shared interests can turn strangers into friends. 💸 Not everything needs to be a side hustle. You can bake a cake without opening a bakery. You can enjoy reading without starting BookTok. Revolutionary, we know. 🤡 You're allowed to be bad at things. Your first painting can look like a crime scene. Your first podcast can sound like it was recorded inside a washing machine. That's part of the fun. 📅 Find a hobby that fits your actual life. Consider your budget, time, energy and whether you want social connection or some much-needed peace and quiet. 💕 Try the Three-Date Rule. Give a new hobby three attempts before deciding whether it's for you. Sometimes you don't hate the activity—you just hate being a beginner. 🎙️ Start before you're ready. If we'd waited until we knew exactly what we were doing, this podcast probably wouldn't exist. 💌 Your Homework Pick ONE thing you've always wanted to try. Book that pottery class. Join that run club. Dust off your old guitar. Start writing terrible poetry. Convince your bestie to start a podcast. And most importantly, give yourself permission to be spectacularly mediocre at it. No monetisation strategy. No personal brand. No pressure to become the next big thing. Just you, a new hobby and a little ✨ character development ✨. 📚 Resources & Sources 🧠 Scientific Research Kuykendall, L., Tay, L. & Ng, V. (2015). Leisure Engagement and Subjective Well-Being: A Meta-Analysis. Psychological Bulletin, 141(2), 364–403. Wheatley, D. & Bickerton, C. (2017). Subjective Well-Being and Engagement in Arts, Culture and Sport. Journal of Cultural Economics, 41, 23–45. Wheatley, D. & Bickerton, C. (2019). Measuring Changes in Subjective Well-Being from Engagement in the Arts, Culture and Sport. Journal of Cultural Economics, 43, 421–442. Keyes, H. et al. (2024). Creating Arts and Crafting Positively Predicts Subjective Wellbeing. Frontiers in Public Health. Putney, H. et al. (2024). Why Does Creativity Foster Well-Being? Autonomy, Competence, and Relatedness During Everyday Creative Activities. Journal of Research in Personality. 📊 Trends & Statistics Strava (2024). Year in Sport: The Trend Report. Exploring the growth of running clubs, group fitness and social connections through exercise. Eventbrite (2025). Fourth Spaces: Gen Z and Millennials Bridge Their Digital and Physical Worlds. Exploring the popularity of hobby-based communities and in-person activities. 🎧 Further Listening & Watching The Psychology of Your 20s — “Why Having Hobbies Is So Important” The Psychology of Your 20s — “You Need More Hobbies... Here's How You Do It” Quarter-Life Questions — “How to Find a Hobby as an Adult (And Why You Need One in Your 20s)” Teach Me How To Adult — “We Don't Have Hobbies Anymore... And It's Making Us Depressed & Bored” Tabitha Dell'Angelo — TEDx Talk: Act Your Age! How and Why to Play Like an Adult 🎧 So grab your headphones, abandon your productivity guilt and come have a little fun with us. Because your twenties aren't just for building a career, finding ...
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    47 Min.
  • 60. Is ‘the ick’ intuition or self-sabotage?

    60. Is ‘the ick’ intuition or self-sabotage?
    Oct 7 2026
    🎧 The Ick: Intuition or Self-Sabotage? 🤢💘🧠 He ran for the bus. He missed it. You watched the whole thing happen. And suddenly… you can never look at him the same way again. 😭 Welcome to THE ICK — that horrifying moment when someone you were perfectly attracted to does one tiny, inexplicable thing and your entire body responds with: absolutely not. But is the ick actually your intuition screaming “girl, RUN 🚩”… or is your brain desperately searching for an escape route because someone emotionally available had the audacity to like you back? 👀 In this episode, we're putting the ick under the microscope. 🔬 We’re looking at where the term came from, how Love Island and social media turned it into a dating phenomenon, and — plot twist — what actual psychological research has to say about it. We’re talking disgust, attraction, attachment, perfectionism, dating apps, choice overload, relationship self-sabotage and intuition to figure out whether your ick deserves to be trusted… or interrogated. Because there's a VERY big difference between: 🚩 “He is rude to waiters.” and 😭 “I saw him running with a backpack on.” One might be useful information. The other might require us to collectively log off TikTok. ✨ Key Takeaways 🤢 The ick is actually being studied. Recent psychological research describes it as a sudden feeling of disgust toward a potential romantic partner, often triggered by seemingly minor behaviours. 📊 You're definitely not alone. One 2025 study found that around 64% of participants had experienced the ick, with women reporting it more frequently than men. 🧠 Disgust has a purpose. Our brains evolved disgust responses partly to help us avoid threats — but that doesn't mean every disgust reaction is an accurate warning about someone's suitability as a partner. 🚩 An ick and a red flag are NOT the same thing. Disrespect, dishonesty, cruelty and incompatible values deserve attention. The way someone runs for the tram… perhaps less so. 🛡️ Sometimes the ick might be self-protection. If you suddenly start finding flaws the moment someone becomes emotionally available, vulnerability — rather than incompatibility — might be the real problem. 📱 Modern dating may be making us pickier. Research on online dating suggests that evaluating large numbers of potential partners can create a “rejection mindset,” where we're increasingly likely to say next. 💭 Your intuition isn't nonsense — but it isn't infallible either. Automatic feelings about our partners can contain meaningful information, but our reactions can also reflect fears, expectations, perfectionism and learned associations. 💘 Everyone is eventually cringe. Long-term intimacy means witnessing another human being run awkwardly, sneeze weirdly, wear questionable pyjamas and occasionally embarrass themselves. Unfortunately, babe… you are also somebody's potential ick. 🧪 Try our ICK CHECK™ Before throwing away a perfectly good situationship because they said “yummy”, ask yourself: What actually happened? Is this about my values or my aesthetics? Would it bother me if nobody else saw it? Did the ick appear when intimacy increased? Is this a one-off moment or a genuine pattern? Our final verdict? Listen to the ick — but don't automatically obey it. Your feelings are information. They aren't always instructions. 💅🏽 Sometimes your body is saying “danger.” 🚩 Sometimes it's saying “we're incompatible.” 💔 And sometimes it's saying “I just watched that man chase a ping-pong ball and I need 3–5 business days to recover.” 🏓😭 📚 Resources & Sources Collisson, B., Saunders, E. & Yin, C. (2025). The ick: Disgust sensitivity, narcissism, and perfectionism in mate choice thresholds. Personality and Individual Differences, 238, 113086. — One of the key empirical studies specifically investigating “the ick,” including its relationship with disgust sensitivity and perfectionism. Peel, R. & Caltabiano, N. (2021). The Relationship Sabotage Scale: An evaluation of factor analyses and constructive validity. BMC Psychology, 9, 146. — Research into relationship self-sabotage, including defensiveness, trust difficulties and relationship skills. Pronk, T. M. & Denissen, J. J. A. (2020). A Rejection Mind-Set: Choice Overload in Online Dating. Social Psychological and Personality Science, 11(3), 388–396. — Research examining how repeatedly evaluating potential partners online can increase rejection. Thomas, M. F., Binder, A. & Matthes, J. (2022). The agony of partner choice: The effect of excessive partner availability on fear of being single, self-esteem, and partner choice overload. Computers in Human Behavior, 126, 106977. — Research into what happens psychologically when dating apps make us feel like we have endless options. Peters et al. (2021). Newlywed Couples' Own and Partner Sexual Disgust Sensitivities Interact to Predict...
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    41 Min.
  • 59. Living La Vida Loca - Being in the Friendzone

    59. Living La Vida Loca - Being in the Friendzone
    Sep 23 2026

    You are not being dramatic. You may simply be in the friendzone. 😬

    This week on Trial & Error & Error, we’re unpacking the awkward, confusing, occasionally delusional world of unrequited feelings. What exactly is the friendzone? Why do admirers keep hanging around when the romantic memo has clearly been marked “no”? And why can the person doing the rejecting sometimes feel even worse? From back burners and emotional loopholes to “I’m not ready for a relationship” and the timeless classic, “You’re like a sibling to me,” we explore the psychology behind wanting to be loved, wanting to keep someone close, and mistaking intermittent attention for a grand romantic destiny.

    We also ask whether the friendzone is really the romantic dead-end pop culture makes it out to be. Spoiler: friendship is actually one of the most common ways romantic relationships begin. So perhaps the real problem isn’t friendship—it’s staying on the emotional waiting list long after the position has been filled. 🤔

    Expect research, personal stories, questionable romantic decisions, and at least one reminder that “he’s not that into you” is sometimes the closure you were waiting for.

    💡 Key Takeaways
    • The friendzone is less “no to the person” and more “no to romance.”
    • Admirers may stay because of hope, fantasy, emotional closeness, and intermittent rewards.
    • Rejectors can experience guilt, pressure, confusion, and their own kind of emotional discomfort.
    • “Back burners” are people kept in low-level romantic or emotional contact—just in case.
    • Friendship is not the enemy of romance: many relationships begin as friendships.
    • Clear communication and boundaries are kinder than keeping someone permanently on standby.
    • You cannot convince someone to choose you—and you shouldn’t have to.
    📚 Resources & Sources

    Stinson, Cameron & Hoplock (2022) — The Friends-to-Lovers Pathway to Romance Baumeister & Wotman — Breaking Hearts: The Two Sides of Unrequited Love LeFebvre et al. (2022) — Conceptualizing the Friendzone Phenomenon Bleske-Rechek et al. (2012) — Benefit or Burden? Attraction in Cross-Sex Friendship Back-burner relationship research — Dibble, Drouin and colleagues UAntwerpen research repository iResearchNet: Unrequited Love Psychology Today: “And You Think You’ve Got It Bad” The mental-health benefits of platonic relationships

    ‼️We apologize for the inconsistent audio quality in this episode. We recorded fully online, which caused some technical limitations and differences in sound quality between speakers. Thank you for your patience and understanding—and we hope you still enjoy the conversation! ❤️
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    47 Min.
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