We spend years optimizing everything on the outside while ghosting the one relationship running underneath all of it.

This episode kicks off July on The Raw Onion: the relationship between your brain and your body, the one most of us were never taught to notice, let alone tend to.

We get into:

• The vagus nerve and why most of its signals travel from body to brain, not the other way around
• The three nervous system states behind Dr. Stephen Porges' polyvagal theory
• How stress patterns get passed down through generations without a single shared experience
• Why the high achiever who undercharges or overdelivers might be running on inherited wiring rather than a confidence problem

In this episode, you will learn:

• Why your body registers the truth of a room, a person, or a meeting before your conscious mind catches up
• The three nervous system states (green, yellow, red) and how to notice which one you're running on most days
• How epigenetics allows a stress response to travel from one generation to the next
• Why familiar does not always mean safe, and how that shapes who and what we keep choosing
• What it actually takes to start listening to a body you've been overriding for years

🎙️ HOSTS: Stephanie Ohannesian, founder of Triage Coaching and Consulting, and Yoshie Barnett, Crossroads Coach at Lotus Flower Journeys

⏱️ CHAPTERS:

0:00 Welcome to July's series: The Relationship You Can’t Ghost

5:12 The brain and body as a two-way conversation

6:39 The vagus nerve and the 80/20 signal split

9:16 Polyvagal theory and the three nervous system states

11:10 Why so many of us live permanently in yellow

15:56 Epigenetics and inherited stress

20:09 The professional whose body panics before logic can step in

21:27 The entrepreneur who can't stop undercharging

23:49 A simple way to start listening again

25:27 What's ahead this July

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#BrainBodyConnection #NervousSystemRegulation #InheritedStress

We talk about voice like it's a soft skill. It isn't. It's wired into the nervous system, and for a lot of women, being seen has never felt safe.

Marta Spirk is a strategic speaking advisor, TEDx speaker, bestselling author, and professional singer who helps women entrepreneurs use speaking, storytelling, and visibility as tools for authority and business growth. She came on The Raw Onion to talk about what actually happens in the body when a woman tries to take up more space, and why "confidence" was never the real problem.

We get into:

• The neuroscience behind why women hesitate before self-promotion
• The difference between confidence and self-trust
• Why the voice is the only instrument controlled by both the voluntary and autonomic nervous systems
• The signature talk versus the elevator pitch
• Why repetition, not talent, is what actually builds the kind of presence people trust

In this episode, you will learn:

• Why women show higher amygdala activation around visibility, and why that's conditioning, not biology
• The difference between chasing confidence and building self-trust
• How the body gives away a dysregulated nervous system before a word is spoken
• How cultural upbringing shapes a woman's relationship with being seen
• Why repetition, not waiting to feel ready, is the actual bridge to feeling safe

🎙️ GUEST:

Marta Spirk, Strategic Speaking Advisor, TEDx Speaker, Bestselling Author of The Empowered Woman: The Ultimate Roadmap to Business Success, Professional Singer, Host of The Empowered Woman podcast

⏱️ CHAPTERS:

0:00 Meet Marta Spirk

3:44 Growing up loud

5:38 Becoming trilingual

8:21 Women and visibility

12:18 The amygdala and self-promotion

15:02 Confidence versus self-trust

16:52 The signature talk

20:19 The inner critic

23:30 Vulnerability in groups

30:43 Knowing your own content

37:23 The body and language

39:47 Discomfort and the real pain point

44:33 Cultural conditioning and saying no

52:35 Repetition and safety

59:10 Where to find Marta

🔗 CONNECT WITH MARTA SPIRK:

Website: MartaSpirk.com

Book: The Empowered Woman: The Ultimate Roadmap to Business Success

Podcast: The Empowered Woman

LinkedIn: Marta Spirk

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#PermissionToBeSeen #MulticulturalVoices #SelfTrustOverConfidence

You've worked twice as hard to get half the credit. You sat in rooms where no one looked like you, no one led like you, and no one understood what it cost you to show up. And you did it anyway.

Adyna K. Pressley is a global women's leadership architect, award-winning author, keynote speaker, founder of Queens Royale, and host of the Pressley on Purpose podcast. With more than 30 years of corporate leadership experience, she built her life's work on one truth: leading from truth, not performance.

We get into:

• What it felt like to be the only Black woman in executive leadership
• Why performing eventually became physically unsustainable
• The moment she chose to speak up knowing it might cost her everything
• The science underneath why generational elevation happens in the body first
• What it sounds like when Oprah gives you eight minutes she only promised you two

In this episode, you will learn:

• Why the brain learns that performing is safe and authenticity is risky
• How exhaustion signals that two versions of you are running in opposite directions
• Why speaking from truth does not mean starting over

🎙️ GUEST:

Adyna K. Pressley, Global Women's Leadership Architect | Founder, AKP Inventions and Queen's Royale | Author, Rise Into You: Reclaiming Power, Love, Life and Legacy | Host, Presley on Purpose Podcast

⏱️ CHAPTERS:

0:00 Meet Adyna K. Pressley

5:08 Who were you before the title?

7:40 The only Black woman in the room

9:03 When he performed as a teammate

13:40 The system is the problem, not the woman

17:43 Hospitalized. Burned out. Done.

21:07 How she stayed grounded in the chaos

27:32 Never changed who she was, not once

33:17 "If he gets this job, I quit."

40:00 Generational elevation starts in the body

43:39 The science behind what she was already doing

48:22 Queens Royale: identity you can wear

59:43 A solo train ride and a book was born

1:01:52 How she ended up on Oprah

1:06:43 Adyna's closing message

🔗 CONNECT WITH ADYNA K. PRESSLEY:

Book: Rise Into You

Website: adynakpressley.com

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LinkedIn, Facebook, Instagram, YouTube: Adyna K Pressley

Podcast: Pressley on Purpose

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#AuthenticLeadership #TruthOverPerformance #WomenAcrossCultures

Reece Soltani was at the top of the table at a billion-dollar organization doing serious work for refugees on a global scale.

And she still felt like she couldn't make a dent in it.

"So why am I here?"

That question changed everything.

She did everything right. Master's degree. Fortune 500 consulting. Billion-dollar nonprofit. But she felt very unhappy and purposeless in a way she couldn't fully explain.

So she left.

"I want to build something with my hands and feel it and literally be able to see what I just made."

And that became Chachi's.

This one goes into the places most career conversations never touch. The hollowness behind the highlight reel. The cost of impact you can never see. And the quiet courage it takes to start over.

In this episode, you will learn:

• Why achieving everything you were supposed to want can still leave you feeling empty
• How unfinished stress cycles quietly fuel burnout from the inside
• What it really costs to stay in a life that fits on paper but not in your body
• Why walking away from security can be an act of honor, not betrayal
• How connection and community become the unexpected bottom line in business
• Why a little productive delusion might be exactly what your next chapter needs

🎙️ GUEST:

Reece Soltani is the founder of Chachi's, a Los Angeles sandwich shop building toward franchise expansion and retail. Prior to Chachi's, she spent nearly a decade as a consultant and strategic advisor to Fortune 500 companies and executive teams before burning out and making a hard pivot into entrepreneurship.

⏱️ CHAPTERS:

0:00 Introduction

2:10 Meet Reece Soltani

3:37 What Success Was Supposed to Look Like

8:40 Living Inside the Picture-Perfect Life

9:50 The Feeling of Never Making a Dent

16:29 Stress Cycles and the Dopamine Connection

18:27 Wanting Something Tangible

21:15 Making the Leap

26:55 The People Who Made Chachi's Possible

28:21 The Line Out the Door on Day One

30:53 Universal Act of Care

36:28 Building a People-First Business

38:00 Heart, Soul, and the Loneliness Epidemic

39:27 Two Sides of the Same American Dream Coin

43:04 Building With a Village

46:09 Productive Delusion

50:30 Step One and Cutting Through the Noise

54:00 A Word For the Family Who Worries

56:14 Where to Find Reece Soltani and Chachi's

🔗 Connect with Reece

Website: www.eatchachis.com

Instagram: @eatchachis

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#WomenInBusiness #PeopleFirstBusiness #MultiCulturalWomen

The pressure to keep performing can make you forget who you are. In this episode, Renee Coover joins The Raw Onion to talk about what happens when career success, motherhood, and self-worth collide, and what it looks like to choose yourself before your body forces the issue.

Renee shares her journey from high-stakes legal work to a more aligned life, including the moment she realized that burnout was not just emotional, it was physical. We talk about career transitions, the illusion of safety, self-advocacy, and the courage it takes to rebuild after everything you thought defined you starts to fall away.

This conversation is for anyone who has ever questioned whether the path they are on still fits. If you have been pushing through exhaustion, doubting your next step, or wondering how to trust your inner voice again, Renee’s story offers both honesty and hope.

We get into:

• Career transitions and self-identity.
• Overcoming fear and self-doubt.
• The importance of self-advocacy and boundaries.
• Building confidence and resilience.
• The role of support systems and community.

In this episode, you will learn:

• Why burnout can show up in the body before it shows up in your decisions.
• How to tell when success no longer feels sustainable.
• Why a “power pause” can become a turning point.
• How yoga and meditation helped Renee reconnect with herself.
• What it means to bet on yourself and build something new.

🎙️ GUEST:

Renee Coover is the founder of Engage Law, a fractional outside general counsel who helps growing businesses navigate employment, regulatory, and operational matters with clarity and practical guidance.

⏱️ CHAPTERS:

00:00 Introduction

05:13 Renee's Story: From Big Law to Yoga Instructor

11:07 Listening to the Body and Making Decisions

19:52 Recognizing Opportunities in Life's Moments

25:06 Embracing Change and Taking Risks

37:20 Overcoming Fear of Risk and Embracing Change

47:22 Armoring Up for Yourself

55:28 Advocating for Yourself in the Workplace

01:05:52 Finding Your True Identity

🔗 CONNECT WITH RENEE:

LinkedIn: Renee Coover

YouTube: Engage Law

TED Talk: Taking Back Your Pregnancy Rights

Website: EngageLaw

🔗 CONNECT WITH STEPHANIE:

Website: Triage Coaching and Consulting

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🔗 CONNECT WITH YOSHIE:

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Free clarity call

🔗 The Raw Onion:

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Email: hello@therawonionpodcast.com

#WomenInBusiness #PowerPause #CareerGrowth

If you have ever felt like your body gave out before your mind was ready to stop, you are not alone in that experience.

And you are not broken.

What happened, neurologically and physiologically, has a reason. This episode is where we start to look at it.

We closed out the Roadmap to Resilience series with something different this episode. Stephanie brought her own story to the table, and what she’s spent the last decade trying to understand about what actually broke down, and why.

What we explored together:

Resilience is neurological, not just psychological. Culture tells us resilience means endurance, suppression, grinding through. Neuroscience tells us something completely different. It is recovery capacity. Flexibility. The ability of your nervous system to find its way back to safety after stress. Those are not the same thing.

Your body has been scanning for safety your entire life. There is a process happening beneath your awareness, constantly assessing your environment, your relationships, your inner state. When that process has been overridden by years of hustle, inherited messaging, or survival wiring passed down through your family, you lose access to your own signals. You stop trusting what your body is telling you. And that is when collapse becomes possible.

What you inherited may not belong to you. The hypervigilance. The head-down, don’t rock the boat, keep working until someone notices. The inability to rest without guilt. For many of us, those were not choices we made. They were patterns absorbed from the people who came before us, people who needed those patterns to survive. The question is whether those same patterns are serving you now, or quietly running the show without your knowing.

Identity and resilience are not separate conversations. If you don’t know what belongs to you, if your values have been borrowed from a workplace or a family system or a culture that taught you to earn your worth, your system has nothing stable to return to. Resilience requires somewhere to land.

Curiosity is where it starts to shift. Not a program. Not a fix. Just the willingness to ask: what is this trying to tell me? What engine am I actually running on, and is it mine?

We are not here to tell you what is wrong with you.

We are here because what is happening in your body, your brain, your burnout, your exhaustion, your sense that something is off even when nothing looks broken from the outside, has a reason. And that reason is rewritable.

We will be back next week in a new format. Video is coming, and we are stepping into a new series exploring women in business.

Until then, you are more resilient than you think.

If something in this episode is still sitting with you:

Wondering if what you’re carrying might be inherited, not yours? Stephanie works with high-performers ready to remap what’s been running them.

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Feeling like you're at a crossroads and not sure which layer to look at first? Yoshie works with people who are ready to get curious about what's underneath.

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Something happened to Stephanie recently that opened this whole conversation.

She was helping her mom out of a building. Blinkers on. Gone in under a minute. By the time she turned around, a stranger was photographing her license plate, shaking, then screaming, then in tears.

It was not about the car.

We have all felt it lately. Conversations that turn sharp fast. Small moments carrying weight they shouldn’t. Everyone just one thing away from the edge.

So we had to ask: why does everything feel like an emergency right now?

Your brain was not built for 24/7 global threat exposure.

For most of human history, threats were local. Your nervous system would activate, you would respond, and then you would recover. The stress cycle completed. Today, that loop never closes.

Layer in something that is not being talked about enough right now: collective betrayal. Not just disappointment. Betrayal is what happens when a source of perceived safety becomes a source of threat. Your brain, which runs on prediction, experiences that as a full internal alarm. All at once.

And your negativity bias, your attention being hijacked by outrage and breaking news? That is not a flaw. It is ancient survival wiring being deliberately exploited.

Many of us are living in partial activation. Not panicking, not at rest. Just simmering. Cortisol running with nowhere to go. Irritable. Fatigued. Low-grade hopeless.

That is not weakness. That is a nervous system that has been fed urgency until it cannot tell the difference anymore.

This series is about discernment. Not looking away, but developing the filter that the world is actively working against.

It starts with one question:

What are you consuming that your nervous system is experiencing as a threat?

And what would shift, automatically, if clarity guided your attention instead of urgency?

Next week, in Part 2, we turn toward a tender possibility: that some of what you are carrying right now may not even be yours.

Subscribe so you don’t miss Part 2.

What is one thing your system is treating as a threat that might not need to be?

There’s this moment after a snake sheds its skin where it doesn’t immediately move. It’s not stuck. It’s not weak. It’s recalibrating.

And there’s a good chance that’s exactly where you are right now.

In our “The Recode: From Skin to Stride” series, we’re living in the last weeks of the Year of the Snake before the Fire Horse arrives on February 17th. The space between shedding and moving is where most of us get lost.

Last week we talked about the shed itself. Why you’re not who you were anymore. Why awareness alone can feel exhausting. But shedding doesn’t automatically tell you what matters now. It just removes what no longer fits.

This week’s episode is about what happens after awareness. When your internal operating system begins to reorganize itself. When the pause becomes mandatory, not because you’re failing, but because your brain needs time to dismantle old predictive models.

When Values Reorder

Your values don’t disappear when you put yourself first. They reorder. And once values reorder, behavior has to follow. That’s not selfishness. That’s recoding.

The brain needs rest to declutter. Without it, your brain defaults back to the old identity because it’s cheaper and safer. The pause isn’t a problem. It’s the solution.

The question that matters most right now: Whose disappointment feels louder than my own needs?

That question is usually where the recode is happening.

Between the Snake and the Horse

Snake energy teaches us awareness. Horse energy teaches us movement. But there’s a pause between the two, and this is that episode.

The stride comes next. But this week, we’re honoring the pause. Because you’re not lost. You’re recalibrating. And the nervous system knows exactly what it’s doing, even when it feels like you don’t.

What do you value now that you didn’t before?

Which pause are you honoring this week?

Say “no” once, rest once, or name one old pattern you’re shedding. Let’s witness each other’s recalibration.