Ms. Navia is a pillar in the Dallas community of femme dominants; not only has she been a part of ClubFEM for 15 years, but she also holds the position of the current headmistress. Today we discuss the misconceptions that some may have about what a dominant femme is supposed to look like, act like, and sound like; we're not all man-hating bitches from hell! We also like to slink around in our PJs too sometimes!

We dove into one of my favorite topics to discuss: BDSM is NOT all about sex, how to handle an individual who lacks respect, and some of the qualities you may learn about yourself by exploring the right or the left side of the slash. Go ahead and indulge yourself by tuning into the stream here or on the YouTube channel here. (https://youtu.be/kQFm-TADkOU)

If you would like to visit the website for the blog post, visit https://thepsychoe.com

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If you would like to find more of Ms. Navia, find her links below.

FetLife

(https://fetlife.com/users/155630?sp=1)

ClubFEM Dallas FetLife

(https://fetlife.com/groups/156533)

ClubFEM International

(https://clubfem.com)

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Music is Face In It by @FallenforAutumn on Instagram

What is love? Is it a feeling? Is it an experience? A force unseen? Maybe it's a mindset? Or even, a spiritual practice..

“I believe that sex is the most direct pathway to our deepest healing and the fulfillment of our deepest human yearnings for connection and love. When we lose access to this erotic and sexual aspect of ourselves we cut ourselves off from a part of life that holds the power to deeply heal us.” -Susan Morgan Taylor

Love, also known for being the greatest healing force in our lives, is dynamic and can manifest itself in a multitude of fashions. Love is tender, love is kind, but love is also motherfucking violent and abrasive at times. No more of this passive form of love; love is an act that must be refined time and time again. For some, it is easy to express their love for whatever the occasion calls for, and for others, finding your expression can be difficult at times. You will doubt yourself, you will think you're "doing it all wrong"; but all of the preconceived ideas of what love might be, or look like, just don't apply to every situation we're faced with over our lifespans. Susan and I consider what love may look like in a diverse set of situations and what it takes to truly BE in a state of love.

Question.. have you ever been hit with a wave of emotion during a sexual experience? Did you stop what you were doing? Did you cry it out? Laugh it out? Scream it out? Susan points out that our hearts and our genitals are very closely intertwined, and that as our hearts open and release, so do our genitals. When we invite all that it is we are feeling into our sexual practice, we get to experience new and deeper levels of vulnerability and physically MAKE love.

Enjoy the episode, it's quite the trip.

To find more of Susan:

Find the full video here.

Sadly, our four-part series is closing out, but on the bright side, Dr. Ray and I discuss a beautiful piece of our lives that we both share. Coming from wildly different backgrounds and generations, we find a middle ground as it pertains to BDSM. The beauty within this realm of play is something unimaginable until you decide to take the leap.

We begin off by discussing the origins of our sexualities and where our kinks come from; you'd be surprised where your comes from and how it develops throughout our lifespans, but understanding why we like what we like, our thoughts become a little bit more tolerable, enough to maybe even try some of them!

Other topics covered are things like BDSM types of play, power dynamics and exchanges, cathartic release during scenes, communications, contracts, checklists, safety protocols, and last, but not to be forgotten.. BDSM is NOT therapy! It is a place to experience our vulnerabilities with those that we trust on the deepest of levels.

I'm positive that you all will enjoy this episode just as much as we did. It's packed with love, laughter, and lots and lots of eroticism! Enjoy.

Stay tuned for future episodes by following The PsycHoe on the social medias found on my website: The PsycHoe.

Find more of Dr. Darrel Ray below:

Twitter

Recovering From Religion

The Secular Therapy Project

The Secular Sexuality Podcast Facebook

Or by checking out his books on the links below!

Music is Face In It by @fallenforautumn on Instagram