In this episode of The Modern MILF Podcast, I share what it means to decenter men in your love life—without rejecting relationships or connection. I help you unpack how centering your own identity, needs, and autonomy fosters healthier relationships, what ethical dating looks like in practice, and how to dismantle traditional gender expectations that leave women carrying emotional labor. Featuring research-backed insights from psychology and feminist theory, this episode gives tools for dating consciously, compassionately, and with full self-respect.

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*Trigger Warning* This episode contains topics of grooming, sexual assault, and sexual predators. This episode does not contain details of events regarding sexual assault.

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https://www.cbsnews.com/news/les-wexner-jeffrey-epstein-house-testimony/

https://www.pbs.org/newshour/politics/billionaire-les-wexner-is-being-deposed-in-the-epstein-files-probe-heres-what-documents-show-about-their-relationship

https://www.wosu.org/politics-government/2026-02-10/epstein-files-name-les-wexner-as-co-conspirator-in-2019-sex-trafficking-investigation

In this episode, we explore sexual desire types — spontaneous, responsive, contextual, and emotional — and how they differ from person to person. Learn how practicing sexual mindfulness, based on guidance from therapists and psychologists, can help you better understand and empower your own desire. Includes a practical mindfulness exercise and expert insights to deepen your connection with your body and desires.

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