In this reflective post–Valentine’s Day episode, I explore how getting clear on your needs, preferences, and emotional desires can transform every relationship in your life - romantic, familial, and friendships alike.

Through personal stories and gentle self-inquiry, this conversation highlights the difference between vague traits and lived experiences, the power of identifying non-negotiable needs, and how clarity strengthens self-assurance. When you know what you truly want and believe you’re worthy of it, rejection feels less personal, communication becomes easier, and you show up more authentically as yourself.

This episode is a reminder that clarity isn’t about control or perfection, it’s an evolving act of self-kindness.

The goal isn’t to find the perfect relationship. The goal is to know yourself well enough that whatever relationships you’re in feel honest, safe, and aligned with who you are.

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In Part 2 of this conversation with Ashlea Dillard, firefighter-paramedic turned Licensed Professional Counselor and Certified Clinical & Transpersonal Hypnotherapist, we move from understanding stress and survival mode into what healing actually looks like.

Ashlea shares how people-pleasing often develops as a coping strategy, why so many women struggle to prioritize themselves without guilt, and what it truly means to advocate for your own needs. We also explore the role of the subconscious mind in shaping beliefs and behaviors, and how hypnotherapy can help create meaningful, lasting shifts.

This episode is about permission — permission to take up space, to listen to your inner voice, and to choose yourself without apology.

In Part 2 We Discuss:

🩵 Destigmatizing "showing up for yourself”

🩵 The subconscious mind and how belief patterns are formed

🩵 How hypnotherapy supports emotional healing and behavioral change

🩵 What sensitivity as a strength looks like in day-to-day life

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What happens when a highly sensitive woman builds a career in one of the most high-stress, male-dominated professions and begins to realize her body is paying the price?

In Part 1 of this two-part conversation, I’m joined by Ashlea Dillard, firefighter-paramedic turned Licensed Professional Counselor and Certified Clinical & Transpersonal Hypnotherapist. We explore what it was like for her to navigate emotional depth in a culture that often rewards emotional suppression, and how years of emergency response impacted her nervous system, energy, and hormones.

This episode dives into the physiological side of sensitivity and why chronic stress can leave women exhausted, disconnected from rest, and questioning their capacity. Ashlea shares powerful stories from her time on the job, including moments where her sensitivity became her greatest strength rather than something to hide.

If you’ve ever felt “too emotional,” chronically tired, or stuck in survival mode, this conversation will help you understand what’s happening beneath the surface.

In Part 1 We Discuss:

🩵 Being a highly sensitive woman in a male-dominated profession

🩵 Chronic stress and survival mode

🩵 Emotional suppression and the enormous physical energy it requires

🩵 Early warning signs your body is asking for change

Stay Tuned for Part 2

In the second half of this conversation, we explore people-pleasing, self-advocacy, and how hypnotherapy works with the subconscious mind to create lasting change.

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